"I'm a July baby.....GET ME OUTTA HERE!!!!"

[JimmyChoo17]

hi ladies fresh new thread in which hopefully we will ALL have our babies happy and healthy on the right side of our bellies by the time it comes round to a fresh new July new born thread :)

Hi all.

Want to post but Oliver has decided it's sleep time and that's my cue to do just the same after sitting watching riot news last night when i should have been catchinga few zzzzzzz's! so am just marking where I've read to....plus I think it would just be a whinge!!! Still...it's all gravy as got such a gorgeous boy :)

You sound a bit more cheerful Jimmy.

Been in hospital all afternoon (5 hours!). Full check up and bloods taken (though given v grudgingly - S was having none of it and looks like a pin cushion for his troubles!). Now been sent home to await results. I think if there's any treatment needed they may well phone tonight. Not that I cando anything with dh away!

Jimmy I am currently doing that exact thing
ISitreally thanks for your sympathy! It sure is hard work once the adrenaline wears off!

Oh button! Hope you and yours are ok.
Glad you sounding more cheerful Jimmy. I am also a bit more cheery MC29120771 today, went out with the DC and my mum which was nice.
Still do not feel myself, blooming hormones! I was the same with DS1 it resolves itself quote quickly once the hormones have settled. But hey it's only been 3 weeks so I guess I shouldn't be so hard myself!
Still learning to adapt with 2, we'll get there.

How is everyone doing?

How is everyone doing?!

I don't know whether we're ok or not

I had a phone call at 19.40 last night from a ward clerk asking me to go back in tomorrow (Fri) at 1pm to discuss blood results and for a re weigh. Couldn't tell me any more.

So I don't know. I'm trying to ring this morning but it's always engaged. I want to know if I need to be worried about the results and I really don't want to get into a frequent weighing cycle.

Oh button :( surely if it was bad news they would have wanted you back in last night? Hope it goes ok, I'll be thinking about you and S at 1 x

That's what I'm hoping. Finally got through to the ward but the nurses won't talk to me, I need to wait for a dr to call me after ward rounds. Oh wait - that's a pig flying past my window

Spoken to one of my CMWs. She's on my side re not getting into a frequent weighing trap. After all, HV is coming again on Tuesday to weigh again so what are they hoping to achieve by weighing only 48hrs after last one?

I feel such a sense of deja vu. But at least when I did this with dd1 she really was ill and I knew she was. I feel so in the dark at the moment.

And of course, it's all so not helping dh help me with bf. It's really playing on his fears that I'm not doing well again and not giving S what he needs to be putting on weight. Keep swinging from being defiant and wanting to carry on bf whatever to feeling that if I went on to ff at least he'd put on weight and I'd have one less battle to fight.

It's hard when you feel everyone is against you

button hope that the dr does call you back and everything is ok.

Jimmy Stay positive! Hope you get some more sleep. It makes the world of difference.

Anna is currently swinging away. Since we switched to the sensitive formula she has been doing better. She is really starting to develop now. We had a great time on the sofa last night smiling and cooing at each other for about 2hrs. She has also slept through the past two nights. Hope we can make a habit of sleeping through the night!

supermum sleep.... all night..... how, share your tips. PLEASE< I NEED SLEEP x

Wow - a dr rang me! Seth's levels are 330 which is well into the repeat blood test (which is what they want to do tomorrow) but under the 350 tolerance level for immediate phototherapy. All other function tests normal. So they've organised a community team to come and do a blood test tomorrow at home which is great as they've also agreed that the weigh in was a bit of a red herring and unnecessary as the cmws and hvs are already keeping an eye on that. So I'm on a mission to up his food and hopefully make his levels a bit lower tomorrow.

GP has given me antibiotics for mastitis. I'm hoping to keep them in reserve until at least tomorrow rather than pop them immediately as he wasn't 100% convinced they were def needed.

So I'm feeling a little more optimistic now - thank you all for your nice comments. And I've not cried since early this morning - which has to be a bonus

Shitty shit. Did a long message. All gone. DH is shitty. Said he couldn't understand why they weren't checking the obvious thing ie was I producing enough good quality milk? Said that if he only put on another 40g next week then he'd be making the decision for me to stop. Said that he really resented the situation we were in - starting up a new company with a new baby as it wasn't working because I couldn't work properly for him. Which is true but not my fault or S's. I know it's the stress talking but it still hurts because if he didn't really think those things then they wouldn't be there to say at all would they?

So I'm sat here crying again. Feeling like shit because the situation is so rubbish. The house looks like shit. I look like shit.

buttonmoon just wanted to send you some love as your last post sounds like you are having such a hellish time.

Hopefully things will improve for you quickly, and your DH will soon realise he has said things that are unfair to you.

Thinking of you. x

You are not alone in battling with trying to do your best for babe. Feeding is such a difficult thing. DD has had problems with weight gain, hosp visits and Im now topping up. Its so hard as each day i feel like giving up bf and going to ff, but its the guilt that I battle with that i wanted to ebf dd and now not producing enough of the good stuff to satisfy her. Its so tough. All we have to deal with all this with sleep deprivation that seems to play havoc with thought processes.

Thanks isit. Just waiting for nurses now.

This is exactly what I meant when I said ages ago that Nicola had made a brave decision and maybe I should've made the same one. Now I've fed him and remembered how lovely it can be I don't want to stop

DH and I argued a bit too - why is BabyTwit fussing at night etc etc he's the worst of the lot for this. Er no DH, you have worked away for the others, you happen to be here this time so shut the fuck up.
Anyhoo agree you can't spoil them at this point and every day and night is different we all just have to take it as it comes.
I find this hard as there's alot I need to do and I like my sleep routine but I try to chill out a bit and remember it's only like this right now, it will get better and easier.
This is easy when you feel ok, but I find the evenings hard and feel like giving up and ff'ing just so I and my nips can have a rest.
Button My fingers and toes are crossed for you. DH has found the whole IT'S FREE argument most reassuring even thought there have been times when I've checked out the price and availabilty of formular. As you know I have thought and sometimes still do at times that I wish I hadn't bothered with BF, but... it is easier now even though I have wobbles. You feel shit at the moment, but that is normal. So do I and lots of us at the moment because we are knackered and at best uncomfortable and at times out of our depth.
BabyTwit is crying now, so must be off. I find E4 a must at this time of day (Glee, Friends and My name is Earl).

isit she is on formula so takes 4oz every 4hrs. Her last feed is at 10pm, she goes down at 11pm and sleeps through till 6am.

A nurse told me in the hospital to have her sleep by a window during the day and in a dark room with more layers on at night so she knows the difference between day and night from the start. I like to think she gets warm and comfy at night so sleeps through. She also has her crying time from 2pm onwards so by 10pm she is exhausted.

button I would tell your DH that just as you are supporting him with his business venture you would appreciate him supporting you with regards to feeding your child. Tell him that formula is not so great. Anna is having to eat prune juice daily to keep her regular. It is far from ideal and if there was a way for me to bf I certainly would. Also, ff babies have bad gas, stinky poo and smell like off milk. The gas and stinky poo sucks as you get a screaming baby and honking house.

button just been through our montly spends. Formula is not cheap at all. It is costing us $50 a week to feed Anna. We spend less money feeding 2 adults!

Hi all, hope you're ok button. I wrote you a long message yesterday but it doesn't seem to be here. Ah well the general gist has been echoed by others.
Just putting ds1 down will return ASAP

Button, hope it went ok today. Al our OH's seem to be being unreasonable at the mo.

Twit, my OH stays out of breastfeeding and likes it because it means he doesn't have to be involved with the baby! I was so tired this afternoon that I couldn't think straight and was slurring my Words. My mum took DS for the night so I went to bed for three hours, baby on on chest tho so it wasn't proper sleep. have had a few small breastfeeding wobbles, which I never had with DS, mainly because I feel like I spend so little time with him.

but....positives.....I can now dress Hannah in cute little outfits and dresses. she properly smiled at me tonight and giggled. DS loves her and says so, plus 'can I hold her'.

Haven't been on the thread for a few weeks but wanted to jump back in and catch up.

DS is bloody huge (10lbs 15oz at 4weeks), jaundice went but he has awful baby acne. BF going well despite tongue tie but he feeds a lot and often - sometimes every hour - 5mins a go before he falls into unwakeable sleep.

Biggest problem is DD (18months) keeps attacking him and I have to keep them in different rooms. Sometimes I put DS in playpen so DD can't get to him - but she is mostly inconsolable if it is just me, her and him. Her jealousy is absolute.

Hope you're ok button. I never realised feeding would be so stressful. I've had problems BF, DD screams with frustration trying to latch on and needs topping up with loads of EBM from a bottle so she's clearly not getting enough milk from the breast. I've felt like giving up at times and that's with loads of support from DH so I can't imagine how tough it must be for you with your DH undermining you. It sounds like you're doing a brilliant job, hope you manage to continue with BF as long as you want to.

Button I hope things improve for you soon. It is crap when your DH can't be supportive.

Stangirl DD has acne too, it come and goes in cycles, but I think it is irritating her and making her cranky.

My bfing journey is going pretty well so far. Third time lucky for me, as I've never got past 4 weeks before. DD is still feeding a lot though, which is tiring. The boys are back at school on Tuesday, so I'm hoping that will force us into some kind of routine.

DD acne here too. I think it may be related to the weather as it is definitely worse when its humid.

My HV told me the acne is found more in bf babies and is thought to be hormonal. DDs gets worse when it is hot though.

babytwit has it too, on and off, worse when it's warm and I was told it's hormonal too. They've all had it, although DS2 had it the worst and he was born in July so maybe the pollen/dust and heat don't help?

How is everyone doing? Poor DD want2be let's hope things start getting better for her soon? Is it still boiling hot there?
button I hope you and DS are ok.

I have found trying to keep as calm as possible and feeding BabyTwit when he starts his sucky noises rather than letting him start up worked a treat last night. hardly any crying and he went down first time at about 10ish to wake at about 2:30ish. He had his bath at about 9pm, I kept it dim and quiet and generally it was a nicer evening than previous ones, although dropping everything immediately rather than try to finish and have him start to cry was tricky but still better for everyone.
i think once they are a bit more aware (smiley etc) it can help to distinguish day from night ready for when they might feel like sleeping through, and a nice bath and as calm as possible bedtime helps wind them down ready. One can dream anyway.
Also he hates going down on his back, so he goes on his side and has a sheet that smells of me over him (although he isn't keen on things over him so I ususally put it to the side of him so he can sniff it lol)

I have re-read my previous post and this one and I hope it doesn't come across as patronising or up my own arse, let me know and I'll stop

DD has baby acne. I had terrible acne in my teens and early 20s (managed to be a walking zit from age 12-26) so I can only hope it doesn't come back.

Twit I think you are right on the bedtime routine. We give Anna a bath every night, put her in jimjams, read a story to her and then keep her in a dark room until morning. During the day we keep her downstairs, in the light and play with her after feeds. We will find out if she gets to know the difference.

DH dressed Anna in her Liverpool kit for the game yesterday and took her to our local bar to watch the game. I got a phone call with a plea to bring a new outfit for DH. Apparently she had the whole bar (all 10 of the guys who watch the games) laughing when she did a massive poop that went shooting up the back and front just as the full time whistle blew. Her liverpool outfit was covered in poop as was DH! I told DH that it serves him right for forcing her to watch the football.