October 2011 Baby Bus ... part 3

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I think check wording of your work's policy: pretty sure mine covers "antenatal care" as I am including NCT and hypnobirthing in it...

Agree with rebel, not all companies have to offer time off for antenatal classes I don't think just mandatory midwife / scans etc. (although I might be wrong!)

Period pain seems to have gone now it's just very tender, baby movements making me wince more than glow with happiness!

i think they legally have to give you time off for antenatal classes, but maybe don't neccesarily HAVE to pay you for it (not sure though)

they definitely HAVE to give you PAID time off for antenatal care i.e scans apps etc.

i've just booked my antenantal classes which are at night so as i'm not missing any work for them might get away with using the aquanatal as antenantl

if questioned i could say MW recommended them to help with SPD etc?

You are right and you are paid, I was getting confused as we were having this discussion at work the other day about fathers (who aren't entitled) and I clearly have baby brain and am getting everything confused!

Long story to follow of my afternoon trip to the hospital... So I called midwife this afternoon about 2.30 as pains were getting really uncomfortable but only when the babies move and she said that she was 99% sure it was nothing to worry about but to put my mind at rest I should go and get checked out at the hospital day unit. So off I trek with mother in tow who FYI isn't all that impressed with the hospital and thinks they are 'not organised at all' and as a ex nurse thinks the 'duty of care has gone completely down hill' (can you tell by this point I was wishing I had gone alone!!! ). Anyway, so midwife had a feel around, couldn't fathom where the babies were lying, got the doppler out and could only hear one heart beat so goes off to find the portable scanner. I am remarkably calm at this point considering I am a bit of a flapper over things like this. Scanner can't be found so I am off to the MRI / Scan unit for a full baby scan. After a very long wait all was fine and ended up having virtually a second 20 week scan where they did the measurements and checked out the key areas. Both babies seem fine, although twin one is diagonally across the front of my tummy and twin two laying breech across the back hence the discomfort as they are jabbing me in the most awkward of places. Saw the SHO after the scan who think the babies awkward position and a mild infection are causing the pain but wants me to go back for a check up in a few days if it hasn't gone.

Anyway, that's all cool and got to see the little mights again but the most exciting news is that I am 90% sure from the scans that I have two little girls in there. I didn't want to know officially so didn't ask but the sonographer was in that area for a while on twin two measuring the baby's tummy and I am pretty sure there was no boy bits there and from the brief flick over the other baby's bits I didn't see anything there either! Mum was thinking the same too! I may of course be completely wrong but that's my current theory. I thought I would be disappointed because I really wanted one of each but I'm actually quite excited about the prospect of two little girls. DH is petrified!

Anyway will stop gabbling now. I am going to stay at home again tomorrow and hope the pain dies down a bit (much to my bosses disapproval! ).

bb3 hope your feeling better soon, I'm uncomfortable enough with one can't imagine 2 in there.
A colleague had her baby today 10lbs 5oz and natural birth

BB3 great to hear it's all ok. Of course you need to take time off if you're in pain and sod your boss.

Edward 10lb 5oz?! That makes me feel quite faint.

Last night I dreamed I had a little girl and was disappointed on DH's behalf as he so wants a boy. My whole family are convinced it'll be a boy, I have a sneaking suspicion it'll be a girl though. I hope no-one is disappointed when little'un pops out.

hope everyone enjoys the sunshine today

Scones I think DH will be disappointed if we have two girls. Of course he protests that he wont but I have a sneaking suspicion he will!

well was at the doctors today on mums orders.. i have a urine infection with protien :( ive anti biotics and to go back on thursday as the doctors worried about pre eclampsia even tho my ankles etc arent swollen and BP is fine just now .. glad my mum made me go in i just thought it was a tummy bug.

Well done on following your mum's orders SuperJoBee! Unfortunately, however much we protest they just always seem to be right... Hope our little ones will eventually realise this too!

cant ignore her she's a nagging harpy hope the kids listen to us but dont describe us the same way!! got to admit i felt a fraud going in but the doc was great and very attractive especially since i took DD who at 6, is at the question asking stage and nothing can shush her - ever dont know where she gets it from ..

Hello Everyone

BB3 and Edward get the tissues ready because I think the baby hospital programme is on tonight.

Dannid I am loving your prawngate incident! Super the ring sounds lovely. I think it must be the lovely things that our other halves do for us that make us weepy.

I got have a grip this week though , I think! :)

I can't find the programme don't know if it's maybe regional as I get stv instead of itv ill try online.

cheshire thanks :) he can be a git at times but he's good to me even when im an emotional wreck which has been all the time lately

oh edward if you have sky you can get itv1 london on channel 993 i used to watch the bill on it

It's was only on for 3 wks but I got it online so sad! Couldn't stop crying at 1st one when baby died
really makes u realise how lucky u are, nothing like this even crossed my mind when having DS just kind of took it for granted that he'd be healthy and was like that up till now with this one, now I'm terrified!

Thanks for all the kind works about my mum - she's just been away for the weekend with my dad at the seaside, so she's feeling much better! She'll be seeing the consultant on Friday for what we hope will be an all-clear, with no need for her to have any further treatment. DH is in Scotland for a conference at the moment and so he's meeting up with my parents for dinner this evening - very brave, as my dad is one of those men who's eccentric at best and incomprehensible at worst!

i need to rant. please feel free to ignore but i need to get this out.

my sister has a 4 yr old son and 6 month old daughter, she is 7 weeks pregnant. she went in today for an abortion and found out its twins. she is still going ahead with the abortion. i dont believe in abortions unless there is a medical reason for mother or babys health or a rape victim. i feel physically sick :( we dont talk. my mum accidentally let slip as sis and i do sometimes say hi at the school gates. her OH has left her after 10 yrs and isnt going back either way i.e keeps/aborts. he's had enough of her.

so sorry to hijack i just cant tell anybody in r/l and my heart is aching. sorry.

*Edward yes sorry I thought it was on last night but seemed to have disappeared.

It must have been on a normal channel as we only have Freeview but I watched it on the Internet too last time.

I think it's best to stay away from these programmes in the future :)

Off to open our Spacesaver Cot now to have a nosey :)

SuperJoBee, that's awful. I'm with you on this. I try never to judge as people have to make their own decisions about what's best for their family, but it's particularly difficult if it's your own nieces and nephews. I do see that it would be really hard for her to bring up four children as a single mum, but it's still very sad.

I don't know how to feel this evening.

I told you about my friend whose baby was stillborn at 26 weeks. I haven't heard from her since she sent the email telling people about the baby so I text her tonight, just to say I was thinking of her. She replied that she doesn't want to see me anymore as it's too hard for her. She's deleted me and my dh from Facebook. I feel so wretched. We have been friends for years, and there's literally nothing I can do to help her. I've been so mindful not to mention my pregnancy on FB, in case she would be upset by a pregnancy-related status. I'm not really showing yet, but I've been worried about bumping into her at the supermarket etc in case it upset her. Now I don't know what to do.

I realise this is not about me, she's in turmoil, I just don't know how to feel. At the moment I just feel guilty for being pregnant.

confused thanks, i try not to be judgemental everyones choices are their own but it kills found out he's been cheating on her this whole time i swear jeremy kyle would have a field day with them i feel so sad for her but with us not talking i cant help and if i do talk to her theres every possibilty i'll get sucked back into her controlling abusive 'claws' which i spent yrs trying to escape from :( im so confused i want to help but protect myself at the same time i feel so selfish i dont know im type rambling now sorry whole new day tomorrow.

cupoftea i feel so bad for you and for your friend, when my sister was pregnant with my niece and my best friend was pg at the same time they both let me be as overly involved as possible and as interfering and bossy because they knew how hard it was for me to see them pregnant and i wasnt and i was so desperate to concieve. hopefully once your friends grief has lifted slightly she'll be able to see you again :(

Super tough situation, four kids is hard, especially when dealing with his cheating but my little beans inside ache at the thought of her choosing this route. I hope things get easier.

cupoftea now sorry this may be a bit harsh and I don't have experience of mc or difficulty to conceive, but that is such a horrible, horrible thing for her to say to you. She could have said 'I'm sorry but at the moment it's too hard, can you give me some time' not completely delete you from her life. There is nothing you can do to change her view just wait it out and see if she wants to come back when she has sorted herself out but focus on your baby and your happiness.

Hope everyone is surviving the torrential rain! I'm feeling much better think the pain from earlier in the week is purely the pressure of the babies inside there. Had to trek across London this morning because the stations were all closed and the pain of the babies weighing down in my tummy was horrendous!

On baby programmes did anyone watch the babes behind bars thing or the sextuplet programme? The sextuplet programme was very sad but also amazing and the babies behind bars programme was so uncomfortable to watch!

cup of tea I'm so sorry and I completely understand how you must be feeling. I have a few close friends who are have never been able to have children/ had repeated miscarriages/ lost babies late in pregnancy. It's so hard and I have also felt guilty (and guilty for feeling guilty!). One friend in particular couldn't face seeing me for a while (she had recently lost a baby) but was completely honest and lovely about it at the same time. I have seen her since then and it's been fine, but I have been aware that it's best not to bang on and on about the baby with her (as I do to some of my other friends - lucky them ) Anyway, you're right - she must be in turmoil and just doing what she needs to do to get through this. But I really feel for you!

super I'm sorry, that's so sad. Families are complicated sometimes aren't they?! My heart aches for those little beans too.

I watched Baby Hospital and couldn't stop thinking that my little one is the same size as some of the babies - I'm 26 weeks tomorrow. I kept telling him to stay where he is for now!

Feeling very big and pregnant now. It's just suddenly hit me in the last 2 or 3 weeks and I'm starting to find sleeping a bit more uncomfortable. I really want to go camping for a few nights in August but am wondering if this is just bonkers?! Anyone else braving some nights outdoors this summer or am I alone? For the record, I LOVE camping, but heavily pregnant camping... Hmm...

One of my best friends has just had a baby girl and I cuddled her yesterday and felt completely overwhelmed that I will have my own baby soon. Am starting to really, really look forward to meeting my LO

Hope you're all having a good day X

happy I wouldn't contemplate camping when I wasn't pregnant let along 6 months gone so can't really advise but can't see how camping will be detrimental in anyway, if you want to go and you enjoy it normally I think you'll enjoy it pregnant - at this point i don't think any sleeping arrangements are comfortable - I can't get comfortable in our king size bed!!!

oooh new babies! My little niece is two months old and getting to that very very pretty stage (where they don't look like screwed up old people and start to get their real looks in) and is just adorable!

DH and I decided we would start baby buying next month and I am finding that quite daunting as it means finally preparing for two babies (although I still have to get rid of my old baby stuff - anyone want a barely used graco travel system pram and a winnie the pooh baby bath that I used once!!! (as you can see i bought everything last time and ended up using nothing!!! ). Must get on gumtree or something and get them out the garage so I can actually fit the car in there!

thanks bb3 and happy im just hoping there is some compassion in her for them, my mum and gran would help her as much as they could and i would too, from a distance. i dont know my niece but my nephew is like my own son i love him almost as much as my daughter and this baby im growing im a very happy babysitter when i get him :) i could handle the wee girly too i think

on a much much brighter note, my urine infection is clearing up according to the doctor at oh my god o clock this morning :) and i bought his lordships bumper and blankets today plus pram toy and comforter and muslins and more vests and outfits

elc have a huge sale on and babies r us have their essential bedding buy one get one half price tescos have 6 white muslins for 4 pound odds so i bought more than necessary ive missed baby shopping since DD was small!!