October 2011 Baby Bus ... part 3

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Morning all, hope everyone is ok this morning. Sorry for all those having tough times, especially all the family problems hope things pick up for you soon.

Congrats on the baby girl cupoftea

Cheshire I bought a couple of pairs of jeans and t-shirts from gap (in the sale because no way am I paying full price in there!) but I just live in those and while it's been hot some cotton stretch maxi dresses which don't look amazing but are comfortable!

I am quite big. Tends to be a bit flabby in the morning but then by the evening have a full round bloated bump. No kicking yet - had it at 16 weeks with DS but this time just bubbly and pulse-like feelings. Was chatting to mw about it last week and she said I should start to feel them soon and not to worry as soon I wont stop feeling them!! Managed to hear both heartbeats, one was about 160 and the other about 140 so I think I'm having a boy and a girl but still going to wait until they come to see, they heartbeats might balance out a bit later in the pregnancy. She did say I was a bout half way though in terms of growth so I'm likely to be earlier than I thought.

Still have quite bad sickness in the morning. For the past three mornings have not managed to keep anything down - so frustrated as I hate feeling sick.

My sister had a gorgeous little girl on Monday but she's really struggled with feeding and had to go back into hospital yesterday which my sister was distraught about. She went from 7.12 to 6.7 in 5 days so they hospital are monitoring her and topping up with formula. She's BFing but doesn't have much milk - any tips on encouraging it to come through?

Thanks Penguin and BB3 I will investigate Next and Gap too. I really like Next some of their newborn clothes feel lovely and fluffy and soft. New Look seem to have a lot of stuff on their website so I will try their store as well next weekend.

Mothercare can bugger off now I am not even buying my pram from there after yesterday.

There seem to be quite a lots of 'voluminous' tops around at the moment (not sure of the official name) that aren't maternity but will expand nicely and can be worn afterwards too. I got a lovely one in next, a kind of gypsy-style top with a low elasticised waist and lots of room for growth (still not much yet. In the morning lying down I can feel that my lower tummy is a bit firmer than it was but that's it).

Not been in yet but I've heard before that Mothercare can be a bit of a rip-off. I guess they rely on hormonal mothers and excited fathers going mad with the credit cards!

Btw - is anyone else getting lots of headaches?

This is about the 5th day in a row that I've had one at some point or other. I've tried to avoid taking anything but last night I had to give in and take one paracetamol it was so bad. Took the edge off but was still there (still got it now). Trying to drink loads of water in case it is dehydration but I swear I'm not drinking any less than I have been all the way through so far.

DH wants me to go to the dr but not sure what they can do. Don't want to take drugs unless I absolutely have to.

I read on the NHS site that it can be common, although another site said they are mainly in the first trimester (I'm 15 wks today).

Cheshire Mothercare is rubbish for clothes, and crying over ridiculous things is also perfectly normal. I've never been one for crying much, but last pregnancy I cried over the daftest things... whilst also laughing at how ridiculous I was being... but crying seemed like the only way to deal with it. Stupid hormones.
Well done on your husband for being so understanding.

I got most of my clothes from Peacocks last time. They aren't great quality, but they're cheap and as I'll only be wearing them for a few months so it doesn't matter. So far I've bought a few empire line tops (the voluminous ones) some leggings, and I'm wearing my mid-weightloss jeans with a belt to keep them up. :o

I'm getting very cheesed off and very stressed with work. The move to the new house I mentioned isn't going well. I'm really struggling with the moving and handling, my neck and shoulders are killing me today. My bump seems to be growing daily and as I get bigger it's going to get so much harder.

Anyone know whether with the new sick notes you're able to be signed off sick from one job and not another?
I hate being so stressed about it all.

hey everyone, sorry to hear that some of you are not having a good time at the moment. cupoftea congrats on the news of a girl on the way for you :)

Im 18 weeks today and still not got a bump! or feeling anything! few weeks until my scan so incredibly nervous about it, have ordered an angel doppler too to listen in. I heard the hb at 16 week mw appointment so there is someone in there lol.

I have a very long torso and was told that I wont show till late and will have a very neat bump because of it, but I have had people say- are you sure there is something in there? nice hey?!

I have done nothing allllll weekend! hardly moved from my sofa haha
I have heartburn aswell , never had it before I was pregnant and had to google it to find out what it was! Milk seems to help a little bit but not too much and it is randomly comes about ( i am eating so much I have no idea what is kicking it off!)

Females release a lot of stress hormones through climbing (not so much for men). It's good for us to cry :)

yep headaches here but it has been high 20's all week so assumed I was dehydrated.

Cheshire - I love H&M maternity and baby clothes. Got some maternity jeans and stretchy black and white maternity/nursing T-shirts there. Also lots of cheap babygrows and vests in bright colours, not the usual powder pink and blue. Plus many of them are organic and made in countries other than China - quite important to me given the scare stories about sweatshops and poisonous paint, etc! Boden seem good too - I've ordered some pretty maternity T-shirts.

Also, re the sick note, I think it depends what activities you do in the two jobs. If one is more strenuous or stressful than the other you might be able to get signed off for that one only.

Penguin - did you mean climbing or crying? I was about to get my old mountaineering gear out!

Headaches here as well, but only when I feel nauseous. Very strange. BUT if anyone reading this has severe headaches or any other symptoms, eg changes in vision, speech, weakness, numbness, it could be very serious so don't be reassured by the rest of us and call NHS Direct!

Thanks Confused I am going to check out H&M for baby clothes then too.

I think headaches over this last week or so are probably partly due to the heat, it has been boiling :)

I cannot remember who asked about the sick notes but I agree with Confused, if one was really stressful surely you could just get signed off from that one - how would the other employer ever know anyway?

Bugger 18 weeks now my clothes dont fit I have a very evidently pg bump and I just realised as I wasnt expecting a third I gave away all my maternity clothes I am going to have to go out with seems bursting on my clothes to buy some

Thanks for the advice on sick notes. They're both NHS, but different trusts, one is lots of moving & handling, night shifts, dealing with people with challenging behaviour... that's the stressful one.
The other is community based, visiting homes and day centres, but mostly sat at my desk making pretty pictures, books and timetables for people.

I'm going to give it another week, then discuss taking annual leave every week so I'm doing shorter shifts and not night shifts. If they won't agree to that I'll speak to the Doctors and Occupational Health.

Hi Cheshire, the situation with the new sick notes or 'fit' notes is that your doctor can specify what you can or can't do. For Example needs for avoid prolonged standing or heavy lifting / manual handling. So you could continue to work in one part time job if it is not too demanding and be off sick from another if you can't manage and they can't find you alternative duties.

Sounds of her wings - sorry you are having such a difficult time, i remember how stressful finals was. Is there a pastoral care tutor who could spend some time making sure that the university supports you and could guide you through the minefield? At least you will be doing finals in the second trimester when we will supposedly have lots of energy. I found that it was really important to eat well, gets lots of sleep and exercise (preferably outside so that you get sunshine. Apparantly studying while exercising (going for a walk and testing a friend) helps your brain retain info. Which med school are you at? Happy to help if i can. I'm an SpR now.

Looking forward to a spot of shopping and loving feeling really good now that i have an appetite back. PS i haven't worked out how to insert smileys???

If the scales this morning were right I've put on another 4lb in a week, making it 8lb in a fortnight I don't know what is going on, OK I eat a lot of cake but not much more no more than usual.

Sorry to all with proper problems, DH is sick of hearing me go on about it and may have even suggested that I eat less chocolate - the cheek.

Non maternity clothes don't fit any more.

confused I meant crying but was thinking about climbing at the time obviously.

You should do, I mountaineered in Scotland until 6 months with DD and that was only because Christmas and stuff got in the way after that. Still was hill walking in the lakes at 7.5months

scones if you are BF a lot less then the calories that would normally go there aren't. That might explain more than expected weight gain.

I was organised and brought some of my old maternity clothes over when I last visted the UK. Then I looked through them a few days ago and realised that they were brought in the winter. So I shall be buying a load of summer stuff, which needs to be suitable for a 4 week road trip. I will also need enough to not need to laundry more than once a week so could be expensive.

oh I am now in my dresses until I get some better fitting clothes. I found there were quite a few I could wear up to being massive last time.

It's like getting a brand new one all over again

Yup PA it must be the reduced BF. Horrors, will I have to stop eating cake?! Lemon and poppyseed freshly made in the kitchen, just waiting for me to tuck in.

How is your BF going? DD had a good feed last night but couldn't get anything this morning (after refusing to be fobbed off with a beaker of milk).

Re clothes - I got most of mine from ebay last time - you can't try them on but if they didn't fit I just relisted them. Bit of a hassle. I bought new from New Look and H&M. This time I'm hoping to get away with floaty dresses (so long as we get a summer).

chocolate instructions for smileys are below the "add your message" box!

Hi all,

not posted for a while, but time seems to have definitely sped up these past few weeks! Now 16+1, have MW appointment tomorrow (plus downs blood test) and 20 week scan at the end of the month. I have a very definite bump. All of a sudden the bloat seems to have turned into baby, I swear its got bigger over the weekend! SiL confirmed that I can feel the baby moving too, which is very exciting... scans have so far indicated an anterior placenta, so wasn't sure I would feel very much.

Hope you're all having a good day!

PS. Don't do what I did at the weekend and spend several hours sitting cross legged on the floor playing monopoly... I could hardly walk for three days as my hips were so stiff - I am going to be a lot more careful in future!

I haven't written for a long while.18 weeks pg and heard the heart beat today.I really want to know what I am having as I already have one of each.I have looked at way too many predictor sites and have spent all my working day looking at the nub theory scans on the various sites.Is anyone as desperate as me to find out what they are having?I did this with my other two children as I hate surprises.Felt baby move for the first time yesterday.

:) for traybake and moving baby

scones She gets stuff out for at least 1 meal, not sure about the other. If she wakes close to getting up time then she gets too distracted and doesn't stay on long enough. Am hoping the pain peaks around now, but we shall see.

I've got to turn up in the next two weeks for bloods so I'll save it for a day I can't be bothered with work in the morning.

Chocolate it's not me who needs the sick note, I think it'sBilblio but I am sure she will read your post :)

Bilblio I think the moving and handling and night shifts are surely not suitable for a pregnant lady - good luck with the next week.

Bean has been going CRAZY today. I could even feel it whilst I was just sat at my desk pulsing through my tum :) Although that could be because I had a Coke and a big stress-head due to my business website not working. I think Bean was flipping out!

Hello Everyone :)

My first post on MN. First baby expected Ocotber!
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Hello Jane congratulations, have you added yourself to the stats?
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Thanks everyone for being lovely. :-)

chocolatehobnobs I've sent out a load of emails today to pretty much every uni support person in the hopes that someone gets things sorted for me and I don't have to keep chasing round. I'm not too worried about finals, I am good at cramming, provided I get all the rest of the stress sorted! Feeling much better with tiredness etc so hopefully I'll manage. Nice to hear from another medical person!

Hi everyone. I'm back on MN after four weeks in Australia. Pure bliss, although the flight was a nightmare. Despite now being 19+1 I've had two very large and unpleasant vomiting episodes in the last 24 hours, which I've put down to jetlag and plane food.
Have just spent the afternoon catching up on everyone's news. Devastated to read KnitterNotTwitter's sad tale and fingers crossed there will be no more news like that for the rest of us. I have my 20 week scan next week; hopefully all will be revealed to be fine and as expected.
I'm not really sure if I've felt movements or not. I think I do feel something, but then I wonder if it is just digestive movement. By this stage I think I should be, so I guess the funny bubbly jerky sensation is the baby moving. Part of me still doesn't quite believe I'm pregnant (despite two scans, plenty of nausea, some fairly significant vomiting and the development of a small, hard belly all pointing very clearly in the direction of an occupied uterus!) so the scan next week will be important emotionally.
I think I've gained about 3kg, but I don't weigh myself regularly so I'm not really sure. Boobs have definitely increased in size, and I do have the tiniest, sweetest little bump. However, if you didn't know I was pregnant then you'd never guess. I have to say this has surprised me, as I am a very small and slender frame and really thought I'd pop out straight away. Not sure where this baby is hiding, as I can still wear size 6 clothes and am only just pushing 50kg now. Must be nestled in nice and deep!

Soundofherwings: you have my utter sympathy. Stress, in my case due to work, has been the bane of my life for the past few years. In the lead up to my trip down under it was horrendous - I was waking with palpitations and anxiety several times during the night, unable to switch off the constant list of things to do. I have to say that after four weeks away I feel like a completely new person. However, tomorrow marks the first day of a ten day stretch, most of it away from home. I must try to consciously keep my adrenal health under control and rein myself in with a stern but gentle talking-to when I find myself promising the world to my patients (and meaning it!) and then beating myself up when I just don't have the ability to get everything done. I've worked so hard in my career to get where I am now, and my world has revolved around my job for so long, that I just can't believe that in a few short months life will be very, very different. Eeek!

Anyway, glad to read everyone's stories and looking forward to keeping up to date as we all start the next round of scans and appointments.