April 2012 Babies - 2nd thread to welcome the 2nd trimester

[digitalgirl]

Join us as we head out of the secretive, scary, slightly sicky first trimester and into the bump emerging, supposedly blossoming, energy boosting second trimester.

Previous thread here

Stats thread here

Hi everyone! I'm still around even thought kept quiet for a while. I ' m basically anxiously waiting to go to see the 12 w scan in Texas . We're 10w tomorrow and it feels like forever to get there! Our Surrogate's having her first appointment with her obstetrician today , I assume it's like the bookin in appointment in this country with the bloodstests etc . She wasn't sure if she was having a scan and we haven't had one for the last two weeks so I 'm nervously waiting to hear from her hopefully around 4 pm . I really need some reassurance ! She tells me she feels pregnant , gets nauseous if doesn't eat every few hours etc but with my history of missed mc I just really can't relax until I have some proof of life ... I do hope I can be a bit more positive after 12 w scan but I suspect it'll be quite an anxious rest of the pregnancy since I 'm not going through it myself and won't have the reassuring kicks etc. I would love to be able to see a normally developing baby ( I loved the first scan with my son at 12 w ,got quite emotional ) and tell rest of the people we haven't told and start preparing for the baby. Must admit I got another name book since we had real trouble thinking of a name for a boy last time... Will definitely find out the sex at 20 w! Hopefully I'll be able to post some good news in a few hours on this thread !
Spanner hope you'll feel better soon !

Mackrelmint I was wondering where your name came from ! Read a lot of Pippi L. as a child being Scandinavian but don't remember the name at all ...

Oooh hello new thread :) Just back from a lovely weekend away celebrating our 2nd wedding anniversary. Returned to the letter with our Nuchal test results: 1 in 2600. Phew.

Nordicmom the waiting is horrendous. Time goes so slowly when you're waiting for something important or exciting. Are you going for a few days or just for the scan? Do you get to spend time with the surrogate (if there is an interest of course, not sure how it works)?

Mackrelmint I feel the same way about not telling the potential employer about my pregnancy but the job centre lady insists I should. I think I'll talk to my MIL about it this evening...

Where did you hear about the continued good weather SurprisEs? I heard it would be 3 degrees by Friday! Really hope not, I can't bear the cold!

And twittle, yes I will be having the swine flu vax. I actually got swine flu while I was pg with DS - at 9 weeks - and I spent the rest of the pregnancy terrified he'd be affected in some way. So many pg women and young children really suffered with it over the past couple of years, I definitely don't want to take any risks...

Good to hear all the new scan news; brilliant!

Hi all! New to mumsnet and pregnancy. I'm 10+1, and due 29 April. Can't wait til my 12 week scan so I can tell everyone and breathe a little sigh a relief (assuming all goes well!). Right now, I'm completely addicted to all the baby shows on discovery home & health...am i the only one?

Also, is anyone else freaking out about weight gain? I know I should just focus on eating right, but I can't stop thinking about how will I ever lose like 30-40lbs post-delivery. I already feel like I'm showing and my breasts weigh a ton!!

I remember someone moaning about it on a thread. But to be honest I haven't got a clue. 3 degrees? Too cold, I can't stand the cold. Oh I hate autumn and winter.

hi mums and welcome to the second timester for those who have pass 12 weeks!

Has everyone been offer the flu jab?
Just wondered if its save to have, my midwife says it protects you and baby? x x

It is not only safe, it is highly recommended in pregnancy. Your immune system is weaker so you are more vulnerable to the flu. It can be very dangerous in some cases. The jab is not a "live" vaccine, so they are not injecting you with active flu virus, so that makes it safer.

Yes I'm booked in to get the flu jab in a couple of weeks. I know someone who got swine flu last year and he nearly died of pneumonia as a result. Don't want to scare anyone but I strongly believe in getting innoculated.

Hi! Just heard from our surrogate . Everything ok in the 10w 1d scan ( confusing, I thought we're 10w tomorrow!). I'm hoping to see some pictures soon! Still nervous but trying to remember that the miscarriage risk is very small for us now . Looking forward to getting the 12 scan and the nuchal fold measuring over with though and joining you guys in the second trimester!
SurprisEs we are planning to fly in and out of Texas for the scan if we end up going. Definitely going the 5/6 month anomaly scan after Christmas with our son and making a little holiday out of it!

Ergh, I'm still not well. Woke up with a very sore throat this morning :(
Quite cheered up by the 20w scan appt that I got in the post this morning though!! :) - 16th Nov

Feeling like shit apart from that though. Feeling very low, think I might be depressed again. Had antenatal depression with DS but not til much later. I just dont seem to want to do anything, and am so "blah" with poor DH. I guess I recognise that this is what the problem is, but I feel like if I admit it to RL then thats it, I've given up trying to cope. Does that make sense?
Dont want to go to the doctors anyway, did with DS and was basically told that theres nothing they could do so I had to just get on with it...

Hopefully its just cause I'm not well though and I'll feel better all round in a few days..?

I've been awakensince 3:50 am. Can't sleep, I'm really nervous about this scan. My job interview is before the scan and I really think I shouldn't go looking like I haven't slept for 2 weeks! But I can't go back to sleep!!! Plus DD didn't go to sleep until 11pm last night. I don't know what was wrong but she couldn't settle. She wasn't crying or refusing to be in bed but I can't go to sleep until she's gone to sleep because she's learnt to open the safety gate to the kitchen and there's no way of putting a safety lock in the cupboard with all the cleaning products. And I've caught her playing with the switch to te job before! So I haven't slept much. Why on earth have I decided to get pregnant again? I must've forgotten what sleepndeprivation was and made sure I'd have a refresher course.

Hi guys, well, not sure what my due date is, until my scan tomorrow. this is our 4th baby, but they just seem to be taking soooo long to see me. My mw thinks i;m 15 weeks, and my gp think's i;m 13, but, either way, i just feel a bit numb.

I too, keep having panic attacks about the baby, which i never had with the other 3, and i know i;m being silly, but can't help worrying, don't think it helped as i;ve had to wait nearly 4 weeks for my bloody scan, and i;ve only had 1 mw appointment, but she isn't my mw as mine was on her hols!!!

Have never felt so bad, with any of the others, as i;ve felt with this one, i swear its an alien lol, will let you know how tomorrow goes xxxx

Yes, I had the swine flu jab last time and I will be again, there's a walk in clinic at my GP's on Saturday.

Beyond I think if you are feeling unwell and tired then it's not going to help with your mood, but the fact that you hand antenatal depression before is a cause for concern. I think it was very unprofessional for your GP to say there's nothing they can do. I personally wouldn't take antidepressants in pregnancy (although I know there are people who do have to) but that's not the only thing they can offer. Often a short course of CBT or mindfulness based therapy can work wonders.

There are a couple of books that really helped me when I was depressed.

One is "Depression, the way out of your prison" by Dorothy Rowe and the other is called "Wherever you go, there you are" by Jon Kabat-Zinn.

Bearcrumble thanks for the book names, I'll have a look at them. I'll see how I feel in a few days and see if I can see the same doctor as my sister (she has depression atm, though it seems it may be PTSD from her abusive ex :( ) who might be more helpful than my "family" doctor (I'm actually the only family member who still sees him anyway!)

newmummyvicky It is great to see you back on here. Pleased to hear all went well with your scan.

How did the interview and scan go SurprisEs?

Useful to be reminded about the flu jab - I think I'll definitely get it. It's absolutely miserable being ill and trying to look after a baby apart from the risk to the pregnancy!

JackieJay - I was so addicted to Discovery H&H last time! They had a series of Homebirth diaries on back to back and I think I managed to watch them all. I haven't got into it this time, but then I barely manage to watch any TV at all nowadays.

Beyond - sorry to hear you're feeling low. I've struggled with low mood for most of this pregnancy so far and same with last one (ended around end of 1st trimester for me though, and feeling better in last week or so). Its hard when you have DS to look after but be kind to yourself! It's so easy to beat yourself up about things when you're feeling low, but remember you are doing well to keep going through it all, and you need to be gentle with yourself and help yourself however you can with food, sleep, exercise, talking to the right people, avoiding extra stressors etc. Hope you are feeling better soon.

nordicmom - good news about the scan! And yes, it definitely is a Pippi name - I think her full name is Pippilotta Delicatessa Mackrelmint Windowshade Ephraim'sDaughter Longstocking. I thought it was so cool when I was little reading the books.

sorry but going to have a little rant too!

so, it was my first MW appointment this morning...

It took me 1h15 to get to the hospital. Then it took 2hrs of waiting to get a 10min chat and tickbox exercise and bloods done. Then I got on a bus back that said it took 35 mins to goodge street, but took 1hr10mins and diverted! Then another 20mins on the tube into work, where I find I have no desk. Now, I'm exhausted and just dreading my commute home - another 20mins on sweaty tube to nursery, then half hour tube journey with DD.

I am so over London's public transport and bloody commuting...

Appt was fine though. And scan booked for next week at 13+4. Just going to have to psych myself up for the journeys...

Update: just saw my baby's picture for the first time!!!! It was the ones from yesterday's 10w scan . Have to say I was very exited!!! And must admit I bought one baby grow just before that because I couldn't resist it anymore. Officially we've agreed to wait a few more weeks before I go crazy in the shops:) but I have been waiting for 4 years now!!!! I see tiny babies everywhere... I think I'll appreciate it all so much more than last time since it's been so hard to get!

Aaah how lovely nordic ! that is brilliant news.

mackrelmint that sounds like a killer voyage. I am glad I am not having to deal with London transport. only a 10 min appointment is a bit crap though. My first one was an hour long with all the admin and stuff. Maybe it's different for first timers?

hi all
lovely to hear all these good scan results!

Anyone feeling better yet?
I seem to be having more sickness than before - but guess should expect it as was the same first time round too. But wierdly it seems to almost be opposite foods that make me feel sick now (chocolate - how upsetting is that!) Is making me wonder if we have a different sex in here ...... only a few weeks to wait and find out whats in here!

right back to watching baking! (whilst listening to DS crying.... give in to the sleep....)
good luck to all those with scans coming up.

Nordicmom great news, can you see much on a 10 week scan? I haven't bought anything for this baby yet. Waiting for the Baby Show this month! I live buying and working there ( haven't worked there for over 1 1/2 years though).

Mackerelmint that sounds exhausting! I hate the tube, it's so hot.

My scan went very well,I feel so relieved. You could see the sonographer was getting annoyed because baby moved a lot and she was struggling with the measurements. Everything appears to be fine.

Really annoyed I'll have to go back because as I haven't had a booking in appointment yet I had no forms for the blood test so I have to wait until after the appointment to get them done. It costs me too much money everytime I go to the hospital so I would've liked to get it all done at once.

Interview was going really really well. Then he mentioned my previous job and I really didn't know what to say, I've never been sacked before. So I told him the truth without going into detail and risking sounding like a drama queen and his interest in me went right down the minute I mentioned pregnancy (wa thinking of not telling him).

Today has been a tough day, been sick twice and my back is killing me but DH was off work so he has spoilt me and it felt really good not being alone.

My placenta is in anterior position. Does that mean I'll feel baby move less? Stupid question, sorry, but I'm really wondering.

Aah, what a shame about the interview SurprisEs - when will you hear the outcome? Hopefully he will be able to see past the pregnancy and employ you if you are the best candidate.

It makes me more convinced though that there should be no pressure on you to tell. This man/company may now be thinking about whether they want an employee for 6 months and then to be hiring again for maternity cover. They shouldn't be considering that, they should just be considering who's best for the job, and then fulfilling their requirements as concerns mat. leave and pay when it comes up.

Anyway, great that the scan went well and that DH is spoiling you!