Due December 2011!!

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HI everyone, I know it is very early but I got a very faint positve line this morning, and another at lunch, and another at tea time! Was not due AF till Thurs but was meant to be going for a proceedure that involved radiation tomorrow so needed to do checks and here I am, and there I will not be! I have already got 2 and not told OH yet but need to tell somebody! Anyone else yet?

I'm not telling anyone at work until AT LEAST the scan, maybe a bit longer if I can manage it.

Plan to tell close family at Easter (8 weeks) - would have told them already but SIL had a little boy 2 weeks ago so trying not to steal any thunder.

I'll let 2 close friends know after that - mainly because they both already have children, one mc her first pg and the other tried for a couple of years before falling with her daughter so I know they will understand and be able to support me if anything were to go wrong.

I think it all depends on your own circumstances too. We don't have any family, my kids have no living grandparents. I lost both my parents in the year preceeding DD2's birth. My beautiful, healthy mother was killed by a drunk driver whilst walking down the pavement and my Dad basically died of a broken heart within a few months.

I gave birth to DD2 alone and scared because DH had to stay with DS and DD1 as we had nobody else to care for them. So the whole pregnancy and childbirth thing is wrapped up in so many emotions for me. My last pregnancy was dominated by grief and fear and I vowed never to go there again but here we are and I just want to shout it from the rooftops. I want this to be a new beginning as I've carried around so much grief and anger these last few years.

Ernie 1 - thats thoughtful of you, especially when you just want to sing it LOUD.
I have been telling randoms (black cabbie and woman who gave me a pedicure) - it gets it out and they will never see you again :) I also went to see the GP at work as they are bound by confidentiality. Don't know what I expected her to do but she was very sweet and beamed at me nicely, which is really all I wanted

MrsWitcher - I am so sorry you have had such a tough time. Hoping this time will help make up for your past pain

has anyone gotten overly emotional yet?!

I started crying today cause I got offered a full time job but DH told me to turn it down because it would be too stressful for him knowing that the mother of his child was working 40 hours at minimum wage 30 miles away from home!

(I didnt particulary want the job anyway but felt I should!)

Also dont slate me! I have a part time job anyway so no worries! :)

yohave a bump already!!

MrsWitcher you really have been through it, and I'm with you in terms of there are people I'd want to go through it with - and also the couple (childless I have to add) people I've told you've told me not to tell anyone else because it's too early - bugger off!! That's rude and annoying.

Also to be honest I've been feeling so rotten I'm telling a few friends when I see them to explain why I look and feel like shit!

I feel like I have a bump already - is that utterly ridiculous?! Am almost 7 weeks, I know you show a lot earlier with the 2nd but come one! First thing in the morning it's there so I don't think it's bloating, but god I need to curb the eating through the ms because I am so painfully bloated by evening at the moment.

MrsWitcher Really sorry to hear what you've been through. Is there anyway to plan to have some childcare so DH can come to the birth of this child, it must have been very stressful for you and DH?

I'm really undecided what to do about saying anything DH has sworn me to complete secrecy, but it's easier for him as he's not throwing up, emotional or bone achingly tired, or not avoiding alcohol!

DD1 was an IVF pregnancy, I had 2 embryos implanted and had 2 early scans which showed a twin pregnancy. I told EVERYONE in the world, then a 13 week scan showed that one had died. I was devetated and convinced it was because I'd told too early! I too remember the embarrasement of having to explain to people who I'd previously blabbed to. I was lucky though, I went onto have a smooth pregnancy and healthy DD.

DD2 was a suprise pregnancy, no treatment involved so DH and I both agreed to keep it incredibly secret and we did.

So far I've told a close neighbour who looked after chicken poxed DD2 when I went to a midwife clinic, didn't want to take a v. grumpy, spotty toddler with me.

This weekend I've got my parents coming to stay, I feel terrible keeping it from them and sure I'm going to burst but feel that I have to keep my bargain with DH and for some silly superstition. It's ridiculous as what will be will be, regardless of who I've told. This is really long and rambly, but when I can't speak in RL I need somewhere to get it off my sore chest! I'm not yet 6 weeks and can't shake this dilemma of what to do or say.

Wishing everyone a happy weekend.

Hello ! (waves)
I had a positive last night. Totally amazed. Thought i was going through an early menopause as didn't think i ov last month and period so late!
Have a dd aged 3. Been ttc #2 for 2 years. In that time i have had an ectopic pregnancy in which i lost a tube 18 months ago followed by a m/c a year ago. Weirdly i had totally accepted being a little family of three (it took a while to get to that point, believe me!) as i thought my chances of conceiving were so remote plus i am 39. I am still in shock! Have done 3 tests just to be sure. The tests were strongly positive immediately which i think is a good sign esp as wasn't morning wee???
Anyway fingers crossed i won't have another m/c or worse still e/p...
I very tentatively offer my due date for the list, Pippy as 8/12/11
Lots of luck to you all

Just wanted to thank everyone for their advice about my interview (which was this morning). In the end I did mention the pregnancy, they didn't seem at all bothered, and the interview continued for quite a while (so they didn't try to wrap up quickly as soon as I dropped my bombshell...). Of course it turned out that they didn't really offer enough money to cover my childcare costs, so not sure I'd take it now anyway, but... we'll see what happens.

Thank you everyone. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to turn the thread into a 'woe is me' episode. The school mum this morning just upset me and I guess I just wanted to explain myself.

We are a bit more settled here now and I have a couple of good friends who I hope can help us out when the time comes but it's a difficult one as depending on the time of day they have their own kids to get to school etc and nodody has a car big enough for an extra 3 kids so I don't know.

I haven't managed to keep anything down all day either so I've now got a massive headache from dehydration. Luckily, DD2 is at nursery until 3pm so I'll maybe grap a nap before the school run.

Jan9ne, congratulations!

You know when you think..."The month before birth I'll be doing...." I have just had a horrible realisation I'll be moving to a new house and probably to a new area at 8 months pregnant.
Blimey.
What an adventure....(or sh*tstorm, depending on how you look at it)

Anyone else got any big changes pre December?

Thanks jomouse - I am desperate to tell! H is getting annoyed but noone else I can talk to yet....

Rather you than me with the house move! I think we'll stay put thank you very much.

Sounds really difficult mrswitcher, I hope you can find someone to help you - can't imagine giving birth alone. My sister used to live a few hundred miles away so did not have the family support we have, and fortunately a good friend watched her D1 when D2 was being born.

We have just told family, as in both sets of parents and our sisters. Not planning to say to anyone else at all yet, but if I continue to feel as rubbish as I did this morning when I am back at work after the holidays that could be easier said than done.

DH out tonight so about to flop and catch up on my programmes on telly, amazed how not bothered I am about not having a glass of wine, isn't your body clever at telling you not to have .

Hope everyone has a lovely sunshiney weekend.

Can I join in? Got a positive test yesterday. Had to fish it out the bin as was convinced my eyes were deceiving me. Very surprised as we literally only had sex once last month!

Feel I have missed out on the baby making! (joke - very pleased)

So excited! Its my second, I have a 15moth old DD. Due 18th Dec.
VERY early days... hard not to get carried away. Congratulations to you all!

Congrats rostbeef and Jan9ne!

Fleebee May I ask if this was a surprise or if you had IVF like your first?

Morning all,

What a lovely day to wake up to! I'm off to sort out new bras today, I can't believe now that I used to think they were sore before af! We are also going to look at cars, having realised our little fiesta is probably not going to be big enough any longer.

MS is getting worse and I am struggling to cook in the evening. But the sun is shining and we are going to have a BBQ today :)

How are you all doing?

Lovely day here in London town. Hope all you lovely ladies are out & enjoying the sun...
Just got date for my scan in - 23rd May. Am going to have to have a private scan in next couple of weeks. Theres no way I can way that long for peace of mind!!
I know it doesn't guarantee anything and it's still early, early days but it's temporary peace of mind at least. Anyone else considering it?

Evening all!

It's gorgeous weather isn't it?! We've been out for a walk today and my cheeks feel a bit warm took my mind off the sickness though which was a plus.

jomouse - i would def have early scan if i could but we are soooo skint at the mo gonna have to wait unfortunately. Will def have the private nuchal fold scan though at 12-13 weeks. We did that with my daughter and it was such peace of mind and the scan lasted 25 mins not like the 12 week scan at the hospital where the very surly sonographer said 'There's your baby' and lasted about 30 secs!
Been enjoying the summer sun. Still can't get my head around being pg, just can't believe it after all we've been through! Really trying not to get too excited though. If i make it to 8 weeks without anything untoward happening then i will exhale very slightly with relief....

Hey silly question, but how do you book a paid appointment? I would really like one, but i haven't even seen midwife yet, despite seeing GP 2 weeks ago.

Hi LauraSmurf, you basically find a private hospital or clinic in your area that does scans, call them and book. I imagine you can do an internet search to find one in your area. I live in london and there are quite a few. Hope that helps!

Hi everyone, sorry not checked in since this thread started, just really busy I guess.

Can I ask advice? I've had light spotting on and off for about a week. MW says prob ok as I have other symptoms (boobs on fire, can't stomach coffee, twinges in my tummy, no ms or nausea tho and not especially tired) but maybe I'd feel better if I knew it was more common? My books say some women get it all the way thru but still it's not very nice .

This is my 1st btw!

Hi folks. We took dd to a theme park today. I avoided all the roller coasters etc but went to the 4d cinema. Didn't realise how much the eseats jolted you. I am now panicking that I have done some damage. I really hope my sanity holds out til the scan.

hi everyone and congrats newbies

mizzundastood I know a few people who spotted throughout the 1st trimester and went on to have otherwise healthy pregnancies and babies. I know it must be worrying but I'd agree with your midwife, and if you're really worried call up and see if they'll scan you - though remember they won't detect a heartbeat until 6-7 weeks

xstich I'm sure you'll be fine, I'm still cycling and get the fear whenever I go into potholes or have to swerve or my heartrate goes up when I have the massive hill before home to get up but also figure keeping up the exercise can only help, and I can't afford public transport - especially as DH's bike got nicked yesterday so now he'll have to take public transport until the insurance comes through

I'm going to a wedding today, with one of my best friends who I also run my company with who I get drunk with A LOT and whenever we do always says "so glad you're not pregnant again" as there's 3 of us who run the company, the other girl and I gave birth a day apart then she had her second last winter, he's terrified of us having more babies and making running the company more difficult.....I might have to come clean rather than attempt to hide it (He knows how I love to throw back free bubbles!), otherwise am SO excited, it;s a full on Jewish wedding of oine of my closest friends, going to be immense!