October 2011 Baby Bus ... part 3

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Tamashii I have heartburn too, annoying isn't it?!

I am 16 weeks now with my 3rd and I am still not feeling any movements Shouldn't I be feeling them by now? Was looking forward to asking my midwife yesterday, only I got the appointment day wrong and it's not until the end of next week- d'oh!

Hi everyone this thread keeps disappearing from my "threads I'm on" list.
My pelvis is also splitting but I get more pain in the centre of my ass cheek sorry TMI
Hope everyone is well
We all watching the wedding today?

Tamashii, sounds as though you may have SPD - have a look at what Wikipedia says: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Symphysis_pubis_dysfunction

Might be worth mentioning to your midwife or GP.

Hope you all enjoy your street parties today!

Hi all people with pelvic pain.

I've had pelvic pain since conceiving which is slowly getting worse (14 weeks now). You need to go to your GPs/midwives and get a physio referral. There are some things they can tell you/show you which make it more manageable and sometimes it stops things developing into full blown SPD.

Mine's quite bad despite doing the explained things but I do seem to be managing it, walking is rubbish, as is sitting for a long time. But by doing recommended strengthening exercises my hips have stopped aching at night. I just got a big gym ball to sit on in the evenings (as recommended by physio).

Please do get it checked out ladies!

Hey all,

Wow, it's been quiet today - I guess everyone's been watching the wedding! [csmile]

I've had mild lower back pain and cramps/period-type pains most of the day. On and off and nothing too bad but I guess this is normal.

And I can't stop eating.....!

Apparently for 90% of women with SPD, something has become misaligned and physio will fix it.

For the other 10% of women (of which I am one and it sounds like elgoldenflower is too) there's nothing you can do to get rid of it altogether but you can learn how to sit/dress/sleep etc to minimise it. My physio gave me a serola support belt which helps hold everything together a bit more if I'm doing a lot of walking. So definitely worth asking for a referral.

Thanks for all the advice on SPD... I fear I may be suffering from the start of it. I never had pain like this at all with DS - just some discomfort when things were stretching but this is like I can't open my legs more than a couple of inches and I am walking like I'm wearing an 80's fishtail dress iykwim???? Shuffling along. Had to ask OH to take my boots off me last night when he got in as it was too painful to lift my feet onto my knees to remove them myself. Argh.

Oh, and who should I go to about this? GP or MW? Thank you so much for the help :)

Either will refer you Tamashii I find it easier to see my GP as midwife's only in the surgery once a week.

Meanwhile try to keep your hips aligned and symmetrical as much as possible, don't stand on one leg and lean or take the weight off your hips whenever you can.

Hope you get a quick referral

Thanks egoldenflower I will have to ask for help getting my jeans off tonight. Think OH will willingly oblige!

Yes, sit down to put trousers, socks and shoes on, sleep on your side with your hips aligned, don't cross your legs when you sit down, don't go up and down stairs more than you have to.

When you get in the car, bum on seat first then swing your legs in keeping your knees together doing the reverse to get out. Very ladylike! If it helps you can put a bin bag on the seat to make it more slippery. Same to get in and out of bed.

And avoid lifting, pushing a buggy, shopping trolley or cutting the grass where possible. Not easy, especially as it's not your first!

I had it badly the first time round and ended up walking with a stick but the second time it never got as bad because I knew what to do to minimise the pain. So definitely worth doing whatever you can to avoid it.

Sorry for the essay!

cassnstar I didn't want you to think you're being ignored. It sounds like a very tough situation. My pg is causing me to move back to the UK as it is not compatible with my job, very minor compared to you, but some sharing of negative feelings.

I don't know what to say to help, it sounds like a very tough situation and a 12 year gap is very scary. I imagine you just thought you were really getting your life where you wanted and could see where you were going. You will be great though and keep on here and venting :)

I'm over our shock now (MAP failure) but am getting sad that we have leave where we are. Trying to focus on things that I will like and the advantages.

Thanks so much Penguin for noticing, I suppose what I do have is good friends to talk to and a strong community around me. I love children, don't get me wrong, and have felt broody the past few years and talked about having more but dh has been dead against it and I haven't pushed it, and in the end it's different choosing to and feeling a little having it chosen for you. I guess cos I know EXACTLY what is in store for me on a practical level for the next 11 years it seems so much worse, without factoring in the health and character of the baby. We have extremely busy lives and I will have to give up a whole load of things- three areas at least of my life which I enjoy but there we go, that's life, you never know what's around the corner. At least so far I have had an uncomplicated pregnancy and hope the rest will continue. I have always struggled massively to breastfeed but hope I can do it again come what may, but maybe I won't beat myself up quite so much if I do stop like I did when my second child was 5 months.

Hope you're ok, good luck with your move, more big changes as well for you.x

I'm sure you know that after the initial extra bit, things just fit in and that's the new normal. It's only later when you look back and think how the fuck did we do all that.

I was getting a little broody until I got pregnant and then it all vanished

morning all. Just had a lettre from the hospital regarding my NT Plus. Im a low risk of downs which is great news. No appointments here until mid June when im 21 weeks then have 2 ojn 1 day a dy of from hoisptal and then an appointment with the consultant.
Have been suffering with heartburn so having to avoid spicy food :( which i'm not too pleased about lol.

Wow, not been on this thread in ages, life gets in the way!

The bump is getting much bigger, and 2 days ago baby learnt to kick, which my husband felt too! Although since then it's learnt to kick me in the bladder constantly, which is not so exciting.

Is anyone else struggling with stress not related to pregnancy? I feel like I should be enjoying this, but the universe is ruining it for me!

I'm a medical student and although my uni were initially supportive they've since been useless and I'm having to chase them for everything and haven't got any straight answers from them about my workload or time off. I'm due to sit finals at 26 weeks pregnant, just to add to the stress. :-(
Plus, my husband has depression and is off work again, and on bad days is not up to providing me with support. Although he is so excited about the baby, and it has helped him a bit to focus on that, he has been suicidal several times within the last few months which is pretty crap for me too.
And, (getting ridiculous now) my mum managed to crash her car yesterday and has totally written it off. She's fine, but shaken up. She's disabled and has a specially modified car, so she'll be without one for a couple of months meaning that I'll have to travel the hour to see her more often, since we're really close and she won't be able to get out independently.

I'm trying not to get too stressed about all of this stuff, and I do seem to be able to take things in my stride more now that I'm pregnant and stress less about things, but I worry it'll have an effect on the pregnancy. :-(

soundofherwings Sorry to hear you are having a bad time of it

My dh has decided he can't wait another 4 weeks to find out the gender of the baby, so he's booked us in for a scan this afternoon. I'm excited to know the sex, but more excited just to see the baby again and I'm really hoping everything is ok.

soundofherwings so sorry to hear about all your problems.
I'm getting very stressed about 1 of my jobs, and have been for a while. I only do it 1 or 2 days a week but I've been so close to going to the doctors about it... in fact I have been twice about other things but chickened out of speaking about the stress. The problem is I love my main job, but I don't think I can be signed of one job and not the other... and I feel daft getting so worked up about a job that takes up 1 or 2 days a week.
I'm going to book in all my annual leave then work out how many shifts I have to do before Mat leave starts, then how many I can do after Mat leave before I can quit. It's the only thing keeping me going in at the moment.

As for your husband. Lots of sympathy. Is he getting help? My husband suffered with depression for years, and some times were very grim. He's a SAHD now and DD has been the best thing that ever happened to him. He's so much better. Fingers crossed this baby is the turning point your husband needs too.

Hi all, I have not posted for about 2-3 weeks, just been busy with work and ds 2.4yrs has been started with speech therapy also been seen by a paediatrician, who said he has a speech and development delay, she also said that it looks like he may have some form of autism but they dont assess for it untill they are 3yrs...so feel like we are still in limbo there, but glad he is having regular speech therapy now...its very hard not being properly able to communicate with him and i worry about not being able to explain about his new brother or sister.

Just been trying to catch up with the new thread. hope everyone is well.

I am 15 weeks today.....midwife appointment on thursday, cant wait just really hoping i get to hear babys heartbeat. Do they always listen to heartbeat at 16 week appointment?? Just really worried that something bad might have happened since 12 week scan.
Cant wait for 20 week sacn on 6th june...wont be finding out the sex as DH wants us to have a suprise this time......we found out with DS. dont know how i am going to wait till october!!! hahaha!

I was just wondering does anyone else have their own fetal doppler...just bought an angel sounds one on internet...hope its good! just really want something to reassure myself...dont think i will relax untill baby is born!! I know its just because i had a mmc last august.

I have a little bump but it just looks like i have eaten too many pies! hahaha! cant wait for people to look at me and know i am pregnant not just fat!
when should i feel baby move? over the last week there have been times where i thought i felt it but still not sure....didnt feel flutters from ds till i was 19 weeks but heard you should feel baby + start showing earlier with secong baby.

sorry for long post!

Scan this afternoon says we are having a girl Our third dd, I am very excited!

Oh congrats cupofteaplease thats lovely!

Thank you! I probably should have waited for a surprise like you have decided to and trusted my instincts- I knew it was a girl!

Evening all

I came on here to moan but now having read some other threads my drama sounds pathetic but I am going to tell you all anyway in the hope that said ridiculous incident will make others feel better at my expense if nothing else! :)

DH and I went to Mothercare this morning, we have never been in a Mothercare, store was massive and we went looking for some clothes for me. Clearly I am naive thinking a store aimed at Parents and Children would actually have some clothes suitable for a 34 year old which are not dowdy, expensive and really long (I am about 5ft2 on a good day). DH wandered off to compare buggies and I gave up the clothes search and humoured him with the shop assistant for at least 30 minutes whilst he pushed the buggies around etc. DH came back to the clothes section with me telling me I really needed to buy some clothes and try some on and the tops are supposed to be long because they will get shorter as bump gets bigger etc etc. Then I found the changing room was locked so put all the clothes back that DH was trying to get me to try and left.

I felt really upset because I really wanted some new clothes that were not ridiculously expensive and that I actually liked. I do not really want to spend £35 on a 3/4 length pair of green combats that were "sort of okay".

Anyway we got in the car and I started crying, I was just gutted about the whole clothing thing (or lack of). DH said I should not have humoured him over the buggies because we came for clothes, I said I knew he wanted to look at them, DH had to find me a tissue/piece of kitchen roll from his pocket. I said I needed to get back to the Chickens because I needed to clean them out, DH said he felt really bad and that we were going to Matalan because it was nearby. I said I don't know why I'm crying it's ridiculous, DH blamed it on hormones.

Went to Matalan, whilst on way starting to laugh and me saying "what the f**k is going on with me, why the hell am I crying over clothes" but in between still wanting to cry.

DH bought me some clothes in Matalan (still wanted to cry but still laughing).

You see, bloody ridiculous!

cupofteaplease congratulations on the baby girl - have you got any names from the other times saved up?

lovemybabyboy we heard the heartbeat again at 16 week mw appointment and have started to feel a couple of bubbles and pulse type things (now 18 wks).

soundofherwings sorry to hear about your troubles, I suppose things can only get better, as they say. Chin up and .

chesire I wanted to cry when I first went to mothercare for clothes. You're right they're crap. Always a compromise (shit for short people am 5ft) and too expensive for clothes you only buy because it's better than nothing. Next jeans are good as they have short ones. tbh I never did find decent clothes but mainly got them from next and dorothy perkins (and tesco's normal clothes for baggy things like house jumpers etc.)