Charters Anonymous Graduates – No more temping!

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Hello ladies ? bit nerve wracking moving over to ante natal but thought I?d be brave! Here?s to a trouble free 8 or so months for us all! And hoping lots more of us move over very soon.

Step away from your thermometers ladies. That way madness lies.

Sits back. Feels a bit lonely. Waits for others.

Just got heavier with some clotting.

All over for sure. Heartbroken.

Oh raven I am SO SO sorry It is totally gutting

I wish I could be there with you to give you a hug.

I have been through it and I know the feeling of emptiness.

Lots of love to you xx

I'm so sorry, Raven. It doesn't sound good to be honest but women do often bleed at this stage. Have you taken another pg test? Unfortunately I think there is not much the EPU can do before 6 weeks as the embryo won't show up on a scan until then, just a sac which won't tell you much. But they may be able to test your HCG levels and then again a couple days later to see if they are doubling.

So sorry you're going through this - can your DP be with you?

I feel have accepted this already. DH has come home from work and after a cry and a cuddle together has put soup on and headed to chemist to get me some pads and a pack of pg tests. Did a cheapie ebay one and it was a very very faint positive, not they bright dark line I would expect from nearly 5 weeks. Not even sure if it is worth phoning the EPU back - they did say call back if it got heavier, but not sure there is anything they can say to me that will be helpful or useful.

Now feel so silly that I told my parents and got them all excited. Dreading un-telling.

Sorry to bring thread down guys.

Oh raven you haven't brought the thread down, not at all. Am so sorry you are going through this, I think most of us on here have been through it at some point and can empathise deeply.

I'm really glad your DH is there for you.

If there is any positivity you can take from this it is that it's happened early and therefore your cycle is more likely to get back on track quickly. Also to know that the egg and the sperm did actually meet. I know that is not much comfort but you've got to try and see the positive. My MC was at exactly 5 weeks (only 1 day after yours) and cycle was not too badly disrupted afterwards.

Lots of love

Thanks getdown. Phoned EPU and they said to take a test after bleeding stops (in 1wk to 10days they estimate). They did offer to do a blood test to check hormone levels but I said no, I would check it myself.

Said I would probably ovulate in a couple of weeks, and cycle should be back to normal within a couple of rounds.

Feels so sad to be back at square one.

I remember your MC when it happened and have followed that you got pg again quite quickly and the same has happened to others. This gives me hope and hopefully I will be back to charters grads before too long!

All the best to everyone.

Hugs, Raven. Hope to see you back here really, really soon xxx

Raven im so so sorry....:( there are just no words to describe it. GD is right, many of us have been there, and can offer you support so please dont feel like you are dragging the thread down - not at all.
And on that note, i hope you dont think i am being insensitive posting about my scan results - i hope you take hope that i conceived 2 cycles after MC at 12 weeks, and others on here have conceived very quickly after mc, and that it happens quickly for you too... In the meantime, rest up, allow yourself time to grieve and recover, no matter how early it is - tis still a loss. ((hugs))

Well....... and a WHOOP for the wriggling nickster bean....ladies we have a bean! An enormous bean by the looks of it. :)
Couldnt do the nuchal measurement, as kept doing backflips!! The relief is incredible, i cried all the way home and out of the hospital. Thats it, first milestone, only another 2/3rds to go!! happy days xx

Oh raven I am so sorry, that's awful. Lots of love to you and DH. I can only imagine how hard it must be to have had this MC after your late loss last year. Glad your DH can be with you today. Please hang around if you want to talk, but if you'd rather escape from the antenatal boards for a bit I completely understand. Take care xx

And nix. That is fantastic, I am tremendously relieved for you (have been anxious all afternoon thinking of you and imagining myself there tomorrow). Enjoy staring in a mesmerised fashion at your pics . I love a wriggler.

So pleased for you, Nix. Yay!

Now let's all try and relax a bit

nix I am soooo thrilled for you Tried to post earlier but was really slow and my post got lost I was so delighted to read that all went well and you have a wriggly bean in there! Must be such a relief.

I can't wait to get to the 12 week mark (please, please, please) these early weeks are so full of worry and they really drag.

Raven I'm so sorry :( I hope you can rest and take some time for yourself and your dh. Don't rush back to work if you don't want to-time to grieve is so important. Thinking of you lots.

So glad for you nix-what a day of extremes. You must be so relieved-am so pleased for you!

I know I'm bad but I can't help myself - does anyone know how high temps are supposed to stay throughout pregnancy? Above the coverline? Higher? Mine are dropping slightly and I'm scared.

pippa I understand that temps will slowly drop throughout pregnancy, not sure why though. This is from my MIL who temped for the full 9 months. Twice.

Pippa step away from the thermometre

Raven hope you are ok this evening?

GD thankyou honey, Tis such a relief, the roller coaster that has been the last 8 weeks has come to an abrupt surreal end and now the real roller coaster is really just beginning!!

spilt everything will be fine for you tomorrow. You have had tons of symptoms and still continue with them, i think you could be expecting a pair of beans but i think you will be happy with just 1, a healthy baby x

I feel like i have been in a washing machine for the last 8 weeks. Trying to keep busy with work and being incredibly stressed, i feel like i had a brain made of cotton wool and everything around me is candy floss!!!

Thank you nix I'm really hoping you're right and all is ok in there, but you never believe it until you see the proof do you? I would be beyond shocked if there's a pair in there (I was more sick and tired last time), I'm hoping for one!

Will be fine spilt but you are right, until you see it, you have no clue!

Thinking of you tomorrow xx

Ok time to share my birth, not dissimilar to yours lg, except I didn't attempt a water birth at home.

I was in slow labour from Sunday eve eventually delivering Friday lunch, contracting all through every night, stopping in the day so exhaustion played a large part. Body really struggled to get into established labour. 17 hour established labour, every drug under the sun, cervix jammed up at 4 Cms so had togo on a drip, epidural, etc. After the crap midwife mismanaging my labour, and not catheterising me for a wee she had me pushing for 3 hours with an overful bladder, after the consultant emptied it, gave me episiotomy funnily enough then I could actually feel the contractions!! Ventouse delivery. I could have coped with all that, but my son was delivered then spent 7 days in intensive care after his right lung collapsed upon delivery.

He suffered at the hands of incompetent inexperienced scbu and they didn't know how to fix him so we had a middle of the night dash to Manchester scbu where he was ventilated. Memories of that will haunt me forever.

Thankfully he is a very healthy robust cheeky little boy who o cherish every day. He suffered for his first year with repeat chest infections and a weak immune system but is now really really healthy :)

I think in the event of trauma you associate it all with the same thing! That's why my first thought is epidural or section cos I don't want bean no 2 going through that too !!

OK, realistically I know I'm going to carry on temping because I'm shit scared. These are falling. My chart I'm not even six weeks yet :(

Pippa stop temping NOW. My temps fell same point, it's why I stopped temping. And yours haven't even fallen significantly. They won't tell you anything, they will merely worry you.

Spilt wishing you all the luck in the world for your scan today! I'm sure you'll be fine and will be a lovely experience. xxx

Thanks for sharing your birth story, Nix. Must have been so scary with your little guy - was that as a result of the birth?

Thanks Gaga, I know you're all right about stopping temping, it's just hard not to obsess after last time. TCOYF says they drop before miscarriage which is why I'm freaking out I think. I don't know how much of a drop is a drop if that makes sense. Good luck today Spilt :)

Been scanned and all is well
One little baby measuring 4.2cm with heartbeat.
I am so relieved, I have only just stopped wanting to throw up!

Fab news, Spilt! What did they date you at? Are you where thought it would be?

I know it's hard not to obsess, Pip. I am the same - early on in this pregnancy I took a cheapy test every two days to make sure line was getting darker! But I think temping is just making you more anxious so I think it is time to stop - what good is an early warning going to do you?

spilt YAY so pleased you got to see your bean and the heartbeat! Wonderful. Must be so reassuring. How many weeks are you now?

pippa please stop temping, you are clearly stressing out about it and as others have said it won't help you. I stopped temping after my temps seemed to be falling and it was such a relief to not get up every morning and check it in a panic. Yours are actually not falling anyway they are still high. I do understand the fear after a MC though. Keep telling yourself it is very unlikely to have two in a row.

Gosh nix I am so sorry you had such a traumatic time with DS sounds horrific. How are your pelvic floors now, mine are shot to pieces thanks to a similarly incompetent professional who made me push on a full bladder If only they knew the damage they caused, this is something I will prob have a problem with for the rest of my life I'm sure my traumatic birth and 9 day hospital stay played a large part in me getting PND so badly. I too am very tempted by a planned ceasarian this time! (hoping I get that far of course!)

Waves to everyone else!