Charters Anonymous Graduates – No more temping!

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Hello ladies ? bit nerve wracking moving over to ante natal but thought I?d be brave! Here?s to a trouble free 8 or so months for us all! And hoping lots more of us move over very soon.

Step away from your thermometers ladies. That way madness lies.

Sits back. Feels a bit lonely. Waits for others.

Thanks Getdown and Split - I will step away from the thermometer! Sex is such a silly thing to worry about isn't it? It's hard not to obsess about potential problems though. Particularly when my mother is a real glass half empty person - when I told her I was pregnant again I got 'lovely, don't get your hopes up.' Perfect!

(By the way, I stopped recording sex on my chart after ovulation...realise it looks like I've been ignoring DP for the last fortnight

One of my friends learned about hypnobirthing and was so calm in hospital with her first baby that they kept her in a waiting area and didn't pay her any attention at all until she was 9cm dilated! Her husband says it was the most incredible thing he'd ever seen - he wouldn't have known she was in pain. So I reckon there's something to it!

Poppa well done on the bfp btw :) fab news!!
Step away from the therm xxxx

Who is poppa ? Doh damn phone

I have energy, is that cos am coming upto 12 weeks or cos it's all gone wrong inside?

We haven't, you know, since the conception . Combination of nervousness after the mc, me feeling so sick and tiredness. Feel lot less sick now and 14 weeks tomorrow (how did that happen!) but still going to bed at 8pm every night. Poor DP. Hope to feel better soon.

Slaps Nix with some well rotted herring. Is cos your placenta is taking over. When is your scan?

Hypnobirthing is fascinating, Spilt. I used CD's last time which helped but think we are going to go to classes this time as well. DP needs some kind of education in any case as is his first.

Jeepers 14 weeks GG how did that happen. Scan monday, thanks for the slap. Norks felt like they deflated, (even though back today) and although sleeping like a log still shattered esp mid day! Poor DS! I did need the slap - thats why am here Fab you feel better though :)

We havent since conception either.... and strangely enough didnt for a long time even after DS was born (i had a very difficult labour and both DH and I were a bit scarred!!)

I wish i could even think about hypnobirthing...my first thought is epidural or section

Well nix a lot of the hypnobirthing techniques seem to be about relaxation, calmness and lack of fear etc which I would certainly need to stand any chance of an epidural without also being paralysed and if having a section I can imagine it would be very helpful too so not necessarily one to rule out. I picked up the Marie Mongan book second hand off of Amazon for about a fiver, figured it was worth a punt. What happened at your DS's birth?

I agree with Lady, tis normal to start to feel more alive after 10-12 weeks ish, the hormone cocktail stabilises thanks to the lovely placenta taking over the hard work.

My birth was a bit traumatic as well, Nix - kind of why I want a different experience this time round. DS was in awkward position (sideways on, widest part of head presenting) so had extended second stage, had to be transferred into hospital by ambulance (from my nice home water birth) then he was delivered by ventouse. Came v close to a section but they got him out eventually. Had had epidural by this time due as fed up and exhausted. (They're not as bad as you expect either Spilt - you don't care at all by that point.)

But I honestly didn't care about everything as soon as he came out and I saw his precious little face.

I found the sex quite painful for ages after DS born, Nix. Maybe because I had an episiotomy and stitches and everything actually felt quite tight down there which was NOT what I was expecting at all. But was all fine after a few goes but needed a large glass of wine first go!

Let me know if that Marie Mongan book is any good, Spilt

Hiya, hope you're all having a nice relaxing weekend...

split I started antenatal yoga after the 12wk scan. I did it years ago and thought it would be perfect for pregnancy. It's fantastic for preparing mind and body for birth with the breathing and strengthening core muscles, and I enjoy it and sleep so well afterwards.

I'm planning a homebirth because I want a calm, relaxed birth environment with my DH and a midwife. I don't feel comfortable in hospitals and there's nothing medically wrong with me, so I want to be at home (if possible, sometimes things don't always go to plan, and if so we only live 5-10 mins from the hospital).

I'm currently reading Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, v interesting.

Thanks newyearsday I might look into it. Actually I wouldn't mind some pregnancy swimmingy exercise thing but would necessite better grooming and swimming costume purchase so I shall procrastinate a little further.

I hope you have the homebirth you want. Are you planning on waterbirth? I love the idea of homebirth so much and wouldn't hesitate to book one if we were only 10-15 mins from hospital but I have a transfer time of about 1hour and that scares me. I know emergencies are very unusual, but it would be at the back of my mind the whole time. What worries me about my hospital is that the pools might all be busy and that would be crap

On the plus side my hospital (Gloucester Royal) have just built and opened a swanky new "Women's Centre" to replace all the tatty maternity, antenatal, neonatal etc departments/wards and from the online tour it looks rather nice
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I am abit baffled though as to why they have only put 2 pools in the Birth Centre. At least all of the LDRP rooms are ensuite with a bath so could have a good soak and splash around whilst waiting for a proper pool.

Lady that sounds tough. It must take a bit of mental processing afterwards if you've had a birth that's very very different to how you had hoped and planned. I very much hope you get an easier one this time. Are you hoping for HB again?

Hi Charters Grads!

Not sure if I belong here quite yet, but I got a BFP on Thursday.

As we all seem to, I am now in a perma state of worry. Am a normal weight, don't smoke, don't have any health problems, but my eggs aren't at their youngest (I am 32) so I am paranoid about miscarrying.

Going to book an appt with the GP on Monday but will try and wait until the week after to actually go, incase they think I am time wasting. Will they?

Have told my folks. Couldn't keep it in! Going to keep it from the in-laws for another week and then from everyone else until 12 week scan.

Feeling tired, and thirsty. But other than that totally normal.

How is everyone else?

Congrats Raven! I share your paranoia (haven't felt nauseous today an am worried sick) but I think positive thinking is the way forward. I don't think your GP will think you're time wasting at all-they'll have a few bits of literature to give you and the form for free prescriptions anyway-and then your midwife will want to see you at about 8 weeks. I am counting the days to when I can have a scan and seriously considering asking midwife to let me have an early one. So worried after last time though GP says one miscarriage doesn't necessarily mean any higher chance of another one. Anyway, welcome to the club and here's hoping we're all in it till the end!

Congratulations Raven and welcome! The GP won't actually do anything at all. They don't even check you are pregnant. At my surgery you just pop in and fill in a form and then the midwife contacts you for your booking in appt at about 10 weeks. And you are pretty much left to your own devices until then. Your eggs are likely to be ok at 32. Miscarriages happen but chances are very good that you won't.

Am hoping to try for another homebirth, Spilt. We're only 10 mins from the hospital anyway. I'm consultant led care because of my thyroid but last time they signed me back to midwife at the end as pregnancy had all been straightforward so fingers crossed same happens this time.

Anyone else feel quite tightly wound at the moment? Poor DP gets the brunt, am quite snappy these days and hyper critical of everything. And have just come the closest to smacking DS that I have ever done (I didn't). I was properly enraged. Had to haul myself away and have a sobbing fit.

I think days like this would previously have called for a large glass of red

lady it's so strange you said that about your DS, as my DD is really playing up too today and had to just walk out the room at one point to stop my rage from showing I don't know if she's being particularly naughty at the moment, or whether I am feeling more tired / emotional etc. and so not coping with it as well.

However, I had a meeting at church this afternoon and DH took over, that couple of hours break did wonders and am feeling much calmer again now

I am SOOOOOOOO thrilled for ravenlocks!! We shared a few buses together I think. Always lovely to see a familiar name get a BFP. I really hope this pg is smooth for you. I too am terrified of MC, having suffered one last time.

But as Lady says the chances are much much higher in our favour for a successful pregnancy. I keep telling myself this over and over. Much more likely that everything will be fine than not.

pippa Hi there my love, don't worry about the sickness coming and going - although I too totally understand about the worry it causes. I had sickness from the day I got my BFP for a week or so and then it completely disappeared for a couple of weeks and i was so worried as that is what happened before the MC last time. But boobs stayed sore and the areolas are getting bigger. And I've got a bit of sickness back today, so am clinging on to hope (I also had a panic because my sickness stopped the day after I took a pill to help me sleep - a tiny dose, and known to be ok in pg anyway - but I still tortured myself thinking I'd killed the baby ) I think it's so hard not to worry about every slightest thing. But we just HAVE TO STAY POSITIVE

Positive thought for me today - I am six weeks pregnant today - yay!!!

Toddlers are exasperating and heartbreakingly gorgeous and loving in equal measure. Mine ran away from me after pooing his pants (deliberately), not waiting to have his bum wiped and sliding down the stairs on his bum before I could stop him. You can guess the result.

Glad you're feeling calmer. Am counting down the minutes until bedtime...his and mine! Well done on getting to 6 weeks too - already further on than last time aren't you?

Ah ha ha ha lady that's just brilliant- how they know how to press those buttons with mummy!!! Sliding down the stairs priceless! If you don't laugh you will cry!!

My ds ran off this morn chuntering grumpy old mummy when he got told off! Proper answering back stage ATM!

Know exactly what you mean about being on the verge of smacking in reaction.

Scan Tomor, scared shitless but also quite calm. Was sick again this morn whilst brushing teeth, what is it about toothpaste?? So that's reassuring, just aching all across tummy and lower back, no crmps just aches, have been on feet all day tho! Think also pelvic floors are shot too! Keep everything crossed.

Raven nausea boobs and sickness come and go in waves for me if that helps! Spilt, I will share my borth story tomorrow if all is ok with the scan xxxxxx

spilt that women's centre looks loooovely!! Very The hospital where I had DD was a crumbling 1960s building. The windows didn't shut properly and I had to be moved rooms in the middle of the night as was december and the icy wind was whistling in and making my baby cold

I am hoping on a much nicer one this time (not going back to that first hospital) - the other one is a bit further away but just has been revamped so hoping for a nicer experience. I was in for 9 days after DD and I was ready to kill someone by the end.

nix really hoping your scan goes well. Very exciting, but can understand must be nerve wracking too. I really hope all is fine, sure it will be Just think how reassured you'll be to have got through the dreaded 12 week mark!

lady at your little DS! You were very restrained given the circumstances My DD took more of the "drip drip drip" approach today - no one major thing, just lots of little irritating things, like screaching, incessantly nicking my mobile phone, running off, refusing her lunch, blowing rasperries. You know, that kind of toddler stuff that goes with the territory but grates a bit after the 100,000th time.

Getdown I am praying that all is ok and I'm not particularly religious. I know the stat about 98% of pg go to term where heartbeat seen at 8 weeks but still terrified none the less. I will be ecstatic to move into the 2nd trimester this week, roll on 12o clock xx

Well nix I am religious and I will say a little prayer for you tonight Hope all is fine. Just try and stay calm. Nothing you can do, other than get a good night's rest. Let us know how you get on

Thanks lady re. me getting to 6 weeks, yes this is further than I got last time, and my CB digital said 3+ yesterday so really hoping this one is healthy and growing !!

Can I ask a question?

Is it possible to have a slightly expanding waistline at 6 weeks pregnant?

Or am I just eating too many cakes? It can't be the pregnancy yet can it?

Good luck for tomorrow, Nix. Will be thinking of you xxx

I think my waistline was starting to thicken at 6 weeks - partly down to bloating probably with digestion slowing down etc. But I think with your second you get bigger sooner. I am definitely bigger at this point than I was first time round. I was able to hide it at work til 18 weeks or so last time but people had guessed by 11 weeks this time!

Thinking of you for tomorrow Nix xx

Welcome raven

I am chuckling at these naughty toddlers, well done all for your great restraint! I would go nuts at poo all down the stairs...

Hooray for 6 weeks GetDown! I'm not sure what it is about the number 6 but it felt like an important milestone (half way to 12 maybe?). Your expanding waistline is probably a mixture of bloating and water retention and general slight rejigging of your innards as the uterus just starts to grow. Sorry you've started feeling sick again, but good

Thanks for the lovely welcomes. I fear I have tempted fate though.

Bleeding this morning. So so worried. Have taken day off work.

Can't get appointment at docs til Weds pm. Phone Early Pg unit, they said to monitor bleeding and call them back if it gets heavier or goes for more than 2 days. Only 4+6. What should I do?

Raven, so sorry you have this worry.

You have done the right thing. Im sure someone more experienced will be along with suggestions in a tick. (I have experience of that and epu etc a little farther along, but not at 4 + 6)

In the meantime, put a pad in, get those feet up and try to rest. xxx