January 2012 - Thread 3

[ParsleyLion1]

And we're back......

I too have been mulling over the whole seeing people after the birth dilema and decided I am going to put a ban on hospital visits except DH and DC's. I am having to have a CS after trying (and failing) labour twice. Last time a few hours after my EMCS my auntie and cousin turned up. I was still in recovery, throwing up after re-acting to the anesthetic (sp) whilst unable to sit up. I was not amused. That is certainly not happening this time and I don't care if I come across as a grump and anti-social, so the bounty woman will certainly get sharp shrift!
Boston is about 30 odd miles away from Lincoln Big hot. So we have ourselves quite a gaggle of midlanders!
Your notso DFiL sounds like a twat mum2be79 stike him off the babysitting list right now!
All the best for your scan tomorrow Fish

Does anyone else keep getting a twanging sensation in their tummy when they yawn or stretch? It feels like the baby has an elastic band in there and is flicking it at me! I have a horrible feeling it is my tummy muscles coming apart, it never happened with my DC's so I am getting panicy about what state my tummy muscles will be in afterwards now that I am an old codger compared to last time!.

I never had the photographer visit and I was in 3 days due to emergency CS. Hey green, what time you got your scan on 12th? Mine is quite early 10.15am just hope the sonographer is nicer this time as one we had for ds's 20 wk scan was hard faced and a bit ignorant. Good luck for yours too fish!

Worm I think I'll be opting for elective CS too as body wouldn't progress with ds and ended up with emergency, I really don't want the same thing to happen again but will discuss this with consultant at my nxt app to see what he thinks. I was 2 wks late and had to be induced urgh!

If I stretch out in bed I get those twangy sensations too it's like a trembling pulsating feeling very strange.

I had a lovely moment lastnight. I woke up to find I had a dreamgeniiPLUS. Gizzy had snuck in and wedged himself between pillow and bump. So cute. After about an hour like this I needed a wee...and then couldn't get back to sleep for what felit like hours due to that "there's sooo much snot, I might drown" feeling.
Gadge loves the pillow too. He sleeps in the hollow waist/bump bit all the time. Bless.

Ohh yeah! My scans's tomorrow too. Good luck fish. Trying to be excited about mine, but I feel like luke-warm-death and just want to be asleep.

mum2be what a bloody nightmare of a man. Does MIL know how he reacted?

I'm getting lots of twantings....errrm twangings... as I'm sneezing so bloody much. But most of mine def. feel like ligament pains. Though I can't feel very much across the front of tum, even when on my ball, doing pelvic exercises (always used to be able to feel them). Maybe mine have just eloped?!

wow you guys got a lot of chatting done yesterday/this morning!!!! I was doing a gig last night and stayed up the latest in my whole pregnancy so far - 1am! think i need some kind of medal. only just woke up!

sex dreams - I wish! FFS, I had a dream last night about doing a course in Cornwall with my OH and FIL. It was not sexy. It was boring.

As for RL sex, we are pretty pathetic at the moment as well, maybe 5 times since I've been sick, so the last 3 months? Pretty goddamn terrible. Just don't feel like it much

But the good news for all of us - we are all pregnant at the same time as Beyonce. So this makes us automatically cool. hooray!

good luck with scans this week lucky people!

supadupa - you can get used nappies on ebay (I did 2 weeks ago) they just can;t be listed as used, they'll tell you that they are in the description.

I've had a mega weekend - not just entertaining on Sat, but then out all day Sun and Mon - ended up almost catatonic with tiredness and depression last night and had to be put to bed with 2 hot water bottles as I was chilled through. Slept better than usual though - managed to get back to sleep when I woke up.

Had a rotten day yesterday. Huge influx of in-laws including (DH's) 4 year old nephew. I used to get on OK with him, he was cute and looked like DH and responded well to me. Now he's aggressive, rude, attention grabbing and violent. Pays no heed to me and is very fat (and dressed like a chav, but I could have ignored that if it wasn;t for all the rest of it).

Basically he's already had 3 'father' figures in his life, his mother is a chavvy mess, his grandmother has too much input in his life and is just as bad and the poor kid has never had any boundaries or attention and is already, at 4, a horror. It was not a good day for me to see how badly a child can behave. I went into emotional meltdown and am still reeling. I can't really explain very well how I'm feeling, but 'not good' covers it in a very basic sense.

I'm still exhausted and due to some previous health issues that's a very bad feeling for me. Am doing the best I can but really really really wish I didn;t have to work as well. I hate it, I can't keep up and I want to focus on my life, not this stupid stuff that seems so pointless to me.

And that's my little depressive rant over. I just really needed to vent. Thanks for listening.

Hi Every one thinking I will have to invest in a special cushion as I felt so uncomfortable last night. Normally can sleep really well on my left side but last night just couldn't get comfortable. Defiantly feel the need for a wedge under my bump. Any suggestions?

Oh - meant to say - DH has gone off the idea of sex a bit since he started feeling sproglet kicking around, but managed to 'persuade' him into it the other night and it was one of the best we've ever had - for me, anyway. Everything is super-charged and sensitive and it was like sex on steroids.

There - just to convince you all I'm not about to curl up in a ball and die of misery, it's not all bad atm.

I managed to score a doctor appointment whilst DD was having her first nursery session today. Doc confirmed SPD but its got a new name now(ofcourse I cant remember it right now), anyway iv to see the MW tommorrow as GP didnt know much about the right kind of advice to be giving but did drop hints that I will need to go on Mat Leave a lot earlier than planned. He's gave me details to contact the Physio. And cocodamol to help ease the pain.
Had such a horrible sleep last night due to the pain, think I spent more time interrupting OH's snoring than actually sleeping.
Was reading the Pevic Partnership website last night and im now scared that a natural birth could be dangerous, will speak to mw more tommorrow.

Good luck on alll the impending scans! x

BHM no it wasnt a bank holiday in Scotland yesterday. We get Jan 2nd as a bank holiday instead.

mummyzoe at your fil2b!

worm Iv had that elastic pinging sensation when yawning. Its horrible. Not had it for a few weeks though.

Hi bighot Boston not far at all .
Haven't een anyone yet about the back as my MW gave me a number for a physio but I want to see her again about making sure it is NHS. I have my scan next Tues so thought I would wait until then.

makescakes I am surprised about the nappies, I am pretty sure it is against the rules.......

shonnomanom please tell us what you have if you remember.... was it PGP Pelvic Girdle Pain?

Maybe so, but sellers have found a way around it.

Pelvic girdle pain (PGP) is the new name for SPD.

Hey everyone,

Gosh, you have, once again, been busy! I had a nice-ish weekend down at my parents - but would have been better if they'd actually taken DD off my hands rather than just looking at her for 3 days. I had a completely exhausted flip out yesterday for no good reason - poor DD didn't know what was going on, and my parents just looked at me as if I was mad. Oh well. I blame DH for going away for a week and leaving me with a non-sleeping 2 year old!

bighot and green - I'm 12th Sept as well! I think I'm at 9.20. Can't wait!

I've had a few weird dreams, my most odd one involved Bruce Forsythe and Bob Monkhouse and Christmas lunch - I should add that it was most definitely not a sex dream!

Fryn - a) glad it wasn't just me flipping out and b) very very glad that wasn't a sex dream!

I'm feeling really guilty/stupid as I was cleaning out a split sachet of calpol from my handbag this morning (nice) and found the appointment slip for the blood tests I was supposed to have nearly 2 weeks ago to check for anaemia. The GP was just being thorough but I can't believe I forgot to go back. I don't think I've forgotten an appointment before, I've been annoying myself with forgetfulness. Generally I am very unreliable at the moment.

Thanks for tips re cloth nappies - I found that our local council has a Nappy Info evening in a few weeks time to promote reuseables (although the discount has been withdrawn) and I've signed up to go along. They also held a nappy fashion show in March that looked cute.

Going back to pramas, I'd try and get a pushchair that faces backwards and forwards if you can, my dd was much happier facing me for her first year or so. My travel system (Bebe Loola Confort) looks a bit dated now but it's light, easy to use and sturdy. The pram body can be used as an overnight carrycot and was great for long journeys as it's also a car seat, so dd could sleep flat for the trip up to my parents and I didn't have to worry about her diaphragm or spine being compressed. It was the new thing in JL at the time, just before Bugaboo and Quinny's moved in! I'll have to use the carseat bit this time as the pram took up all of the back seat but we don't have long journeys any more.

Off to find more food, I'm super hungry today!

at all the dreamers. Luckily mine haven't started being too odd yet this time.

When I was carrying Dd i dreamt that I had a boy and left him with Dh's grandmother who let him get cold, and obviously because he got cold he turned into a kangaroo

4 years later I can still picture her stood there with this baby kangaroo wearing a little blue babygro

I had a dream before my scan that I had had a little girl and we were discussing all her features and who she had got them from... must have been related to the scan!

GiraffeAHolic - love the blue kangaroo :) Maybe that's what I'm having?? Slowly getting used to the novel sensation of being kicked in the bladder from the inside

MakesCakes, hope you're feeling better :( For what it's worth, I've also had some truly catatonic evenings recently - generally after a long day at work, but still, wouldn't usually go down nearly so far or so fast. Think it might just be the pregnancy thing :) So try not to worry about past illness etc too much (says she)

Yawn, been on training today for my new job-job is only 2 hours a week but this training course was 6 hours. It was actually pretty interesting but boy did I find it hard to concentrate after lunch. i was yawning my head off for the last hour and half.

anyway it was about mental health awareness, fascinating stuff. Made me realise how close i have been to the full monty with my wobbly history. It was quite emotive and hard to listen to some of it, but overall I feel quite good about the way the service seems to be steering awareness now. it's a hell of lot easier to talk about now than it used to be.

Ironic, I should be delivering a confidence course to people with mental health difficulties when I am under a psych nurse or a " Professional well being practictioner" (PWP) myself.

On a positive note I will say, god forbid any of you do develop PND, but if you do DO not be afraid to shout and scream and get yourself some help. The way it is seen these days is soo different from how it used to be. It also looks like I may have an opportunity arising from this today, working with mums in recovery-theres a new scheme staring here in my local authority to run courses specifically for parents with mental health issues. watch this space-id love that to be way my career goes post shrimpy.

Thanks for the good wishes on the scan folks, yes we will be finding out if baby is willing to tell us, and yes i will be sharing our team colour with you lot
xx

Now onto the saga of a names for our little boy, Elliot , Freddie, Ethan, Sebastian. Oh my husband and I can't agree. Do you think it would be bad if we choose Ethan as my cousin has a son called this ( but lives in Canada). Do quite like Elliot though :)

Any one else entered this mine field. Can't wait what my parents volunteer up.

Also forgot stayed in all day and still missed the engineer for my dishwaher, duh!

I'm so in this minefield - this is the thread I started the other day on the subject!

LOVE Elliot!! It just reminds me of the lovely little kid in ET Just tried to pass it with OH and it was a resounding no

Trying to think of sporty names. I still like Ethan but the mission impossible jokes have already started. Girls names i can think of loads what sort are you looking for traditional or more contemporary?

i think baby has just kicked properly for the 1st time, amazing feeling it was.

aw mummyzoe-superb

I think our names are taped up. It has to be cornish:

Jago Nicholas James for a boy is a definate.

For a girl were liking Nessa Joy (Nessa is the cornish word for second)

We've chosen a first and middle name (which obviously i cannot reveal just now) and am awaiting Dh's edict on a second middle name which we had chosen after a family member, but DH is second guessing his motives for this 'honour' and may choose a different one. I hope he does. I admire neither the name nor the owner of it.