Jue in June 2011 ......the wittering and waffling continues

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I think this is thread 8 or maybe 9......maybe we should take bets on which number we are on in June!!:)

mummy love the dress - getting excited for you now.

mother am collecting duck bread ready

Who was it that posted suggestions for 'toys' for a newborn? I bought some little cliplock pots yesterday to fill with beans and rice...what else was on the list? Must go back and print that off.

DH still going on about size of my boobage...apparently he told some of the guys he works with and they were all suitably impressed til I pointed out that my backside has also grown in proportion. We did alot of bouncing in aquanatal last night...was like a tsunami in my part of the pool

clarkiee yay for the house, hope it goes through quickly now.

A neighbour has just popped in and was laughing at my living room. I'm sleeping down there because of the building works upstairs. The sofabed was really uncomfy, so last night I built myself a 'nest' on the floor made of piles of duvets cushions and pillows. Was really cosy but it does look very like a nest..very appropriate. Bloody difficult to get out of to go for a wee though.

Have a good day x

Sorry ladies, huge rant, please feel free to skip, I just need to let off steam.

So today it took my mother all of 5 minutes to send my blood pressure through the roof. That's a record, even by her standards. She's come over to spend today with DD, which I thoroughly encourage, and am happy for her to do, especially this week while DP's abroad for a wedding. However, I always try to get out of the house as she's coming in, and today just proved why.

DD & I were 'having words' anyway, about toys left all over the floors downstairs, which I asked her several times to take upstairs to her bedroom before finally losing my rag and shouting that it was all going in the bin. Cue mother's arrival, just as DD is sobbing and I'm stomping off trying to get ready for work.

I asked her to take DD for a bit while I finished getting ready, assuming that would help calm DD down. Except mother decides to follow me into the bathroom, carrying DD, and start quizzing me over how much she now weighs. I have no f**king idea, she's 3, I haven't weighed her since she was a baby. She looks healthy, so why would I need to. (Please feel free to tell me this makes me a terrible mother, and that I should know my DD's weight in metric and imperial from her date of birth until she leaves home).

Then, as I'm standing in front of the bathroom mirror, putting on make up, mother helpfully points out the fact that I have a couple of spots. Yes, the ones I'm desperately trying to conceal right now. It wasn't appreciated when she make those kind of comments to me as a 13 year old, it sure as hell isn't helpful now. So I shouted back "yes, mother, I f**king love pregnancy, it does wonders for my skin....AND MY TEMPER" before going to finish getting dressed.

Finally, before leaving, I sat down with DD on my lap, to apologise for shouting. But re-iterated the fact that I had asked her several times to pick up her toys, and I don't expect to have to keep asking. I've told her time and again that she can bring toys out of her room to play with in other parts of the house, but they have to go back when she's finished with them, or I will just throw them away. At which point mother interrupts to say "don't worry darling (to DD) after the baby's born everything will be different". So I say quite sternly over the top of her "no, it won't, this is a household rule for DD and it will be the same for the baby. this is nothing to do with me being pregnant, this is to do with us trying to keep DD's toys safe and our house tidy".

As I left the house, she told me to be careful, as there was ice on the roads. I am 32 years old and expecting my second child..... I CAN DRIVE IN ENGLISH WINTER WEATHER CONDITIONS, THANK YOU VERY F**KING MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry, maybe some of you love your mums dearly, and wish they could visit you more. Mine simply drives me to anti-depressants.

Lisa my mum drives me totally insane. She has just moved out after living in my house for the last 6 months. But today her first day of looking after DS since moving out she has just phoned to say she has just woken up and is on her way. Am so tempted to pay someone to look after DS when she does as she is a pain in the arse. The only one to tell me I have a big bump when everyone else comments on how small I look and I can still fit in my normal jeans. She told me my DS was unlucky to have me as a mum as I was being strict with him at bed time FFS.

And breathe.

Just bought some maternity clothes from m&s sale. Fingers crossed they look ok...

Lisa sending some calm vibes over in your direction. You have alot going on and it sounds like your mother is not exactly being the unquestioning support you need. Hope your day improves...if not, have a big glass of virtual wine and get virtually mullered! Always here with my therapeutic duck feeding if you want to escape for a chill sometime...

lisascat....... and breathe.

In your house your mom should accept the rules that you enforce even if she doesnt agree with them. As for comments.....i think moms / grandparents always feel they can say what they like about appearances without thinking of the feelings of others.....
If you can try telling her that you are feeling extra sensitive at the minute due to your pregnancy and would appreciate compliments rather than critism, she probably has no idea that these comments hurt you.

Hope your day gets better

Sorry to hear you've had a tough morning Lisa. Family can be just charming sometimes can't they?!

Someone further up asked how everyone is sleeping. I am now resigned to waking up at 3 am almost every night and not getting back to sleep for a good couple of hours. This morning DH actually said one of us needs to start sleeping in the living room and didn't complain when I said it was him! My weak wrists this morning is from holding a book still for several hours.

Lovely dress MN2

nomore your sleeping pattern sounds the same as mine.........but DH doesnt even wake up.
The beans are obviously getting us used to it :)

Thank you all. Yes, they probably do have the best of intentions when they say these things, but seriously, commenting on your daughter's complexion, is there ever a time in her entire life that's going to be welcomed, much less when she's pregnant???

And jasmine and mother, yes please to therapeutic duck feeding very soon.

Oh and virtual wine, shmirtual shmine - I have adopted the French government's health recommendations and am merely limiting wine intake to no more than 2 glasses a week. It's grapes, therefore one of my five-a-day. I say this with absolute certainty in my voice!

PMSLROFL to use a nmcb phrase, at knackered's kinky birth plan . Imagine turning up at the hospital with your crotchless knickers on - that's one way to make the midwife spit her tea out ha ha.

moomin I too have been munching mini eggs by the bag load since they've been back on the shelves. They are definitely good for you. Eggs have got protein in, remember?!

Congrats on the house clarkiee, I hope it all goes through without any problems. Annoying about Rightmove but hopefully it's nothing to worry about.

That was the dress I guessed at mn2 and it's gorgeous :)

Sorry you've had an anger-inducing morning with your mum lisa. Mine is a very very bad combination of very very lovely and fecking controlling, as well as 100% deluded and defensive about how controlling she is. If you try to talk to her about anything even slightly awkward she goes absolutely blow-a-gasket scream-in-your-face mental and then afterwards is so lovely and so upset and so reasonable you end up confused about what you had tried to say in the first place, convinced you were definitely in the wrong, and guilty forever more. At the moment she's in a lovely phase, though, so I'm milking it while I can.

Anyway, it's not about me! In my book you were absolutely right this morning. I wouldn't recommend pleading pregnancy as a reason you feel sensitive though - it sounds like that's just the ammo she needs! I hope things calm down :)

nomore and moomin I cannot sleep. And when I do sleep apparently I spin round and round and round, so DH is getting no sleep either. I've told him I'll go in the spare room but he thinks it's unromantic , so we just lie there tossing and turning all night and trying not to get on each other's nerves (which, of course, is very very romantic )

Oh well, I'm sure it's nothing to what we've got in store!

Cross-post lisa. If ever a glass of wine was needed, I'm sure it's right now! It will be destressing for you and the LO :)

Looks like there are a few mental mothers out there! I hope we don't end up like them - moaning about our DDs and daughter in laws....

TTL and Moomin - what is it about mini eggs? Have just discovered what an excellent pg food they are...and have been scoffing bags of them.

The sleeping thing is interesting isnt it. I am usually awake at about 3 too - a clever way for bumps to get us used to night feeds....or a suitable time to logon to MN and have a chat/moan about DHs?

Im having a day full of knobs and tossers. Racing round the diy shops trying to get some big door knobs to match some we already have. Then got to get home for the pancake frenzy tonight..cant wait.
Is anyone else really into lemon juice at the mo? Cant get enough of it.

Did someone mention mini-eggs I reckon I've eaten more of them in the past 3 weeks than in the past 30 years . I'm staring at a tube on my desk and trying to hold out since I've just eaten toad-in-the hole for lunch

MN2 that dress is geoooorgeous. Really hope it fits

jasmine at your knobs and tossers. I made pancakes on Sunday as DTs are at the childminder's today. Am quite tempted to make some more tonight though, will see how knackered I am. Also awake at 3 most nights - last night was 3, 4 and 5 . What fun...

clarkiee yay on the house - its only a matter of time before it will get taken off the market. I know how impatient you must be though. You asked about induction dates - I didn't get one in the end. I know they would have induced me between 38-39 weeks but I had an appointment and scan due at 36 weeks and they were going to decide then (it was dependent on whether they were head down or not). In the end I had them just before then because of pre-e.

knackered crotchless pants, during labour . Now that would get the MW's talking You've got to hand it to the Ann Summers rep, she was really trying hard to sell you something. Actually, its almost worth a bet, buy a pair and wear them to the hospital for a joke. Mind you, you might have other things to worry about when you go into labour.

lisa oh dear - I'm not surprised you are fed up with your mum. Not tactful at all. definitely in order. Mine is over-protective but lives (currently) 8,000 miles away in HK which makes things worse as she thinks I'm overdoing it.

kara best not to look at the needle I find. Don't forget they will be behind you so you shouldn't see a lot. Its your DH who is likely to keel over when he sees it.

Can I have a little stomp that I'm not even 24 wks yet and it seems like ages to go. I'm of you practically all in the 3rd trimester. I'm fighting off yet another urine infection which meant I was up even more in the night than normal. Boo. MW on Thursday for usual checks. I hope she isn't as stroppy as she was last time.

mmm mini eggs... [dashes out to shops!]

Ok fellow June-ers - another question!

I've missed out on some antenatal info as I've been seeing obstetricians for the first 20 weeks (I have a heart condition which I was adamant wasn't a problem but they wanted to wait for the 20 week scan to make sure before releasing me back to the care of the MWs, and happily they now agree with me). So now I have to have my next appointment... and no one has told me when, how to book it or with who! I'm 24 weeks this week and really really should have worried about this earlier but I didn't .

In the hospital a note on the wall said 24 weeks = GP, but as I need bloods/urine etc pulled (I'm guessing) do I just make a normal appointment? Or a special one....

Help!

PS - I live in south west London, falling under Kingston Hospital's care, in case that makes a difference...

tiny I'm having shared care and have been told to make appointments to see the midwife at my GP surgery..

I'm at neighbouring area in Epsom but think it's different PCTs so might not be the same procedure. Also - I had my 25 week appointment last week with the midwife and she did the urine dip thing but said it wouldn't be bloods until 28 weeks. Again I guess this could vary by area? Sorry, I've just realised none of that is very helpful

Eeek, we are reaching the limit on this thread! Moomin keep us organised and start us a new thread when its time

Knackered do you think a baby would fit through the hole in crotchless pants? Might have to ask about that one in my NCT class. Could put peephole bras out as a suggestion for sore nipples too - mine chaffe on the seams in my bras...problem solved ...can you imagine G cup boobs in a peephole bra...euwww!

at the 'power of the bump'...in Wickes today I stuck mine out good and proper and a very nice man lifted all my stuff into the car for me.

more mini eggs.....

CMH I'm from Epsom...dont live there now but my parents do

Thanks for the advice guys. I phoned my GP and the woman at the desk was less than helpful. "I don't know, what do you want to do". Well, if I knew that, I'd just ruddy do it! .

I will phone the midwife who's number is on the front of my pack and she will no doubt be more helpful!

I might get some mini eggs first tho...

jasmine hello from sunny (at the moment anyway) Epsom!

lisa im sorry but i had to laugh at your post as she sounds just like my mum i cant count how many times this pregnancy my mum has sed your skins really bad lately...stop picking or be careful driving to work today its slippery out there or the traffics bad, im always saying mum i have been driving for 8 years lol, im sure there are days where u are used to your mum being like this but on some days it can get to much deep breaths :)

jasmine u should really ask them questions i would love to see the look on some people faces hehe

sorry have read all the posts just got cut of half way thru as have a very smelly nappy to change YUK!!

I seem to be the only one who's about mini eggs, however I am cultivating a nice little white choc buttons addiction instead.

Lisascat your mum sounds like some extra stress you don't need atm :( I wuold have a chat about presenting a united front to DD on with re to rules and things. It's not going to be good for DD if she's getting one set of direction from you and another from your mum. Enjoy that wine :)

nurse i am meh about mini eggs to :)

a Q about beds.. I'm in a bit of a muddle whether to buy a moses basket, crib or cot. From what I understand its best for the LO to sleep in same room as you to start with, but anyone got any advice about for how long? I also have heard somewhere that moses baskets are only good for about six weeks. Can cribs last longer? and when is about right to go into a cot?!

I seem to go through phases of feeling fairly clueless about everything and a little bit panicky if I'm honest.... Am hoping I'm not the only one who's not a serene earth mother type!!!!