July 2011 - the final push!

[buttonmoon78]

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I need a slap in the face.

Really I am not feeling too crappy or anywhere nearas as bad as some of you (Touches wood) so I should be grateful and realise I am being stupid. However this week at work has gone severely down hill got fed up of snide comments and HR/Payroll mucking me about despite being against the law what they are saying....and now I woke up this morning with Big Fat pruple stretchmarks on side and under bump. I got so many silver ones during puberty on thighs, calves, arms and boobs so knew I would get them but so suddenly, over the only part of my body that doesnt already have them and so ruddy big and ugly!! Dreading hubby seeing them...how stupid is that as he will see worse soon!

Keep telling myself - you wanted this and remember how sad I was after my 2 MC's...but I am having a serious case of body hate right now and still have 7 weeks to go...I know this probably sounds really pathetic but was dreading this moment and was hoping for small silver lines..(I know you cant request them but still!) so all that bio oil and hydration...what a waste...

Please tell me you had this at baby #1 and that you can talk yourself out of this irrational state?

God what a moany post....

JimmyChoo 0 - Pregnancy hormones 1

Have massaged you button - Hope Fab can keep in touch!

Massaged you? Messaged you ha ha!!

Right Im off to pee in a pot for my MW appointment before I post any more moans or silly typos here.

Hugs Jimmy. They will turn silver eventually do are not a permanent fixture. I can empathise - although I am bloody lucky and have thus far got away without any stretchmarks (and is second pregnancy) - I have put on a shameful amount of weight so far (3 stone when I last braved the scales at 27 weeks) and look the size of a small house. I hate all the pictures of me because my face is so fat and my arms are so fat. And hate DP seeing me naked at the moment. But, I do know it will go away again, as will your stretch marks.

Is sucky though. I have had a mc too and feel bad for moaning but you have to seperate out feeling of being happy to be pregnant and discomfort/annoyance. Is fine to feel both.

I keep thinking that this time last year I had just run a marathon in a really good time and was a slim and toned size 10. Now I can barely stand up for 10 minutes due to SPD and can't climb stairs without huffing and puffing like an old lady. It's pretty humbling. But you WILL get back to normal and have a beautiful baby to show for your troubles .

Oh Jimmy how awful! I'm sure the red lines will fade to silver gradually once you've given birth, aren't they supposed to do that?

heels I'm also going to go the cloth nappy route, but I definitely won't be taking any to the hospital, nor will I start grappling with them until at least 2 weeks after the birth. Like Ginfox said, meconium's apparently a killer to clean off, but also I just don't know what state of shock I'll be in after the birth (it's my first) and I just don't want to put myself under too much pressure straight away.

I was very pleased yesterday evening that I managed to find a knitted doll to take with me to antenatal class for the breastfeeding session instead of the enormous frog, however someone else was there with a stuffed moose, which was even more hilarious

It is interesting to see that others are becoming emotional. A couple of times in the last week I've had huge crying fits over nothing much. DH tries to get me to stop as he doesn't like seeing me upset, but once I start I can't stop for ages.

I don't have any new stretch marks yet, and hopefully won't get any more.

I stupidly bought new batteries for my scales and wished I hadn't. Two and a half stone so far. Eek!! I used to be a weight watchers leader though, so have no excuse for not losing at some point.

And your poor DS Button.

Aw never mind, they will fade like ladygonegaga said.
You need to sort out your pay but the rest... I get snide comments at school, in Tesco's.... It's usually a 'type' of person who is like that anyway and I certainly wouldn't choose them as friends so I just try to ignore.
One of my friends out of all our family and friends has thought to congratulate me (or DH) although DH's work collegues and bosses have congratulated him
Even though you MC'ed, it doesn't mean you have to feel positive and upbeat all the time now, do you know what I mean? We all go through days when we feel shit and we go through days when we feel fine. But that's why these threads are so great, we get to moan and groan, smile and laugh and see that actually we aren't weird or alone.
I don't think you could have avoided stretch marks whatever you did, if you're going to get them you will. If you like massaging the oil in keep doing it.
This is that dull boring uncomfortable time I mentioned way back when. Not soon enough to be exciting and be able to think, I wonder if it will be today but far enough along to be getting fed up at times.

Lol @ badgerwife - that's brilliant! I'm imagining someone trying to breastfeed a moose now!

I'm still in hospital, I've got protein in my wee and swollen feet & face but my blood pressure is ok. I've been hanging around all day, was accidentally missed by the consultant on the ward round this morning and have just been told I need to stay and have a growth scan tomorrow, so I'm pretty gutted not to be going home. The baby seems fine though so I guess that's the main think, I'm just really missing my partner and we had our new sofa delivered yesterday and I haven't even sat on it yet!!

Jimmy moan as much as you like. I've had a mc and serious fertility issues but feel it's sad if women who have had similar troubles don't feel like they are allowed to moan. It is one of the privileges of pregnancy to moan, whinge and generally complain throughout the entire time. The other main one is eating cake whenever you want. Oh, I think I might start a thread about this in Chat.....

badgerwife I nearly spat my drink out at the thought of someone bf a moose!

Spanner I'm glad you're doing ok. Hopefully the growth scan will be just another hoop to jump through and then you can go and sit on your new sofa

Jimmy I was enormous with dc1 and had lots of stretchmarks but they do fade quite quickly IME. And as each one has got smaller, I've never had any new ones. Though with this one turning into a heffalump who knows! How'd it go with the MW?

I'm still really uncomfortable. And not able to walk far at all. DS's teacher suggested this afternoon that DD1 should collect him from the class and bring him to me at the gates which was lovely of her. I've wondered about it but they have really strict rules about no under 16s collecting kids so to make a concession for a 13 year old for me was quite touching. I'll still take him in the mornings but at least I'll get a break at the more manic time of day!

And yes - whinging is ok, regardless of your particular history! It's allowed, officially.

Wow, what a catch up! Our router got killer in the severe weather on Monday so haven't been able to see what's happening in my virtual world till I came in to work
Sorry about your present situation spanner, but hopefully your scan will go well tomorrow and you can enjoy the new sofa x
That's not nice to feel so down jimmy, with any luck your cloud will lift soon and you will feel better. What are the comments at work btw? Have to say your comment to button made me giggle as I thought you were giving out virtual massages . I have been v lucky again with strech marks so far, only got them on my boobs last time. I went on scales last week (weight-obsessed colleagues were at it in the office) and look in line to put on same as I did with DD - about 2 stones. My colleague put on 5(!!!) stones with each of hers.
Oh badger that would have been hilarious!
twit I was asked to do something similar re b/fing at our local unit, which basically involved going in to talk about my experience in an honest way - I assume the aim is to promote it to your group. I have to say that I didn't have pain when feeding, aside from a couple of times when I got slightly cracked. I used lansinoh (sp) which I got from the mw's.
Excellent outcome MissL!
Really sorry to hear that Fab's situation has gotten so serious , I will fb her when our new router arrives.
Thank you so much for checking your book confuddled it was so sweet of you! I had my consultant app yesterday, who read my notes from 1st birth and said I was much better to be in Glasgow for this one, which I'm happy to go along with if it's the safest option. I didn't bleed when I retained the placenta, but if I were to haemorrhage badly then it would be pretty awful - even the emergency helicopter transfer would mean I would take at least an hour to get to Glasgow. As my wee sis kindly pointed out - "we don't want you dead"! Now just got to decide where to go...are all you Glasgow ladies going to the Southern?
Felt very sorry for my DH last night. Waited to put out dinner till DD was in bed (because she is as bad a mooch as the dogs) and set it down on the table. I even got the 'thank-you-very-much-wife-peck-on-the-lips' before he tucked in...hadn't even lifted his cutlery when the pager went off . It was a chimney fire 20 miles up the road so he was starving when he got back!
I really am not sure how the whole weight of the baby thing goes. I was 8lb6oz, DH was 9lb4oz, DD was 6lb2oz...
I'm sure there was more I was going to comment on, but sure I will remember when I'm in bed unable to sleep or something...

eglu I can safely say I have hit an emotional peak now.....tbh I haven't really been hormonal or emotional most of this pregnancy but this week has seen the tears rising slowly to the surface....To the point that I was just sat in the drs having only just made it through the traffic in time, only to find out the seal on my urine sample bottle had gone and I had wee in my bag and car seat.... So rushed in with drippy wee bag only to find out appointments are running late anyway.....sit down to wait and calm back down and read all your replies to my earlier rant......only to start crying in the waiting room??!!! (thanks everyone btw for virtul slaps! Much needed) A fellow Pregnant delayed woman next to me then asks if I'm ok to which I reply yes and that I'm just feeling overwhelmed today and a bit teary and the SHE starts crying saying she knows how I feel.

My new midwife comes out with the "OMG here we go" look on her face and takes her off leaving me still blubbing.

I felt a right idiot when in there. BUT when she got my bump out she said "oooooo there's a nasty fresh set if stretch marks... they are the first of many" Jeez thanks!!!??!!!!!

She was nice enough otherwise but couldn't tell me for sure whether was head down or not, she said it could be head or bum under my ribs....but the doppler suggested head lower down but she said they are not accurate as baby could be positioned higher in my body anyway. From all of the movements I have now would say baby is still breech. She said at my next appt at 36 weeks they will request a scan if my movements don't marry up with the midwife position. she was really poking baby about, so much so it hurt

Otherwise bump is measuring bang on target. I'm ok just a blubbering wreck in need of chocolate..

Thanks for advice re leaving cloth for a few weeks. Another emotional wreck here, was blubbing for hours the other night after DP said we'd be struggling to finish everything I want to get done in the house before pip arrives. Ended up scrubbing kitchen tiles at 11pm and crying my eyes out!!

Sorry about the stretch marks jimmy, sending hugs and chocolate your way.

Oh, it's a big hormonal mess in our house too - I've just cancelled my mate coming )with takeaway) tonight as I'm just too knackered so I'm feeling down as I'd been looking forward to it for ages.

DD1 comes in from walking the dog and her boyf has just ditched her. And she's on her peiod so she's a blubbering wreck anyway.

Happy happy days

Hello ladies, sorry to hear about the crying and Spanner please let us know how you get on.
I heard some sad news today about a friend at work who had her 20 week scan yesterday and they found a problem - I don't know any details beyond the fact the outlook is not good. It made me feel really guilty for having had good news on Monday. She's lovely and it all seems so unfair. It's made me realise how very lucky I am.
My mat cover started on Wednesday and it feels really weird handing stuff over which I wasn't really expecting. I've got 4 more weeks at work and I'm feeling a bit unsettled about things, particularly in light of my friends news...
Sending virtual hugs (and massages) to you all :)

MissL I finished work 2 weeks ago tomorrow, and it did feel very strange. I've moved jobs loads of times, but never left knowing I'm coming back. I noticed that people stopped telling me work-related stuff/news, presumably because they thought I wouldn't be interested or affected. Part of me didn't give a stuff (I'm not back for a year, yay!), but I was a little bit miffed TBH.

Havent cried yet today! Maybe hormones will leave me alone for a bit.

Discovered why I've felt so pants today - got tonsillitis on the way I think. A sure sign of doing too much

MissL survivor guilt is not a comfortable thing to feel. I'm sorry your friend is going through such a bad time.

evening ladies, well its taken me over hour to catch up, cant believe how many posts there have been in less than a week. Not much to say other than after nearly 3 weeks, 2 lots of anti biotics and and loads of paracetamol i finally slept quite well last night (chest infection and bad cold). i finish work 2 weeks tomorrow - then go to butlins for a midweek break the week after. Still going to see take that next saturday too.
i had a growth scan on monday abubs is weighing in at 4lb 12oz, i was very surprised as my little boy was only 5lb 8oz when born at 39 weeks. Hope you feel better soon buttonmoon and that your home from hospital Spanner.
suz xx

I thought I'd better catch up before it gets too long!

As you can see I'm still here! Getting tightenings (or the pain of them at least) a lot lower down now, more pressure in my pelvis. I have a scan in the morning, lost track of which number scan this is now! I think it will be my last one, although they'll keep booking me in for two weeks time. My youngest was due early February and I said all along I didn't think she'd see the same year but she was a New Year baby, so what's the betting this one will do the same? June will be 34+2 weeks and just over 4lb 12oz - aprox.

Not sure what's been happening lately, I keep going faint, yesterday in Tesco I almost collapsed (but didn't lose consciousness) if I hadn't been standing next to OH and falling in his direction and been on crutches I'd have been on the floor. Had some at the same time as tightenings but it seems to be coincidence.

Something really weird just happened. My needles and yellow box are next to each other in my bedroom. They're on top of the TV so about chest height for me and because they're next to each other I do my injection and drop them straight in the box. OH was just looking for his keys under the sofa and pulled out nine used syringes! We have no idea how they could have got there. At least they're safety syringes that have a cover spring out to protect the needle!

Cara, I know what you mean. I hated using the micro nappies for the weeks it took to grow into the Cotton Bottoms. If you think that's bad, I sat with my top open in the unit's nursery holding my youngest and had no idea how to feed her, I mean it's not like I'd not nursed a child two days before or anything!

I hope MNHQ manage to sort things out for FAB, I'd hate to lose her. They've already made one step, thankfully! If anyone wants to pass a message to her and isn't on Facebook, you can message me and I'll pass it on, either through the group or PM.

inbetweener, sounds like you're getting tightenings. If there's no pain with them it's BH. If everything is happening above your bellybutton chances are that baby is head down.

Twit, home births can be amazing and I hope you have one like the one I was at last year!

Christmas, hope you're feeling better, sounds awful

highheels, she'll probably be in micro for awhile and I don't have that size in cloth so she'll be in disposables.

Button, glad to hear they've moved your appointment!

Jimmy, don't worry about it, everything I've been through and I still moan during pregnancy!

Fraochsmum, is the decision just about where to deliver? (trying to follow posts at 1am is not fun )

Reading all the pregnant hormonal stories is making me wonder if I just divert all of mine to my uterus

Def tonsillitis - off to gp in a min to get some drugs. Slept terribly - kept waking up in pain hoping it was time for more paracetamol but it wasn't

Did a weigh in this morning as I'm getting loads more comments. 1st 6.8lbs. Not bad at all!

DH coming home tonight for 4 whole nights! What's the betting we'll be rowing by tomorrow lunch time?

After being quite mopey the last couple of weeks I am now bouncing with energy. I went out last night! To a gig! It was Pete and the Pirates at Heaven (London). Great band, great music. Crowd were very nice and respectful of my bump. Had the band sign their new CD for me afterwards. DP commented that it was like when we first started seeing one another and I dragged him all over London seeing bands in strange venues. Having had months of not really going out I now have 2 festivals and another gig before DC2 is due - and one if not 2 festivals within 6 weeks of the birth. Hurrah!

Spanner I hope your scan goes well and you can get back to your home comforts soon. Confuddled good to see you're still here, I'm glad you've managed to hang on so long. Sorry to hear about all the people feeling hormonal or ill. DH has got a cold at the moment and I'm really hoping I can avoid catching it. My heartburn has gone through the roof in the last couple of days, I think I could keep Gaviscon in business single handed at the moment! Trying not to moan too much though as I'm feeling fine apart from that.

Can't believe I've got less than 8 weeks to go. I'm so excited, although a little nervous that I won't know what I'm doing as I've never even held a newborn before, let alone been in charge of looking after one. I'm just hoping it'll all come naturally once the baby is here!

Sounds great stangirl! I love gigging too, have been to 2 during this pg and have a songwriters festival on this weekend. I was really tempted to go and see Adam Ant last week, but the thought of a 6-hour round trip wasn't very appealling - after the most uncomfortable 7-hour rt to Perth, tho think it was because monkey was doing the can-can the entire way :( Very jealous of all your festivals
Bummer button, that really must be awful at the moment :(
Yes confuddled the concern is about where I give birth, or rather having to deal with things if the worst happens. We are very remote here being 150 miles from Glasgow (3 hour drive) and a helicopter/plane would need to be dispached from there in an emergency, assuming it's not being used elsewhere in the Highlands/Islands. We have a really lovely mw-led unit, but no facilities for surgery - it's not even possible to have more pain relief than G&A! I'm worried about when to go up tho as my 1st labour was no longer than 6 hours and really don't want to sit in a car for the most part of it
I've had a wee confab with Fab on fb and she's really thankful that people are thinking of her, and wants to "pass on my well wishes to the group of hormonal beasties on MN" and bar all this nonsense, she is feeling very chipper at the moment xxx

Don't worry hefner, it will just come to you I had very little experience of small people before DD, but you do just adapt.
My mw prescribed Gaviscon for me btw x

Back from GP. Got Gaviscon advance tablets for heartburn so we'll have to see what happens with them!

Have got viral tonsillitis so there's nothing to do other than wait it out and take paracetamol. And because I'm taking it at night too I can't have it more frequently than 6 hourly so for the last 2 hours of that I'm climbing the walls! GP was lovely though - said if I'd been working he'd have given me a sick note for a week but being a mum it wouldn't have much impact. He's 'prescribed' me an afternoon kip every day though!

I'm really prone to tonsilitis so to be told for the first time ever that it's not bacterial was a bit of a blow to be honest. Had a bit of a cry in the car cos I just feel so pants.

hefner before DD I had only ever held 2 newborns and I had insisted on only doing it when sat on a sofa surrounded by cushions. They're hilariously scrunched up to start with but make odd primeval noises. I thought DD was like a wonderful little alien or grublet. The "startle" reflex is fun too.