Jue in June 2011 ......the wittering and waffling continues

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I think this is thread 8 or maybe 9......maybe we should take bets on which number we are on in June!!:)

Thanks Moomin :)

Just a pop in and hooray nurse, you're back

moomin glad you're feeling more relaxed :)

Sorted the vegetable patch out this afternoon with the dc's (well, I sorted, they sort of attacked with small implements and dug the weeds even further in!). After being encouraged to give it a go again I am, more fool me :) Am off the get something to dig into the soil tomorrow (and when I say me, I mean dh as I am knackered after today's attempt and it that wasn't even hard ).

Lovely to be outside though, dc's played soooo nicely all afternoon in their superhero outfits. DD was the more conventional spider girl while ds went for a bear eared, spiderman hand, spider with legs hanging off his torso look . . . with batman belt

Right off to study . . I will get this assignment done . . I will get this assignment done . . .

Gah I'm in the middle of an assignment as well Knackered. Am supposed to have this week and next off uni but have got so much work to do (this assignment and then another 4 and a presentation!) that it's not exactly a holiday.

Kudos for getting out into the garden. I really want to start attacking my little patch (just moved into a new house) but can't envision that happening for a while

Welcome back NurseSunshine! Glad you are okay!

Clarkiee - yey good news about the house!

Newneeps - glad the move went well!

Welcome back nursesunshine and great news on your little girl! Moomin glad you are feeling better too. Not much news here except work tiring - 9 weeks 2 days left and counting.

Think I must start planning some vegetable planting-you all sound very busy in the garden and mine is looking quite pitiful. Our dog isn't helping-she is digging up my very few plants!

Hope everyone is having a restful evening. Friday tomorrow!!!!

WB NurseSun; I was awol for a while too under my previous MN name (Mrs Big W) but have come back to the fold...& I am having a girl too :) it all feels very new as other 3DCs are boys.

Glad you are sounding better moomin & the move went well neenewps, hopefully your turn next Clarkiee & TTL.

It amazes me how rude people are about weight in pg, I haven't had any really bad comments but 2 separate friends have asked me to turn round so that they can see how much weight I have put on my backside- in the interests of seeing whether I am in fact "carrying like it's a girl"

thorny I had the same request from my aunt..the bad news is that she then said - 'oh yes, you are carrying weight all the way round, defo a girl'..grrr, it is a BOY actually and I thought my backside had escaped the general expansion explosion!

Nurse yay! ..welcome back, glad you are ok

More good news this morning - I sent my baby list to a friend to comment on and tick off what she could donate to me. She sent it round her toddler group and its come back with ticks all over it...aint people nice.

Have a good day peeps xx

Hey nurse so glad you're back! And that you have a house for you and your LO :) Mine's a girl too and I am sooooo excited now, and very of all those going on maternity leave. I'll be working til I pop, I reckon ...

jasmine that's so lovely of your friend :)

PMSL at the carrying like a boy/girl baloney :) I had that too ... apparently I'm all bump, so should be all boy, but it's a girl :) It was fun while people were guessing though!

Hey ladies! I'm new on here due 17th June baby no' 2, its a girl :)
I'm 24 weeks today and CAN'T WAIT til shes here feels like ages away but everyone is telling me to take each day to rest as it will come soon. Don't really remember a lot from my first i was only 19 and didnt take much notice of my preg which i'm now regretting :( my other daughter is 4.
Getting nervous about the labour too. Had a epidural last time, this time i'm wanting a water birth but people are telling me it doesnt always happen because pools are not always avaliable?? :(

SavannahRose huge welcome and congratulations!!! (sorry cant help re: birth pools as not in the UK but am positive you'll get loads of advice in a minute...)

Ooooh so glad you are back Nurse, big congratulations on new house and little girl! how lovely!! Have you decided then - is she a Jasmine?

TTL Im going to sit here being very too at all this talk of early maternity leave - I too will probably working/ studying til I pop so Ill keep you company still, think everyone is very sensible and am delighted you are all making the most of those last few months.

Glad to hear Im not the only one doing assignments!! Knackered and Nurse, are you finding your focus/ motivation is completely down the drain these days (or is that just me? ) I just cant seem to concentrate.

Was up until 1am last night writing one of my essays and am planning on working through lunch to try and (almost) finish it. Its not actually due until Monday week (which will be a massive record for me if its finished this week as Im always "the day before type") but have loads on next week and know I wont have a chance (plus my mums home on Wednesday - yay!!). Have to start into another one due first week of April then.. am planning on trying to finish it early though, to take some of the pressure off.

So my poor, poor dd is so sick , its so unlike her but she literally sobbed her wee heart out until she fell asleep from 6pm yesterday. Shes complaining of a pain in her ear. She kept waking (which she has never done - even when teething as a baby) crying and finally was up at 4am this morning. Thought Id have to bring her into A&E until she cried herself to sleep again in my arms. had to go to work today as Im the only one (bad mother emoction) here but luckily dh had booked the day off to take ds for vaccinations so he brought her to Docs first thing - apparantly theres no infection and everything is clear (??!!) so am at a bit of a loss as shes never like this..

Sorry for rambling... must do some work..

Oh quick question - not sure if anyone is religious or planning on having their baby baptised etc. but if there is anyone - have you considered/ picked Godparents yet? and if so, when are you planning on asking them? Is it after the baby is born or is it ok to do when you are pregnant? (asks the mother of 2..) just something I've been mulling over..

Barbie we have been discussing this alot and are planning to ask as soon as we have some kind of agreement! We are having a boy so there will be 2 godfathers and 1 godmother. These will not be religion related, more an acknowledgement of our special friendships with people we hope will then extend their friendship to our little one and provide him with a different dimension of relationship. One godfather will be a Greek friend, godmother will be a friend who cannot have her own children and has already said she wants to be a special Aunty, the other is up for discussion. I'm not sure at the moment how appropriate it is to ask someone who already has their own family...would this be normal or is it more usual to ask someone without kids?

moomin you're quiet today!

Oooh good question barbie (glad to see you can be my stuck-at-work buddy too , and sorry for your DD - are the docs going to do any more tests?). jasmine never heard of not asking people with their own families already, but I've discovered a lot of traditions like this I never knew about so I'm probably not the right person to ask!

We are thinking of having a christening, but the godparent thing is a bit sticky. I think people might expect us to choose family? But if so, DH has three sisters and I don't think we could choose between them. Can't even go for the oldest as the oldest two are twins. I have a brother but, much as I love him, he's an appalling role model (he'd say as much himself). I don't know if that should matter or not, but really, he's more likely to teach our children slightly stupid ways of committing petty crime than anything else !!

So then we thought of friends, but it gets sticky again there. Our very closest friends are from uni and school - a couple and another boy and girl from uni, and my two best school friends. I had the girl from uni as my bridesmaid (and DH's sisters) and one of my school friends did a reading, so we are thinking of the boy from the uni couple and the other school friend. It would sort of work since they are both Christian (though we're not) and are close friends who weren't directly involved in our wedding. Plus we'd get the girl from the couple as a bonus godparent - is that really cheeky, though?

The man married to my school friend is lots of fun, but a serial drugtaker (which accounts for the fun), so not so keen on him, and it would massively offend my other school friend who hates him and whose own partner is a fine upstanding citizen.

Writing this down I realise I am waaaaay overthinking it!

Also, reading it back, I realise it makes me sound like Miss Judgey-Pants Extraordinaire. I don't actually know what grounds you're meant to choose godparents on. I guess we're going with people who are close to us and who weren't, for one reason or another, directly part of our wedding. But in the back of my mind I think it should be people who are good role models, too. Is that crazy, though, considering godparents don't actually do much anyway?!

Hi everyone

Barbie Yes, I have a little Jasmine flower on the way :)
Sorry to hear about poor little DD :( Hope she's feeling better soon. Must be horrible seeing her like that.

Jasmine So THAT'S what "carrying all the way round" means! I envisioned the bump carrying on all the way round your back so it looks like you've got a donut round your middle! Well my backside is approximately the size of a bus' now whatever that means!

Hi SavannahRose! You're due the day after me. And we're the same age I think :)

I think godparents can be whatever you want them to be as long as you make it clear to them what is expected. I am a godmother and was told my main role is to provide a fun element to her life - get up to muddy mischief in the garden, go canoeing in the summer and generally be juvenile with her, as her parents are highly intellectual types who arent that good as being silly! This is a role I have no problems with...and it was made very clear that I am not expected to provide any financial assistance or have any ongoing religious obligations.

We had DS 1 baptised Barbie (for my family and DP, as I'm an atheist). We didn't decide to do it until after he was born, so we asked godparents then.

This time I've asked one already, as she's in Australia and I want her to be here for the Christening. She was planning a visit anyway, so I'm trying to persuade her to put it back a few weeks so she's here after the baby's born.

We decided on no family as godparents, as they're already family and so don't really need any extra connection, iyswim?

We picked one who's brilliant while DS is little - never forgets a birthday or Christmas, one who will be fantastic when he's older, and will cart him around all over the place and hang out with him, and one who is very lovely and wise and will always listen and help without judging.

We also picked one who turned out to be worse than usesless and has never done a bloody thing or shown any interest, but 3 out of 4 isn't bad .

Good question Barbie, we are alkready thinking about choosing Godparents too - but I think we won't actually ask until after the birth, ideally we will ask them the first time they meet the baby face to face.

DD has three godparents, one of whom is a family member, we want this baby to have different people, so it is fair, and they both have adults with a special relationship with them only, although we may ask the same family member again...

I don't see why you couldn't ask people with their own children, we probably will do.

SavannahRose like you my first pg with DD, who will turn 4 just before this one is born, is a complete blur. I honestly don't remeber anything of that 9 months, and keep getting surprised by things that happen this time around!

We have Guideparents - the idea being that there's no religion, they are the people to whom DD can turn when we're pissing her off she needs a differnet perspective on things, or just somewhere she can escape to. Two of them are close friends of mine, a married couple, who have a DD of their own and would be ideal parental substitues in the case of something happening to us. The third is DP's best friend, an eternal student, with no plans to settle down and have his own DCs any time soon, but he adores her and is fun, so it's a nice balance of sensible and entertaining.

For the religion side of things, I've told MIL (devout Christian) that she is allowed to tell DD what she personally believes, but not to present it as the truth, just her opinion. I'll make sure DD learns about all the other major faiths, as well as why DP and I think it's all daft don't follow a religion, and then can make up her own mind. I let GM take her to a children's church thing before Xmas because it was fun, but woe betide her if she starts taking DD to services.

Welcome back Nurse, pleased to hear you're settled down now. Must be a huge relief!

And Welcome SavannahRose you're due the day before me - It's a good week to be due

Well I finally looked at my tiny scrap of garden and I have crocuses and snow drops trying to flower. Nothing there for the goat though (no water source for veg see).

Can't help with the whole god parent thing sorry as we don't go for that kind of thing, but DH and I have both allocated a good friend each who we would name DC's gaurdians in our wills for should the worst ever happen and GP weren't able to step in. (reading that I realise how slack we've been drawing up things like wills. Epp!)

I've noticed a disturbing trend with my stomach the last few days. It's getting bigger, in a saggy fatty fat fat kind of way . Time to pay attention to my name a bit more and stop eating biscuits! (esp as everytime I try to walk for more than 10 minutes my SPD flares up)

Lisa I like your approach with your MIL. We have a kind of jokey banter with my MIL (strict Irish Catholic) about how we're going to bring this one up as a Zoroastrian or a Jedi. Behind the joke, there is a warning to her not to impose her beliefs on us or our DS as she has already said she is looking forward to the confirmation. I like your approach, will discuss it with DH.

Off out for a walk now to feed the ducks....will be alot less embarassing doing that when I have a LO to take with me!

By the way - recommendations for best place for cost effective sprung cot mattresses? Just got a shock in Mothercare at £100...wasnt expecting that.

I had to tell one of my sisters that she wasn't going to be named in the will due to her religious convictions (totally into it, DH and I totally not). I know she was a bit upset by this, but she did understand.

Have fun with the ducks Jasmine

Welcome back NurseSunshine!!! You have been missed, Congratulations on your little girl as well . I hope your new home is suitable lovely for the two of you...

We had a non-religious naming ceremony for ds neither of us follow a religion, with "significant adults" ; my best friend from Uni and my partner's best friend since he was 5. They are both special to me and dp, and can enrich his life in various little different ways as he grows. We have already asked dp's brother to be godfather to this one, as their older brother has estranged himself from the family and BIL really misses his nieces, which means we should go for a female family member from my side really. I have two sisters and can't decide between them for the life of me, so may go for another friend.

I'm now thinking of staying at work til the moment I go into labour... in the middle of a day off with ds and am bloody shattered already!