January 2012-Close encounters of the third trimester kind.... Too much nesting not enough resting!

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Here we go ladies. A shiney new thread.

For anyone interested in following the strep B thread

karmanna Welcome!

brownwolf moan away. Lord know I do!

cakes Give DH a hug from me. My DH wodners quite why I put up with the shit I get from my parents, and so do I sometimes, but at least I know they love me, even if they are a bit erm, mental!

Not much to report today. Mild sypmtoms of a UTI. Also with the aching. Everything's aching. Head, back, belly, bump, ankle!!, arm and shoulder. Earlyish night methinks, OMG even the though of a shower's making me .

giraffe it was this kind of thing www.chiarafashion.co.uk/Strapless-Plain-Black-Maxi-Dress.html (with a cardigan)

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hey all,

A very warm welcome to you Karmanna.

I have dropped one of my courses. I emailed my bosses today and since then it's all been sorted, the relief is emmense. Gotta put me and Baby first. I can't tell you how much of diffeent person I feel now-the weight has been lifted off my shoulders!

I posted this offer a while back but no-one commented. I'd appreciate it if you'd let me know if you think it's a good deal, I'm seriously tempted by it but I can't tell if it's just shiny baby kit syndrome. I need a new bag anyway and have been looking for one. I like the goodies in this one too. www.bounty.com/bountyoffersltb

Thanks for the support guys. I don't know what I'd do without you all to talk to.

FiL decided to drive all the way down here (2 hours or more) to 'sort things out'. What a twunt, doesn;t he realise that these sort of 'grand gestures' don;t do anything to make it all alright again? Dh was sitting at the table sobbing because he just wanted to go to bed and pull the covers over his head and not have to deal with this shit any more and I ddn't know what to do. The only person in his whole family who doesn;t make him feel like crap is his step mum. Pretty sad situation if you ask me. He has a more loving relationship with my dad than he does with his own. His family is just so toxic, I wish he could cut them off, but he can;t reconcile that action with his sense of duty and what's right.

His family are prime candidates for Jeremy Kyle, none of them are happy unless they feel like they're living a storyline from Hollyoaks, I swear to God.

AIBU if I call him at 9pm to tell him he has to come home and help me get undressed? (The PGP is making it very painful, so it's not a sexy request or anything) Or should I just let them sort it out and hope he has the strength to tell his dad to bog off when he's had enough?

PS - fish - glad you feel better now you've dropped that course

giraffe - hope you sort the funeral gear. Could the vicar bring the communion to you like they do with old grannies?

cakes sorry i didn't aknowledge your issues with your FIL. I for one know how toxic parents can be. I hope it sorts itself out soon. x

fish - no worries. I don;t expect sympathy from everyone, just needed to have a rant.

On my playlist is a whole load of stuff including Le Onde by Einaudi, because his music sounds like DH when he just plays his own compositions on the piano. I also have Yo Yo Ma playing Bach's Cello Concerto because it breaks my heart in a good way and Vivaldi's 'Spring' because it's so uplifting. I also have some pop tracks that have meaning to DH and I, like Tracy Chapman's Fast Car, the song they use as the soundtrack to Gavin and Stacey and a song by Jason Mraz called 'Lucky' because that's how I feel about DH and I want Sproglet to know what a loving relationship s/he's come from :-)

Puking yet? You did ask...

Sorry fish I thought I had commented on that! As it doesnt tell you wahts in the bag, the bounty offer looks good as its a decent price for a bag (I've been considering it) just dont expect it to have everything you need like it claims to!

Just found a list of whats in the bag! If you need to buy a new bag then yes, but if you already have one then as you have to add so much stuff...I dont know, I wouldn't pay full price tho.

nah i wouldn't pay full price but i thought £30 quid wasn't too bad.

A freind has pointed out that I actually have everything on the list already, and shes right. I just liked it-I like the idea of it sat on top of wardrobe ready to go-dh needs that kind of simple instruction. Grab the spotty bag dear my waters have broken!

I forgot to mention LOOK what i got given by my osteopath www.bumpbag.co.uk/

It's bloody great, i have just had the comfiest evening I have had in months. Blissfull. She just gave it to me, what a sweetie.

MakesCakesWhenStressed - toxic parents, hum well know about mother in law who promises the world then delivers nothing. My dh has finally let her straw but it is his mother and took him 36 yrs to not pander. The light came on after she hit me earlier this year and let our ds down. Dh has been told that once this situation has been resolved she is not to be financially involved in our lives again. Hopefully he will come to his seances especially when it is his child involved. Try and not say anything I just seemed to make it worse by dissing her. but I hate seeing her praised and it has taken 16 years of us being together to realise that. Sending you some hugs anyway

That bump bag looks fab fish I might indulge myself once the extension is done!

I think the hospital bag looks great but that might be just because it looks so easy and I don't have anything yet.

Thanks Nanny - DH is fairly realistic about what his father is like, but just can't seem to get to the point where he realises he's better without him

I'm frigging exhausted today and my lower bump hurts so much. I could just crawl back into bed, but I have to go out and do stuff. Just one of those days I guess.

Hope you're all doing better than me :)

cakes sorry to hear about your family issues. I was discussing similar with someone at work who has issues with his in laws. I find it really difficult to understand families that seem to want all that conflict and drama - it always seems such a waste of energy.

MakesCakesWhenStressed - If your dh is like mine they won't let go totally. My dh was an only child and his father passed away 6 years ago. MIL since then has got more unreasonable. Both know they have little family and dh feels he can't reject his mum totally but is gradually distancing himself. I now leave him to get on with her by him self and don't encourage contact. She also has favorites with the grand children to which I think is really unfair and I have told the kids that she really isn't important and not to worry about this lady. My grandma was the same loved my older male cousin but when she was old it was me and my mum who looked after her and visited not him. Try not to let it get to you I know I often let it get to me and I am the one that gets hurt.

On other news ended up at causulty with dd2 who fainted and said she couldn't move her legs. After sitting in a& e for 3 hours she said she felt better but I felt so silly and poor dh had worried himself to tears ( which is so rare) both dh and dd2 are still upstairs sleeping. Arrrrgh! So tiered now but have my flu jab and an antenatal appointment today so can't put my feet up yet.

Hi all,

Have been AWOL for ages now, basically because life is so uneventful here I've got nothing to report. Pg proceeding normally, regular, movements intensifying in strength all the time. Having said that, I may be carrying an octopus rather than a human child, given the variety of places I get kicked/thumped, though generally I think is head down because round the cervix it seems more like scratching and under ribs more like kicking/leg movements - just generally bigger, IYSWIM.
Took myself off with a friend for a weekend to Vienna to see some exhibitions, which was nice, probably the last time I'll get away before B-Day - certainly won't be doing any more 6-hr car journeys, anyway... got a bit uncomfy towards the end.

Giraffe sorry to hear about your Dad's passing. Hope the funeral goes as well as possible, don't stress about clothes or communion, the vic will understand.

Cakes it was me who wanted the recipe so thanks loads, have copied it and will be trying it out.

Take care, y'all!

Morning everyone,

cakes so sorry to hear about your FiL. What a sad situation - I hope things improve for your poor DH.

nanny - oh lovely, a trip to a&e is just what you need! Hope DD is better - what a horrible thing to go through.

fish I have have bumpbag envy! After crawling round in a filthy attic for 30 mins last night I finally managed to find my pilates ball, but then didn't have the energy to pump it up. Quite tempted to ditch it and get a bag instead now!

oiesha hope you're aching less today. You've just reminded me that I need to get the results of a urine test I had done about 3 weeks ago (for leukocytes or something). I presume it's nothing too bad or they'd have called me, hopefully!

As for playlists, I suspect if we had one DH and I would have the most almight falling out! The only song we could agree on for our first dance was a Bob Dylan one (I Want You - having just reread the lyrics, they're a bit bonkers) and I actually don't really like Bob Dylan. DH wanted an Elliott Smith one, but I drew the line at a song about stalking. Then again, I suppose me bawling at DH to turn that cr*p off would probably take my mind off the pain!

Hope you all have a good/less bad day!

Morning all
Sorry to those having a hard time! Hopefully the next few weeks will fly by!

I'm not sure if I am just making myself paranoid or not... My movements still haven't increased. Yesterday I felt a few in the morning whilst at work, so trying not to worry - normally he wouldn't start jumping around until after lunch, then most of the evening.
Not had that for days.

I'm trying to concentrate this morning and focus on movements, not felt anything substantial yet. I have anterior placenta, and think he may just have moved position. Cold drinks and lying down on back etc, nothing helping. Last night I even managed to sleep most of the night, and woke up on my right side, in no discomfort whatsoever....

I'm off Thurs and Fri so might consider going to MW if no change by then. Then I tell myself, who cares about work, go asap. Then I think, if this was my 1st PG I wouldn't even be worrying!

On top of all this playing on my mind, my car was "fixed" yesterday then broke down again after 2mins leaving the garage! Then I get home to letters from Tax Credits demanding £1500 this time from 2009 - their amount keeps changing, then after 20mins on hold they cut me off.

One thing after another.
Mega stress on.
Sorry to rant, this is my haven!

Morning all,

butterfly I too am carrying an octopus-great description, I know exactly what you mean.

nanny sorry about your LO-how scary. I hope shes ok and it was just a blip, how old is she?

mia I'd get checked out if youre worried-it's been bothering you a few days now, better to be sure and put at ease than worry. If it helps at all movements are also reduced here, still getting them but much less frequent. I'm not worried, i'm sure it's because they simply have less room now. Seeing midwife today anyway.

:( As much as I coveted it as a "nice thing" I decided against the hospital bag-really cannot justify paying out £30 for something I already have in the main. I just need a new suitcase/bag is all the rest I have got already.

I'm loving the bumpbag-it's the best thing ever, could be somewhat counter productive to my energy levels for getting things done though-it's too easy to sink into and not so easy to get out of! (especially when there's chocolate involved)

I am totally rejuvinated after taking today and yesterday off sick-it's been bloody brilliant. I have had a hard time justifying it to myself because i'm not technically sick as it were just bloody stressed and tired. But now i have done it and I feel sooo much better I know it was the right thing.

Have some energy to get on with stuff today, I have 2 cupboards in my hall, one a proper understairs cupboard with a door and opposite I have an alcove where shoes and coats get dumped-somehere amidst the crap under the stairs is a shoe rack. I am going to clear the cupboard and dig that out-put it across the hall to alcove and put up an extra set of hooks lower down for dd to reach. Lo there will be 2 tidy cupboards and room for storing the pushchair.....
and I might even treat the car to a valet later! Easy there!

Have a good day all.

Morning all.

nanny Eeek! Scary stuff for your DD. I had an ex that this used to happen to. Started when he was about 5. Turns out he has a wonky vertibrae or similar, and that it occasionally pinches his spinal column causing temporary (for anything up to 20mins) paralysis. Scary stuff, only discovered because they actually managed to scan him whilst still paralysed, but he's leading a normal life. I hope it is nothing like this, and was just a wobble, but it's def. worth looking in to.

We have a leaking, something...shower (or bath) methinks. Damage in kitchen...
Frustrating as I've been telling DH and FIL (we rent of FIL) that the shower's been leaking for about 2 years, but have been ignored and told it must be the boiler...as that wokned out on us earlier this year. There's a bloody great hole in the celing now where we've been investigating (basically, previous owners put in a fake celing over the original artex, which has crumbled into black mould). So, that's going to be nice an expensive...though insurers willpay to replace water damage but not the investigation. They seem happy for FIL to do the investigations though, so YAY! Only small hitch is the entire bathroom is tiled...so if it isn't something simple like the outflow then this could get expensive AND mean I don't have a shower for a while...bathing's just not that easy anymore.

Bump's feeling less achey today and my wee seems to be back to normal, so, well, hey-ho! I am also afeared that Abi may not be human. She seems to be flinging about more constantly. I used to get a few hours break at work. Not so much anymore. Still reduced nerfings when I'm on my feet, but she's still bashing. Partly freaked by it, but keep having to tell myself it's normal and she's fine, she's just making herself more known as she's getting bigger.

Just work to get through. If they're as disorganised as they were yesterday when I "nipped in" for a meeting, then I'm in for fun.

TTYL all.

Oeisha -" Abi may not be human." that made me laugh my dh jokes bout that with Elliot to. Poor ds hates it is dh cuddles to close as I think we squash him so he kicks us. Dh felt him kick this time which made me so happy as he has never been abale to do that.

As for poor dd2 she is fine though she was shattered so she got a free pass of school today and will come with me to my antenatal appointment this pm which will be great as she has questions to ask the midwife.

Nanny hope if was a one of occurrence for dd.
Sorry to hear of the family troubles some of you are having. My dads mum had pretty much no contact with my family when I was a kid for various reasons but mainly because my parents refused to run around after her. Anyways after deciding she didn't want to live in the city anymore she told the housing association she only had family out here in the country. She lived around the corner from her other son in the city. She's been through here for over 15y now and had yet to step foot in my parents house. But they are expected to do her shopping everyweek because she decided to make herself housebound. She's perfectly healthy BTW.

Total bumpbag envy here too!! Dp and I had just been discussing how useful it would be for massage tables to have bump holes.
Have to wait 3weeks to see the physio for my back

Hope everyone is ok.
Spending today preparing for tommorrows big paint off. Will be soo glad when this house starts looking baby ready

Wooohooo NO gestational diabetes! Been to MW, heartbeat good and strong, my bp is fab (amazing what 2 days off will do) she didn't bother measuring bump because i'm having the growth scan on friday. Once again discussed VBAC V ELCS and she said ultimately it's my choice and if I put my foot down they have to do it.
VBAC clinic on 2nd Nov, the lady i'm seeing seems to have quite the reputation for being "very good" and knowing whats shes talking about-every medical member of staff I have spoken to about her has spoken of her with high acclaim.
forgot to sk about matb1 again though-damn it, have dentist on thursday.

Oh that's great news fish
And welcome karma sorry I forgot to say hi in my last post.

Iv just noticed that there is 6weeks between my 28so mw appointment and the next one. Surely that's a bit long. Is anyone else in a similar situaton?