January 2012 - Thread 4

[shonnomanom]

Can believe we are on Thread 4 already! We must chat too much

Ahhhh.

Has anyone on this thread not done anything in the house yet? Please tell me i'm not the only one-starting to spin out slightly. Especially as my gp mentioned yesterday that if the baby was especially big they may well c section me as early as 36 weeks. Thats gives me 10 frickin weeks. i keep having to remind my self to breathe and relax about it and have faith it will be done.

On the face of it theres not very much to do. It's just:
bulding a new linen cupboard, then adding linen to it.
repainting the little room which will take an afternoon only. Curtains carpets etc staying the same
assemble bedside cot,
get moses basket from attic, wash the linens for it
buy some cot sheets
buy and add decals to dd's new big room-(fish and mermaids)
shift all her stuff into it
shift the big room stuff into the nursery
clean the pram and learn how to use the damn thing
make room for pram to come in and out of garage.
find my sling

It's not much really is it-not really. It's just item 1 that is freakin me out-that could take weeks.
aaaaaahhh.

...and breathe.....

nah fish you're not the only one. I'm freaking out too. We made a list last night to try and allay my fears and it just made it worse....

can't do nursery until we've put shelves up in lounge to get rid of things currently in nursery

can't do shelves until done walls

can't paint walls until they've been sanded

got to replace carpet too

thinking also got to replace carpet in bedroom cos it is smelly and might not be hygenic for baby...

haven't bought anything other than a few babygro's, hats, blankets.

aaaaaarrrrgggghhh!!!!

So start doing the little things - you'll feel much better if you're tackling the stuff on your list, even if the only thing left to do is a big one. Also, if you've started doing things it may guilt DH into geetting on with stuff...

Why not do the washing and assembling of cots - you could manage those in little bits and by yourself. Also buy the decals and cot sheets online, so that's done. Then just start shifting the little things over so the whole process has been started. Good luck - I'm sure you'll get it all done in time - wait till that nesting urge kicks in!

I'm really chuffed today, because my baby sis is organising me a 'bump party' as DH has called it. It's not a baby shower, because those are horrible and (excuse me to any Americans on here) American and come across as very grasping. No, this is just a chance to get to see all my girlie friends and have a lovely time before the baby arrives and takes over my world! I didn't get round to having a hen party, so this is instead of that and I am ridiculously overexcited about what will be, essentially, a glorified tea party :-) Oh well. Anyone got any nice ideas about games or memento things that could be done? Maybe a book for people to sticks photos in and write down advice or memories of childhood/motherhood? Would appreciate ideas!

Hope you all have a lovely Thursday.
x

Oops - x-post with red - sorry you're stressing too :(

Morning all
cakes my sis impasse had a bump party thrown for her. We played Baby Bingo - instead of numbers it was baby related items like cot nappy dummy bibs etc . We also played guess the bump size - everyone had to cut a length of string the exact size of her bump. Most guesses were totally off but there were two guesses which were exact.

fish we haven't done anything at all. Apart from take everything off dd's walls and pull wall paper off the wall whenever we walk through the hall. The pram has been washed and Moses basket dressings are drying we speak. But that's it.
Between dp being on nightshift and dd not well I can't get anything else done.

fish I think your list of things to do sounds quite reasonable, and won't be that bad once you get started.
As for me - well, not only do we have DD's room to sort (which will be finished this weekend, she got her big girl bed last night, she looks tiny in it!), as well as re-assemble the crib and cot, get new linen etc, paint the new nursery and get curtains up....

We, for some reason, are also having a new kitchen beginning of next month with DH is fitting himself, we are having loads of plastering done in the house, and we are having a new fireplace fitted.

Unfortunately all these things need to be out of the way by the time the baby comes, so it's all happening at once. Luckily, I am taking care of the kids' rooms and DH can do the heavy duty stuff. Wish I was on maternity leave now to get it all sorted!

But I have plenty of lists to keep me organised. Where would I be without my lists.
Cannot be bothered in work again today! where has my motivation gone? I think it's taken early mat leave!

Happy Thursday everyone!

I'm scared someone WILL throw me a baby shower. Would hate it.

red my previously broken ribs are getting uncomfy at night...on the left side...bollx. I hope yours feel better soon.

I really need to make a list of "things wot must be done". I know it's goign to be long and hideous. Mainly because DH has been using Abi's room as a massive dumping ground it turns out...

Must remember to ask for the number of days leave they think I have left at work. Then I can work out my alst day. I'm hoping it's 9th Dec, but sod's law says I have to work another week - into the mentalness that are the weeks before Xmas.

Found out about antenatal classes. We just turn up if we want to! No need to book. Luckily, they're on my day off, in the evenings and only 5mins walk away .

Insanity struck thismorning and I did the peeing on baking powder thing. Apparently Abi's a boy...fizzed up so much it developed over 2 inches of head .

sorry to ignore all the other chat but am pushed for time and wanted to respond to red:

I've had two full on weeping attacks in the last 12 hours or so - one last night (at DH because he said I wasn't making sense and he wanted my pre-pregnancy brain back - he was joking, but I sobbed) and then one this morning because DH left the water running and I started weeping because he's so distracted and busy at the moment). I actually feel enormously weepy now! Think it's the stress of work at the moment, plus interviewing, plus trying to look after SiL while she's with us and finally because DH will be away for the better part of the next ten weeks. But all this means we're not getting the chance to actually enjoy each others' company while we have it! So I definitely sympathise, think this must be the time when our hormones go crazy.

Also on the rib thing - I had this too and it was excruciating - poor you! It's probably because the baby is squishing everything up into your rib cage and forcing things apart. My rib was jammed in the wrong position and I genuinely felt like I couldn't draw a deep breathe. The only thing that will properly fix it is to see a physio, but it may ease off a bit. Do you have a fit ball/birthing ball? Try relaxing backwards over it to give your back/ribs a chance to stretch out the other way, as pregnancy pulls everything forward. Also doing gentle spinal twists (put elbows up in a tree huggy position, keep pelvis facing forward, and slowly twist to each side) should help.

Hello! Just to add, I've also been feeling sad and weepy - I've cried loads recently and it's not like me at all. I'm also feeling sorry for my poor husband!

I also haven't done a thing in the house. There are patches of damp (mainly condensation issues) in our house and we're having our kitchen ripped out in a couple of weeks to try and deal with that. There's lots more to do though - we've got nowhere except our room to put the baby. I'm stressing about where they'll sleep longer term (short term with us obviously). We have a spare room which is packed and has issues like an old, fusty carpet too. :(

Congratulations on your promotion Trubble! That's great news. I read that a while ago, but on my phone. I wanted to reply to a few posts so I was waiting to go on my computer (which didn't happen). This thread moves so fast and I try and keep up and then there's too much to type on an iphone, sorry.

I burnt dd :( stupidly I put her in her cot for a nap, then went and turned the hot water on, but switched the wrong switch and turned the heating on. Her cot is right next to the radiator (its not her bed room, just temp while were decorating her bedroom) and she usually sleeps next to it. She woke up screaming and has big red marks on her face and hands :( I can't believe I hurt my baby. I'm a horrible horrible bad mummy. Stupid pg brain. :(

Oh addicted. :( Youre not a horrible mummy, it was an accident. Have you been to the doctors or got any medical advice? I hope she's ok.

addicted No you're not a bad Mummy. Bad Mummies don't admit their mistakes. I hope doc gives DD the ok.

Will have a more thorough read when I've worked out when my mat. leave/leave starts...it turns out I'm owed a shed load of time, so something tells me it's gonna be a shock to work!

Hope she's OK addicted :(

Pregnancy brain is a dreadful thing.

addicted I'm sure she'll be fine. Don't beat yourself up over it. It was an accident.

OK, now I'm irrationally cross.

Phoned my Dad to say "happy birthday"...went ok. Dad's not a big talker.
Mum came on phone to nag me about how unprepared I am:

1. Mum "how's the nursery going?" ... OK, we're getting there..(as in, back off...now!) 1a) have we painted yet, because I shouldn't be, you know it's bad for baby (O.K. I'm not an idoit methinks)... 1b) ..."no, we're not re-painting, we're using stencils"... Mum:"oh, ok" 1c) what about curtains, do you want me to make you some? ..."no, we'll either keep the ones in there, or switch with the back room, plus Sue's offered if we want new ones"... Mum "well that's not very exciting for baby"... 1d) "well, she'll have plenty of things in there that are babyish, and there's no NEED for new curtains!" ... mum "oh, ok"

2a) Mum "oh, and, well, I don't think you should be signing cards (as in only my Dad's) from Abi".... "ok"
Now, baring in mind she hasn't referred to Abi as Abi for the entire conversation so far, this raises alarms, so follows:
2b) "Well, it's bad luck isn't it" ... "ok"
2c) "Well, I've not been telling people her names at all, you know" (as in, you're baby's not here yet, so it's bad luck as baby might die...) ..."fine".

Now, luckily I'm just feeling very and I don't yell at her.

Do I have the right to feel so bloody cross? I'm looking at it like this:

In response to 1 - our home, our nursery, just because I don't want fluffy pink curtains (and don't have the money for them even if I did) it doesn't mean I'm doing Abi out of a childhood FFS. I don't have the money that my brothers have and therefor can't just buy stuff because it's nice for her to havea 'brand new' nursery. Abi's getting what she needs, and more besides.

In response to 2 - What the FUCK!

1. My baby, my choice, we've named her before she's born, get over it and use it. If you don't like the name, tough. If you don't want to use the name, then DON'T, don't just use it to friggin blackmail me!
2. Who is SHE to decide not to tell people the names we've chosen (though I can't 'make' her I guess, but isn't it disrespectful to me??)...though I'm gonna look like a right tool to my extended family if they don't realise (they'll just assume I've not told Mum, not that she's mental). That and Abi's already a huge part of my life.
3. Abi's FINE and IS NOT going to die.
4. There's no such thing as bad luck, stop being so fucking stupid
5. If my Abi does die, what the fuck, you want me to pretend she never existed?! It's not like I'll ever 'get over it', or will be able to use the name again, even if we hadn't told people, that Abi isn't my baby girl now...I'd grieve for her as much if she were to go now as I would any child. She's just as much as human to me as any born baby, so ARGH!!!!*

*take into account that I've miscarried before, very, very early on, but it still hurts and I still grieve now...even though I know there was nothing I did wrong, and it was essentially "a good thing" as I wouldn't have the life I have now, or the opportunities not having a baby gave me then. (they don't know this, why bother telling them).

Still fuming. Need to sleep though.
NN all...

Sorry I didn't see this till now. So sorry you've had such a difficult conversation - parents can be so awkward, can't they, even (or especially) when they're trying to look out for us. Hope you managed to get to sleep in the end and see you later today

good lord oeisha mum's can be THE WORST can't they???? bloody hell. Sorry you had to deal with such a ridiculous conversation.

ghost thanks so much for your rib advice - might try some of that today. I actually ended up in A&E yesterday because of it went to the GP and they said I had to rule out a blood clot (!!!) so was in hospital for FIVE HOURS doing loads of tests ruling it out. I was fine, obviously. Just with a really hurty rib. And it still kills. couldn't sleep last night because of it and have taken the day off work. the consultant said I was working too hard...

I'm just trying to earn as much money now as possible before I get too fat or have the baby! never mind....

what a week we're all having! [hugs list, sod the rules]

DH has gone off to Libya today but the admin staff made a mistake with the check in time, so when he got up just before 4am for a 5am check in, all the phones in the house started ringing to ask where he and his crew were - the check in was actually 4am. Cue 3 phones going off, lights on everywhere, poor DH trying to charge around picking everything up and didn't have any time for a coffee to wake him up. SIL and I ended up awake for ages too, so am knackered now.

sorry to hear about your little one addicted, how's she doing today? and oeisha- parents - they have a funny idea of support sometimes, don't they?

red hope the rib is a bit better; it's probably sensible that they checked you out, and I know how painful it can be, and frightening if you don't know what is restricting your breath. As I've mentioned, I'm a very clicky person, so I can actually sit straight on in a chair and twist around to the chair back to get an almighty clunk that releases any sticky vertebrae/ribs - but I wouldn't advise that for you unless you've done it before, could just make things worse. Can you get someone to rub (gently) the intercostal muscles? If they can feel a particularly tight one they may be able to help it release a bit. Worth checking the front ones too, as I have one particular bit at the front that can be painful if it's tight. If you identify the tight bit, do some massage and then apply ice for a few ten minute bursts to calm any swelling. Do get to a good physio though - they should be able to help (mine is a sports physio who has treated me for other things and he's been fab this pregnancy - he's able to sort me out in one session usually!)

mega annoyed with work today. Left at 4 yesterday to have my flu jab, which my manager knew about and had told the dept head, as manager is off this week.
Found out from nice colleagues this morning, that the other manager (not mine, but works in our dept) had come in, asking my whereabouts, asking if I was 'ok' as she found it strange that I hadn't reponded to an email (which didn't ask for a response btw!!) and it was extremely rude of me!
GRRRR I Want to get out of here now!! Still 10/11 weeks to go though, I am going to make myself an advent calendar countdown to leaving work!

I think we are probably all prone to being a bit over-sensitive these days though, so I'm trying not to let it get to me.

addicted hope your DD is ok? my DD ran full whack into the counter in Accessorise yesterday when we were shopping, so has a black eye today. Lots of explaining to do at nursery this morning!

On the bright side - it's FRIDAY! :)

addicted hows your LO today? And how are you? Please dont beat yourself up too badly, accidents happen and pregnancy brain is the devil at times.

oiesha big hugs to you too. Mothers/people can be soo insensitive sometimes. Is there anychance that maybe she was meaning that the gender could be wrong rather than complications at birth? Just a thought.

red sorry to hear of your rib aches. Hope you start to get some pain relief soon. Did they give you any pain killers for it?

miamama I love your idea of maternity leave advent calendar! Poor mini miamama running into the counter, hope her eye isnt too bad.

After having dd off nursery since Tuesday with a bad cough I took her back today to find out that there is Hand, Foot and Mouth in the Nursery! Fortunately Dd only has a runny nose and a cough and no oher symptoms so I think she'l be ok. But its very contageous.

We'v done some major tidying here over the last few days. And now have the moses basket washed, ironed and redressed ready for my 5 week old niece coming for a sleepover tonight. Im feeling a bit more happy that things are starting to move in the house. Hopefully a wee trip to Ikea is on the cards this weekend....
Hope everyone is well x

Oh how could I forget!! Dp felt his first proper kung fu kick from the baby this morning! He has felt and heard wriggles but this was his first proper kick. Its all about the timing with this one(and Dd when she lived in there), Dp and everyone else need to sneak up on the baby to feel anything.

Heavens ladies, it's been a bit of a shocker this week! Next week can only be better, surely?

addicted - I hope DD's ok! I found mine playing with a sharp knife the other day - no idea how she got it, but I suspect me leaving it somewhere was a large part of it.

oiesha - gah! Mothers, eh? She has your best interests at heart, although when she's being such a pain it's hard to remember that!

red - hope your rib pain goes soon. It sounds rotten. No doubt exacerbated by an afternoon at Whipps - never something to lighten the soul!

ghost - what a great start to the day! On the plus side, you're already half a day closer to DH coming home.

mia - I may copy your advent calendar idea. MD is driving me nuts with stupid questions about irrelevent things 2 working days before the biggest book fair of the year, because I'm clearly not busy enough. Sigh.

My appetite has suddenly just grown - a bagel with peanut butter and jam (usually bleurgh, but mmmmm today) and half a packet of Cheddars down and I'm now ready for lunch!

shonno we x-posted! My colleague's DS has just had hand foot and mouth, the spots cleared from after 2 days to be replaced with chicken pox! Tis that time of year, but that's little comfort when you have a miserable LO moping around and there's nothing you can do for them.
Hope your niece enjoys her sleepover!

May I add to the litany of woes?

More car/insurance drama here as the woman I drove into went directly to our insurance company to claim for car hire while her scratch was being repaired. I honestly don't know whether to scream with anger or howl with despair at the trouble we're in with the insurance (who are saying we should have declared the accident, but I rang to check and they said we didn't) and the extra money.

I could do without it, I really could.

Time to hunt for my sense of humour, I think.