"I'm a July baby.....GET ME OUTTA HERE!!!!"

[JimmyChoo17]

hi ladies fresh new thread in which hopefully we will ALL have our babies happy and healthy on the right side of our bellies by the time it comes round to a fresh new July new born thread :)

Fraocsh I am thinking about the coil too. I want something that doesn't rely on memory as I really don't want to get pregnant again! What weight was your daughter born? Mine was 6lb and I feel like she was really small. She was weighde last in the middle of July and the health visitor said don't get her weighed again til mid August. I know she is growing as she is growing out of clothes. People keep asking what she weighs so I say I don't know! Sometimes I worry I did something wrong in pregnancy to produce a small one...silly I know.

My friend with pnd is bad at the moment. She is on medication and the doctor has put her on a managed program of care- she had to sign something to say she would take whatever they prescribed. She is kind of avoiding me and being vague about things. I want to help but I don't know how.

Prolific welcome. I have two now as well and feel the same. The baby is now nearly six weeks and it has got easier this week. I have had to downgrade my expectations of what we can do and how long it will take to get out of the house! DS got very naughty and grumpy with me and I have found it helps to spend time Just playing with him and giving him attention at home. I asked him the other day if he wanted to go out and do something and he said he just wanted to play!

I was wondering what contraceptives to go on.always been on pill but can't take that whilst bf. Erm...ladies when is too soon to resume activity in your experience? is 2/3 weeks too soon?! With protection of course!! Had section so not as worried as I would have been like if I had vaginal birth...bleedings reducing now too.

Bit scared tho in case get pregnant again! Funny how I spent years trying to and now I'm scared of a repeat performance lol! I'm done with childbirth now :)

I am tempted by the coil and will give it a whirl. The pill failed me and going by the dates the only reason I can think of was that I had the flu. I need something that works regardless of me flu or being run down. It would be career suicide for me to have a 2nd baby in the next 18 months.

Jimmy Obn said min of 6 wks until we can start 'practice for #2'. The problem is that you can burst your stitches.

prolific Welcome and I can only imagine the hard work having two. One is enough to contend with!

Anna ended up at the drs yesterday with her constapation. I knew things were not right on Friday and I spoke to the nurse twice. Intution told me things were really not right by 10.30am yesterday morning. They took her temperature rectally and nothing came out so the dr scooped it out with her pinky. I would have done anything to have changed places with her. The poor girl was screaming in pain for half an hour after and I was still massaging the poop out of her last night. The dr has us feeding her 1oz of prune juice everyday until mid sept when temps fall.

Evening all. I've not managed to post for a while as things have been a but hectic.

Congrats mini, loving the name. So many great names on this thread. Congrats also to Selina and Prolific

Jimmy good on you for even thinking of resuming. DH knows to expect to wait for about 4 months before I could even think about it.

As for contraception, I'm not sure what to go for. When DS2 was born my hormone balance seemed to change and I can't have progesterone only as it gives me migraines. I tried the implant a few years ago and it was awful. DH is planning on getting the snip, but we need something in the meantime.

my life...how does that happen? Internally or by external pressure? Was fairly up for it...but that sounds scary?!!

I'm going back to the injection - it's great, I had no periods, no bleeding at all for 4 years Just a tiny needle every 11/12 weeks.

DH will never, ever have the snip - he's terrified of needles and hospitals!

We started slow last time after about four weeks, then proper sex after a couple of months! Same this time - my OH is pretty sensitive about waiting til I feel ok ready. It does feel different after birth!

That's what my boy just did!

It is quite daunting thinking about the 'physical' side of your relationship after a baby, but I have had 2 vaginal deliveries now and been back in the saddle (ahem!) from 3 weeks. This time I had a 2nd degree tear sutured due to DD2's hand being up at her mouth, but I would probably have waited longer with a CS.
From what I can remember, our options for contraception while bfing are mini pill, coil, implant, or injection. I was on the pill after DD1 but kept forgetting to take it, which wasn't really and issue but I really don't fancy having any more children so should go for something longer term.
cara my DD1 was 6lb2oz and DD2 was 6lb14oz. That is a healthy suggestion from your health visitor, so many people get embroiled in talking about their big bruisers of babies and can make you feel quite inadequate with a little one. You know yourself that they are growing well, I'm sure there was nothing you did yourself, she is obviously just petite. Im sorry to hear about your friend btw xxx
Hope the wee one is feeling a bit better want2b, that must be quite upsetting :(

I must admit, whilst I'm going to the gp next week to get the injection again, I'm not even considering resuming normal service as I'm still bleeding - sometimes quite heavily.

want2b I can remember using some freshly squeezed oj with dd1 which worked ok. However, she got herself into such a state on one occasion that she had to have a pessary in hospital. Boy oh boy, that worked Poor love, her relief was almost tangible.

I had the implant put in three weeks ago as used it the last time and found it worked well for me. Went for my 6 week check up today and needed a smear and found it really painful even though I had a section. Doctor says things can be sensitive and different for awhile after childbirth even not having a vaginal delivery. Last time had sex after 3 weeks and all fine, this time bleeding has only just stopped so not had sex yet.
I so agree that the time it takes to leave the house is so much longer with 3 kids plus a baby. Schools go back next Tuesday so looking forward to getting back into a routine and getting some peace while two are at school. Ds1 starts school so for the first 2 weeks will be half days and then only have ds3 whilst ds2 is at nursery 2and 1/2 hours a day.

Stunning. I think I have a blocked duct and am all shivery so worried it's mastitis. Would love a hot bath to ease it a bit (I've heard that's good) but S won't settle and (of course) dh is away.

Thanks Fraoch and button. The dr said to use prune juice as it has less sugar than apple or orange juice. We are also to warm her formula up. She will have it cold if we let her.

Jimmy I didn't bother to ask any more questions after I was told the stitches could go or my recovery be delayed. I was in so much pain after my CS that I don't fancy a repeat anytime soon (especially when it doesn't result in child coming out of me!).

Thanks fraocsh. We sound the same - my first was 6.10lb and tore me on the way out as his fingernails were so long!

Mitchell ouch about the smear! I'm going to have to have one in a couple of weeks and I'm not looking forward to it.

Eglu, if you're about, what type of carry are you using now with your moby? I was liking the newborn hug one, but I think she is getting too big! She's only little but the pouch bit seems too small now. I have started using the other one.

Cara I have been using newborn hughold as DD does not like the cradle hold at all. She won't settle in that position.

DD had her 6 week check with the HV yesterday and we both have the GP today. I am also due a smear but at my surgery they recommend waiting 3 months after the baby. They have already sent me 2 letters though.

I had my smear last year so not due for a bit now - yay!

I feel a bit better this morning but oddly a red patch on my breast has appeared. I thought the flu symptoms and red patches were both symptoms of mastitis but they seem to be taking it in turns. MW is coming again later so will ask her what she thinks. I am desperate to avoid antibs as with ds1 I had them and we both ended up with thrush. It was the kiss of death for bf that time and I really want to avoid that this time.

Ds will only go in the cradle hold if he's feeding. Otherwise he insists on being in the hug hold. Though at the moment I don't think I'll be slinging him - my breast is way too painful to have a little body against it all the time!

Hi all, is anyone else struggling to get their lo's to sleep anywhere which isn't them. DS2 has colic so this is not helping matters at all!
Any tips? I gave up trying to get DS to sleep in his basket, rod for my own back though about to start CC with him, oh joy!

I haven't even thought about contraception spent so many years trrying to get pregnant haven't thought about ensuring I dont!

Need a smear too, will wait 3 months then get it done.

Button and Eglu my DS2 feeds the same. Does not like being cradle held at all.
Hope you feel better Button and the mw sorts you out.

I'm stupidly feeling very sorry for myself today even though I know I'm incredibly lucky and I am very grateful but think I have a touch of the baby blues last few days. :(

Hope everyone else is well.

I hope you perk up soon pwb. I've been a bit teary myself but I think this is to do with the blockage&feeding issue more than anything. Being as ds is currently asleep on me I can't comment! I kind of think they're still so tiny, I don't worry about making a rod for my own back. None of mine have needed to sleep on me beyond 2-3 months and have slept through at a sensible age so I've obvioulsy done nothing too wrong before!

MW not been yet but I spoke to the bf counselling line earlier and they suggested seeing what happened tonight. If I was still poorly they said it was more than likely I'd need antibs but to hold off til tomorrow.

Also on their advice I'm taking pro&prebiotics in both tablet form and yoghurt form. This is hopefully going to help with the thrush I already have and maybe stave off nipple&oral thrush if I do end up on antibs.

So, we'll see how tonight goes .

Haven't been on for a while, congratulations to all the new arrivals and hope everyone is enjoying their little ones.

We've had a rough couple of nights - Henry is so unsettled in the evening and then again from 2-5am. I ended up taking him into the spare room last night and co-sleeping, but was worried that I was so tired that I would roll onto him so I barely slept anyway!

I went on a dairy-free diet last week to see if that helped with his reflux symptoms but then I slipped up and had a slice of pizza on Sunday so I think that's why I'm paying for it now :(

I've got excruciating pain in my left boob in between feeds, I thought it might have been a blocked duct and I've got a white blister on my nipple but I can express milk out of it so I'm not sure. I've been trying to massage it but it hasn't made a difference. It's not red and I don't have a temperature so I don't think it's mastitis, but whatever it is is horrible - the only time it doesn't hurt is when I'm feeding from it!

I'm having a lot of flashbacks to the birth as well which isn't very pleasant, it seems to happen mainly at night when I'm feeding and makes me feel really upset and anxious. I might see if I can get a copy of my notes so I can go through and see what actually happened as I can't remember much because of the gas and air. It seems a bit silly really as it could have been much worse and the important thing is that I have a healthy baby, I'm not sure why it's affecting me so much :(

Sorry for the long self-indulgent whinge.

Button have you been rubbing the red affected area from body down towards nipple, I can remember doing that and it did help ease the pain. Also cabbage leaves or a cold facecloth also helps. ( sure you have tried those but just incase)

Sorry got to go ds3 is starting to cry will come back as had other comments.

I agree with the you can't spoil a tiny baby by holding them and that with co sleeping very unlikely to roll onto them especially if they sleep in the crook of your arm. ( and obviously that you have not been drinking or taking drugs etc)

prolific We have a vibrating chair and swing that she sleeps in. She is currently snoozing away in hers now! At night if she can't sleep I stick her in her swing as the vibrating chair disturbs the dog.

They say you shouldn't put them in these things for too long but after hours and hours of crying I figure the benefit of a sane mother outweighs the damage done to the child. Also, Anna LOVES her car seat but her breathing becomes very darth vaderish so I save her carseat for when she is really bad.

button really hope you don't have mastitis.

Oh I feel better coming on here and realising how little our babies still are! Have had a couple of rough days, nothing major just lack of sleep and feeling like nothing is getting done round the house, not helped by OH's comments that he earns all the money, implying that I do f all!! Never mind the fact that i am getting maternity pay! I tried to go to a friend's house today, it was a disaster as it took an hour just to get out of the house, he ate about fifty biscuits and then we went for a walk and he just couldn't hack it. Kept falling over and crying and I couldn't do a thing as Hannah was in the sling. We are fine if we stay at home, walk the dogs, visit local shops etc, but when we try and do anything else it just seems to be more trouble than its worth, and DS is miserable :( I then feel bad for taking him out.
Sorry for the self indulgent winge!!

Spannerpants my friend had quite a lot of memory loss from her labour and she went in to talk to the midwife and fill in the gaps.

Good luck tonight button. Glad to hear you have the moby too! Mine's been an essential this time round. It seems so light to carry, although my shoulders are hurting today from sleeping funny and the moby carrying hasn't helped today

Carra2244 - you are not alone! My dp is being a sod at moment too. Had row last night only for him to fall asleep downstairs leaing me to do both ds and dd. Then this morning gets up and claims hes shattered!! I tried not to swing for him. It annoys me that the responsibility of feeding sits with me and he can swan off and watch film on iplayer then nod off for 8 HOURS. I also got the i pay for everything and get nothing back rubbish from him last night, didnt respond just chuckled to myself otherwise we would have had another shouting match! God i love lack of sleep!

to those thinking of contra, i too am. does anyone know how safe it is to carry on with pill when bf stops? have taken it for nearly 20 yrs on and off but seems to agree with me.
Also, is anyone else facing dilema of topping up with form? have been for last two wks after dd going intoo hosp due to weight loss and being told that even tho feeding all the time 10min between she should have gained due to amount of feeding, was prescribed meds to increase supply in hope that feeding then topping up would eventually lead to less form needed. i feed from me for at least 30 mins then she drains 4 oz.. such a nightmare feeding from me especially knowing that she is not content. starting to think i will wind down so that i can just ff.

also those with another child, what are your bedtime routines like? trying to get them both into bed is exhausting and dd 4 weeks wont go down in her mosses. am i expecting too much too soon..

i think this week things are getting tough and sleep deprevation is catching up.... lucky we have beautifuk babes to cuddle!! x x

Bedtime routines? You are joking! It's very much as and when in my house at the moment, esp with dh being away! In fact, ds loves to be put to bed by dd2 so that helps. She is a natural story teller so they both relish it.

Breast seems knotty and lumpy still and still red (yes am massaging as if my life depended on it ) but I'm feeling a little better in myself so hoping to avoid antibs for another day at least. Am popping pre&probiotics like sweeties in anticipation! HV came today and checked latch etc (used to be a bfc - a v useful woman).

S has put on 40g since last Tues so not stunning but a gain all the same. However, his jaundice is still very present so I have to take him to the gp in a min to get a referral to the children's ward for a blood test to check his bilubrin levels. Deep joy - can see a whole afternoon up there while I try to grit my teeth feeding from my bad side

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