November 2011. Bumps, kicks and less feeling sick.

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Thought I'd take the plunge and go for it.

Hi everyone, not been on for what feels like ages! Although it's only a couple of days I think. Been really busy, 16 week appt, bloods taken and hb heard :) Everything seems fine, had a quick chat with mw over options like a waterbirth and she was encouraging.

Also had assessment for the Masters, what a shambles, left me feeling a bit miserable to be honest. Ah well never mind.

Sorry to see people are still a bit under the weather, really hope everyone is feeling better soon.

Argh dying of migraine. So bored. TV to loud, computer too bright, book to strainy, dong nothing just leaving me too much concentrating on pain capacity. Cant sleep and paracetamol proving gorssly ineffectual. Thanking God my mother in law is here today to look after my son, but dreading his bedtime which is pretty much a mummy or nothing deal.

Voodoomunkee, sorry about the assessment. I'm two thirds of the way through a doctorate which is currently also disheartening in the extreme. No fun at all.

My lower belly is feeling a bit hard, but I have no idea where the baby is lying. You know, apart from in my lower belly. And also no idea when "business" might resume in this household as opposed to falling nauseously into an exhausted and very unbusinesslike groaning heap at the end of the day. Though my placenta is lying right accross, like completely accross, my cervix - they didnt tell me to take any precautions, but then they didnt tell me where my placenta was, one sonographer told the other and she recorded it. Not sure whether that should mean I absent myself from any forthcoming business deals or not.

Can I just say sex now?

Caliphora He he, I love Flight of the Conchords and Business Time :) Though my favourite is

In case any of you haven't seen/heard here's

I saw these guys live in New Zealand and they were fab.

Not much going on here apart from quite a few headaches the past couple of days. Just had a lovely curry and settling down to watch Bourne Identity 2.

Hi all, I'm definitely in the phase where I can feel the bump and the location of its occupant - particularly in bed when Bunny floats downwards towards whichever hip I've been lying on, then if i lie on my back I have an uneven bump. Remember this phase fondly from DS, noticeable at last but before it gets uncomfortable! Also feeling lots of little flutters and taps which is reassuring me that this time I don't have an anterior placenta, although if anything I think it's stuck to the frontish but on my left side, at least thats where I was conscious of a lot of pulls and pressure early on, so its a hunch.
Business? my libido always go awol when I'm preggers and breastfeeding. I may have to force myself to get businessminded soon for DP though.

I love Flight of Conchords too but not listening to cd at mo as its just not toddler frienly when you find yourself singing one!

Juststarting, thats where i plan to be one day (well at the end of a doctorate hopefully). Just got to keep plodding on, hope you find some motivation soon!

Forgot to mention that at mw appt my bp seemed lower than normal, not that she seemed worried, but my blood pressure NEVER changes. Also that because I am rhesus negative I have to have some additional injections (which used to be offered after baby had been born last time I was pg!). Joys. Like many I am sure I am not alone in absolutely hating needles! I just about manage to get through the blood taking without running away!

Hope everyone has something nice planned for the weekend?

Hope your headache is better just starting. Try not to get disheartened vodoomunkee it will be worth it in the end. Not sure how I managed to finish my masters whilst working full time as was hell at the time but got through it and just a distant memory now. Maybe a bit like giving birth?!?!
Managed to sit up last night to watch an episode of the wire so slowly improving. Looking forward to getting back to normal as feeling useless at the moment. Thank goodness for the iPad!
Doppler has been dispatched so excited by that. A friend who mc at 6 weeks a few months ago is pregnant and going for a scan today at 10 weeks so keeping fingers crossed all is ok.
Had strange dream last night where I was chatting to my great aunt who passed away 10years ago.
Haven't felt baby move yet but not sure what it feels like.only 16weeks so maybe too early?
Hope everyone has a good weekend especially if you have the bank holiday.

cal and moosey you've made me laugh but now I have business time and sugarlumps in my head. voodoo sorry to near about the masters assessment, it may e better than you think, fingers crossed. I did my doctorate 10 years ago and I found it mega tough without being pg sent me to a very dark place. So huge kudos to you and juststarting and more power to your elbow. It is worth it.

My news is not so good. In hospital, dripped up and full of tramadol. Gallstone attacks getting worse and they are threatening surgery. Babs is ok, hope it isn't enjoying drugs too much.

pam hope that the hospital is treating you well & that you feel better soon, hopefully without the aid of surgery!! I'm sure baby is just happy being with you and knowing you are getting the treatment you need x x

voodoo I'm sorry to hear that you don't feel the masters assessment went well, fingers crossed for you that it works out x x

juststarting I hope that the migraine has gone, they are horrible things x x

caz and others with colds/poorly, I hope that you are feeling better. I know how you feel, my darling DS (or it could've been my colleague I sit next to when in the office) has kindly shared their cold with me :(

poppet I am with you, poor DP has forgotten what businesstime is but he seems just as happy to cuddle on the sofa :)

moan warning
I've had a tough couple of days with hormones, feeling low & work :(
Thursday I spent most of it in tears.... one patient said that her new target would be to make it to Nov to see a pic of me & baby (her last target was Royal Wedding) which sent me to tears as soon as I got out of her house; followed by a patient who decided to shout at me & my colleague for trying to help her....more tears in the car; followed by going to a patient who wasn't in, but I had to check round al the windows etc to make sure she hadn't fallen which = getting soaked as it was raining...get back into car and cry :( Got home exhausted and by the time DS was put to bed I had had enough & wanted to curl up quietly...DP wanted to know what was wrong but wouldn't accept my saying "bad day, don't want to talk about it" so got stroppy saying he'd obviously done something wrong.....cue disagreement (we don't tend to argue) and yet more tears!!! Then no sleep until 4am and up at 6am

Yesterday was better, though my manager got stroppy with me as I needed to leave at 12 for MW appt (wasn't supposed to be working but changed hours so she wasn't on her own!!!).

Had 16wk appt... wasn't with my midwife, not sure who she was (apart from a midwife) as she didn't introduce herself, she then talked to me as though I knew nothing (despite it clearly stating not only was this 2nd pg but also I am a community nurse on the page in which she was looking!!!) It was only when she saw my stretch marks kindly left by my DS that she asked re: prev pg saying "I assumed you were a 1st timer as you look so young" . Heard HB straight away, was really clear and sounded great DP had tears in his eyes :o. It was the end of the morning appts but she really didn't want to give us time of day and didn't even let us ask any questions, or ask how I was feeling!!! Will be calling my MW on monday to see if she'd mind me booking an extra appt with her as really want to chat to her about a few things (and she wanted to see me re: antenatal depression so shouldn't see a problem with it).
Then got DS home, cooked a roast & DS decided to become the devil child (I blame tiredness at end of term) so DS got sent to bed with bread & butter - cue guilty mummy & tears - and the roast remains in the oven to be heated today!!!

Bloody pg hormones and the rollercoaster that comes with them!!!

Hopefully today will be a better day :)

looks like the end of this week has been hard for a few of us. Pamco, I hope you improve and can make it through the pregnancy without an operation. Though they've been looking at my gall bladder too due to pain in that area that started just before I got pregnant, and apparently gall bladder removal is the second most common surgery during pregnancy, after appendectomy, so hopefully they have a good idea how to manage it ok.

Bumpandisaacsmum, tough couple of days. I work in mental health, and it does get harder to hold other people's difficulties and not get a bit swamped by them when you're feeling swamped by your own emotions already. As for this midwife, she just sounds rubbish. I hope you get to speak to your midwife as well.

Still feeling rather rough in what I hope is the tail end and not just a lull in this migraine. Had loads of them at this kind of time with my last pregnancy as well. Possibly not actually all that helpful to have also had "business time" in my head since yesterday. Still, it offered some respite for that song about it being springtime they keep playing on Cbeebies at the momment.

Hi All!

Pam big hugs and hope you're feeling better!

I am lucky enough to have 2 weeks off work now! Off to the football tomorrow, where I will no doubt behave most inappropriately for a pg woman!

Then we're going to spend some time clearing out the spare room to move my dhs study in there, so we can start turning the study into nursery!

Hope all having nice weekends, despite the colds/migranes/gallstones etc!

Morning all in bed with a banana whilst dh cleans the kitchen. What a star! Did tesco online shop so got him red wine and some ice cream. He too has forgotten what business time is as it is just a distant memory!
Had pain in the night so was awake 2 to 5 so resting today. Hope everyone else who has been I'll is feeling better today.
have to book my nct classes as haven't done that yet. What classes are people doing? I would love the antenatal aqua classes but nowhere near does them. May try the yoga ones once better.
Anyone used a doula before? Thinking about it although dh would prefer just him and me.
Still undecided re the great nappy debate. Have vouchers for some free disposable ones so will use them...being a canny scot! :-)

cookie9, I'm in Essex and the council had a fre re-usable nappy trail thing you could do too - might be worth checking there is no scheme like that in your area. It all helps. Plus with re-usables it means you can try it out before a larger financial commitment. I make it sound like buying a house. Though to be fair, i fear having a baby might be a bigger financial commitment. Especially if you let yourself loose on ebay.....

Afternoon all,

Been away for the weekend, a sort of dirty weekend away for old married peeps (well married for ten months anyway!!), was lovely, went to the place where we got married and just chilled out, definitely going to go back for our second wedding anniversary next year, have already lined up my folks to baby and doggy sit :)

Sorry to hear that there are some having a bad week, hopefully next week will be a better one, I've found that I just can't do as much as I was before I was pregnant, otherwise my bump aches and I generally have to go to bed even earlier than I have to already!!!

I have been waiting for my downs test results, which were waiting for me when I got back, so relieved that it came back as being low risk, roll on the 20 week scan now!!!

Pamsco you have my deepest sympathy - I suffered from gallstones during my first pregnancy and it was horrific, the pain is indescribable sometimes, in many ways its much worse than labour. And I feel I have to warn you to beware of sanctimonious bitches who will give you the 'ooh, painkillers when you were pregnant? I didn't even take a paracetamol when I was pg, if I had been you, I would just have refused, but then my baby's health was more important to me than my own' . I have had this reaction a number of times when I have 'admitted' to having been ill during my pregnancy, and when someone says this to you its like getting kicked in the teeth. I have myself steeled that next time someone says it, I will respond with 'oh, but you must love your child more than I do! you're probably a better mother all round, here would you like to adopt mine? you'd probably do a far better job than me...!' I hope I have the nerve when the opportunity arises....!

Long post alert: has been awhile since I raised my head above parapet, hello again and sorry to those of you having a rough time.
We finally got our DS result back this week, low risk and no further investigations needed, which was reassuring, and will see mw this weds so hope to hear hb and that all is ok. Bump still tiny, am in my 'fat' jeans but not sure how long I'll be able to continue - tried looking in NL and Mothercare at a retail park yesterday and hated everything, so that's a good start! We also looked at cots, prams & carseats; DH going nuts about the prices, so I think we may be ebaying for a travel cot (or I think I'd like an Amby) for the first bit and getting 2nd hand cot from friends for nursery. DH still wants to buy Dutch bike and running buggy, so no wonder it will all cost a lot (rolls eyes). Not buying anything until past 20-wk scan, although have made booties and just doing sleeves of a top (won't finish anything up tho just yet), am buying adorable pattern for a hoodie with ears for next.
I am full of hormones, ridiculous, just cried cos hubby went off for a run without kissing me goodbye, and have felt like am swimming in custard all day am so tired (and didn't do a lot today or yesterday so no excuse other than a tough fortnight at work, crap sleep and slight headache). Where's my 2nd tri energy burst!?
NCT registration will complete this week for antenatals and am doing local Pilates-based class, although am least pg person there and feel like mild fraud - can still merrily do same stuff as post-natal ladies without feeling uncomfortable. Told a few more people at work this week as needed to organise some stuff for a few weeks time, one of women said 'you're not even showing' as though I was lying and just making a fuss . Another girl in admin office is expecting at same time as me, her line manager going nuts 'cos she's not been doing well & has been mostly in 2days/week since she found out; wasn't sure what to say except that it can be tough for some people and she should be into the best phase soonish (shrugs).
Sorry for length and random thoughts thrown out of brain as they occurred to me nature of post! Hope all doing well and that last few scans and all 16wk appts going well.

Awww Jamama I hear you on the tiny bump thing. Or i did. I was minute with DS til around 6 months and then it went crazy. This time I'm huge from the get go as he destroyed my tummy muscles. I've started knitting a blankie in lovely merino for Bunny but impressed at the booties and tops, clothing is beyond me bar xmas stockings!
We had a Miyo baby hammock much like the Amby and I'd really really recommend them. DS slept through almost 12 hours regularly in his. Sadly because of his height he outgrew it at 4 months not 7 and he never slept through again til 16 months! I'd love a Dutch bike too, but there's no rush for your DH to get one, as you can't safely cycle with a wee one til they're around 10 months, before then their neck muscles aren't strong enough to cope with a helmet and the jolts. DS LOVES cycling though. Bike was one of hsi first words and he eagerly sits still with his chin in the air to get his helmet put on!
Pamsco so sorry to hear about the gallbladder. A lovely friend of mine ended up having to have hers taken out about a month after having twins, so gutting as she'd avoided abdominal surgery for the birth itself!

Thanks all. Still stuck in hospital. Mw has forgotten me as I'm on surgery ward, they were supposed to bring doppler over daily but out of sight out of mind. Haven't eaten since Wednesday but managed to force some mash down at lunch then a dihydrocodiene for the crippling pain. Poor me I say :)

snoozle if anyone dared comment on my drug taking I'd maybe like to show them what curled up on a ward floor screaming in sheer agony was like, unable to sit, stand or breath. All meds are signed off by a senior obstetric consultant. I do feel crappy about taking them, but not guilty. Me and babs will sort it out between us.

Pamsco hope the painkillers kick in soon and the mw remembers you today!

I had a better nights sleep so feeling like I can cope better today. Small steps! Neighbours were playing bongos at 1am but was dead to the world.

Will have to call mw as missed my appointment as couldn't move from bed. Tried to telephone but they needed hospital number which I couldn't give them. Had so much blood etc tests recently that don't think it would make that much difference. What I am more concerned about is giving birth. Not sure how many rooms birthing centre has and really don't like hospitals so want to avoid the labour ward if at all possible. As first pregnancy don't want to risk home birth in case something goes wrong and have to be transferred.

Dh is very screamish but we watched a video of a water birth and he said he would love to catch the baby as it is being born. awww!

Hello all, feeling sorry and sending much love to all those having bad weeks. voodoo I totally feel your pain I'm working full time and doing my MSc and the other week I finally had to admit defeat and submit a mitigating circumstances form didn't even sit my exam as I decided I couldn't remember anything and that I'd been do poorly in first trimester that I didn't know anything anyway! So best of luck to you!

I spent yesterday house hunting we have decided on a new build so we can part exchange and get in and settled prior to beans arrival. Found a beautiful house but it's 25k more than we planned to spend OH is convinced we can afford it but I'm really worried, plus have realised how finically dependent I'm going to become on him and it makes me really uncomfortable.

Took my mum out yesterday for a very delayed mothers day lunch (delayed due to ms) it was a set menu and I ate so much yummy food
Bean must have been do squashed in there haha.

Hope everyone enjoys the rest of the weekend!

I'm sorry pamco, it sounds awful. What kind of prognosis do you have? Do they think they can get it under control or will they have to do surgery?
I'm not too bad with being weepy when pregnant so far. Keep telling my partner he should count himself lucky for that as I send him off to do another pooey nappy.

Hey girls, Pam, sorry you are feeling so rubbish, a lass I work with was poorly through her pg and was on all sorts of prescribed meds all the way through and I don't imagine it was through choice, much like you it was neccesity! Hope you are better soon, or at least have the pain and discomfort manageable. Jam, I have the odd day where i have hormones making me sob, think we just have to accept that this is part of how pg gets us!

H007 and everyone else, thanks for your words of encouragement, I hope that I do get further than I am expecting to with this MA but will just have to try again if not! H007 I think you did the right thing re the circumstances form, if you arent up to it then there is literally no point in pushing too hard when you know you can manage better at a later date! I took a whole year out of my degree as I knew I wasnt in the right frame of mind, didnt do me any harm as I graduated with a 1st!

Hope everyone is having a great weekend. As it is a bh I am off today (yay) and put hols in for a couple other days this week. Needed the time off I think. I have rearranged bedrooms, chucked mountains of stuff out and recycled about a rooms worth of stuff! Suffering slightly now as am utterly shattered and my carpal tunnel is raging in my arm. Ah well, am pleased with what I have got done! Still need to go to bed early but am managing without an afternoon nap so making the most of it and keeping busy.

Cookie, I want a water birth too. MW was quite encouraging about it and the birthing ctr near me is re-opening after a refurb about 3 months before due date so am hoping I can have a wb!

Also, just picked up heartbeat on home doppler at 14 weeks! So exciting! Though my son was not enamoured of our attempts to delay his garden time and get him to listen!

A quick hello to all. Sorry and hugs to you poorly ladies. Can't be fun.

I'm chugging along nicely at 15 weeks today. I've a hospital appointment tomorrow as I had an op to have a 2 and half pound cyst removed 8 years ago and I was cut from belly button to pubic bone and may have scar tissue inside. They just want to check it out I think, hence me being under joint care. Not sure what they can do as I'm having this baby either way

Bought some maternity clothes as I'm off to the IOW festival in June and wanted something other than jeans. H and M Mamma is great. Bought loads in there. Bump is deffinatly there and hard, although with my scar down my front it's hard to feel sometimes. It also gives my belly a 'bum' look as the scar is tighter than my skin. Nice Tee hee. I'm not proud - just greatful to be in this condition.

Hope you all have a nice bank holiday. I'm working today and was Sat and Sun but am off for three days after.

Afternoon all,

Pam hope you are feeling better soon and that you can get something to eat soon that wont cause all that pain!!!

Good to hear that there are some more of us hearing heartbeats, am very tempted to get a doppler, but might try with a stethoscope next time I'm down at my folk's place.

No bank holiday here, so been at work, although have a cold so came home a little early :) Hope everyone had a lovely day today, or at least a less horrible day :)