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Due in Dec 05 - thread 10. The one where we all become friends!

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sweetheart · 03/10/2005 16:40

A new thread for all us friendly Dec ladies

We sit and we type,
And we stare at our screens;
We all have to wonder
What this possibly means.
With our mouse we roam,
Through the rooms in a maze;
Looking for something or someone,
As we sit in a daze.
We chat with each other;
We type all our woes;
Small groups we do form,
And gang up on our foes.
We wait for somebody
To type out our name;
We want recognition,
But it is always the same.
We give kisses and hugs,
And sometimes flirt;
In PMs (IMs) we chat deeply,
And reveal why we hurt.
We do form friendships -
Yet why, we don't know;
But some of these friendships
Will flourish and grow.
Why is it on screen,
We can be so bold?
Telling our secrets
That have never been told.
Why is it we share
The thoughts in our mind
With those we can't see,
As though we were blind?
The answer is simple;
It's as clear as a bell.
We all have our problems
And need someone to tell.
We can't tell real people,
But tell someone we must;
So we turn to the computer,
And to those we can trust.
Even though it is crazy,
The truth still remains:
There are Friends Without Faces,
With odd little names.

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bigscaryeyes · 05/10/2005 10:38

Bloomin heck can't keep up - Thanks nemo I will read your posts and take notes! Sorry about your loss.

Nemo666 · 05/10/2005 10:39

BE its nothing a lot of us on here havent had..most of the dec ladies have lost one or more babies unfortunately..thats why we are looking forward to our xmas bundles.

bigscaryeyes · 05/10/2005 10:40

click on your members profile thingy. Bandages eh? Ive been told about body bandages for SPD - may not be that far from reality for me! he he he

kangel · 05/10/2005 10:40

B/E you poor thing, the worry never ends!

In a few weeks I'll be handing everything over to her - shes not going to know whats hit her but at least I will still be here to help when she realises what she has to do!

Must go and have some brekkie now - will check in later.

bigscaryeyes · 05/10/2005 10:43

Too right nemo I couldn't believe when i first joined that some people question whether its gud to have a dec baby a healthy, wanted, and loved baby is joyful anytime of year - i fould some comment on one thread a bit insulting as if they would be ungrateful if they were to be expecting a dec baby - baubles to them I say!

ei23monster · 05/10/2005 10:46

yay iv done it!! i actuall like this one better!!
lol BE iv started on the slippery slope to mummyhood aswell cos iv gotta wear braces on my arms that are kinda bandage-like!! due to carpal tunnel syndrome!! i havent got spd tho(yet) so i doubt id have to wear any more bandaging unless i fancy a change in wardrobe!!

scully · 05/10/2005 10:50

so you're considering going back to work afterwards then, bigse? I won't gloss over it, commuting and doing the nursery drop off and pick up and doing your normal hours at work isn't easy.....I often feel like like I'm not giving home or work my full attention. In some ways it's got easier as dd has got older and she can now talk to me about her day and her friends etc. But then having her reguarly ask me if she can stay home does nothing for the guilt. But when you can't financially copy on one salary, you just have to get on with it, a hard as that sounds.....You will wonder what you did with all your spare time, that's for sure
Thx for the feedback about having 2nd, 3rd or 4th children - just those irrational thoughts that sneak into my head when I'm having a guilty moment.....dq, having 3 children, did you notice any 'middle child' hassles when no. 3 came along? dh and I are undecided about having 2 or 3 - I favour 3, but feel that my middle sister has always had issues with me (being the youngest) so that is at the back of my mind.

Nemo666 · 05/10/2005 10:51

right got to get on with tidying as have a friend coming for 12.30 and we are not even dressed..lol

sweetheart · 05/10/2005 10:54

scully - I'm one of three and my sister def has issues. I'm not sure if it's down to middle child syndrome or not.

Mind you having said that, my eldest sister has issues too - perhaps I'm the only normal one OR perhaps they think I have issues

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scully · 05/10/2005 10:59

how lovely nemo, being in your pj's still! is harder rolling out of bed now it's dark at 6am
sh, my sister also thinks I have issues. Have been having email arguments with her most of the year actually [shock} but decided she needed to know my opinion on a few things, after I got hear hers.....Guess we'll see how we cope with 2 first, that might decide it for us

ei23monster · 05/10/2005 11:05

i think thats why i keep getting up late with it still being darkish when im supposed to get out of bed it seems like its still nightime so i just stay in bed for another five mins which turns into an hour and then im late!!(thats my excuse anyway!!) i start my next placement on monday so getting up at 5:30 should be fun!!

aprilmeadow · 05/10/2005 11:18

Hi Sweetheart, Sorry to gatecrash, but thought i had better let you know that i am having problems with my email - they havent set it back up yet - and also cant seem to get on to MSN , so i cant save you from any boredom you might be having.

Hope you are having a good day. Speak to you soon x

sweetheart · 05/10/2005 11:26

AM - no worries, I've got exam revision to do anyway. Hope being back at work is OK!!!
Just mail me when it's up and running again

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bigscaryeyes · 05/10/2005 11:27

Scully - yes of course going back to work but I am going to go for part-time hours and try to get a post that doesn't inc a busy commuter route. DH thinks I worry too far ahead but he's not the one who has do the nuresery run etc and he has flexi time.

We have smll 2bed house and I'm sick of people saying oooo you'll need to move when baby comes along for more space - no we bloody won't! The mortgage for this is manageable on one salary - thats the sacrifice we made so if I need to stay at home more I can. But to be comfortable I do need to go back to work.

Anyway this is why I was saying before we would like them close together, the way I see it two maternity leaves out of the way and wrk p/t then we can afford bigger mortgage and move! Well thats my big plan. In the meantime Ive convinced DH to invest in a conservatory to create a dinning room!

bigscaryeyes · 05/10/2005 11:32

Ive got to go - DH is moaning he needs a back rub. Nearly lunch too - spicey mexican bean burgers tescos veg range v tastey I recommend! Bye for now all.

bonkerz · 05/10/2005 12:55

crikey girls you lot have verbal diarrheoa today!!

Am in agony today with my hip. Left side ALOT worse than right and pain is spreading down thigh and in bum cheeks too. Am off to lay down but may have to call mindees parents as not sure i can cope with this pain! Have midwife tomorrow so will ask her about it AGAIN. Someone did suggest it may be sciatic nerve so what should i demand from my midwife? Have also noticed that the left hip is swollen!! Would paracetamol help? Dont really want to take anything but am in AGONY!!!

ThomBat · 05/10/2005 13:00

Oh no, how am I going to be able to catch up?!
Hmmmmmmmm, okay anything about you I need to know please let me know. Put TC at the front then i can focus and see how you are!!!!!!!!

Who was it has carpel tunnel???? I had that with lottie, not nice, woke me up every day, until I had safe steroid injection in my wrist given to me by GP.

sweetheart · 05/10/2005 13:05

Bonkerz - yes, take some paracetamol!!! The swelling doesn't sound good and if I were you I'd ring the mw.

It does sound like siatica (except I'm not sure about the swelling!) if thats the case probably the worst thing you can do is lay down (or lounge on the sofa) what you need to do is sit upright to push the baby forward onto your pelvis and not backwards onto the siactic nerve (Which is waht laying down will do)

Have you got a birthing ball, I find it really helps to sit on mine next to the arm of the sofa. Get a big cushion/pillow and lay your head on the sofa arm so your sort of laying down but forwards!

Does that make sense?

Now, send you mindee's home - and ring you mw! Thats an order

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bonkerz · 05/10/2005 14:14

SH: you really are full of informataion!! HAve figured out that laying down hurts! Also sitting on chairs hurts and have found im ok if i sit on floor at a 90 degree angle! HAve had to adjust seat in car too so im sitting right up IYKWIM. Just find it hard to get up off the floor!!
have been sat on bed propped up and has helped ease a bit but now have to push 2 mindees in double buggy up a hill to get DS from school! Ah the joys! will take some pills to help with pain!!
Am definately gonna damand MW helps me tomorrow! Luckily i finsh at 1pm tomorrow and have nothing plannedas tumbler being delivered so am in house all morning!Cant really afford to take time off right now but will definately have to double check on the progress of my Maternity allowance claim incase i have to finish work sooner than hoped! 28 weeks today by my dates! Hoorah!!

bonkerz · 05/10/2005 14:14

did someone mention you can get those ball things from argos? can i have a link please???

dramaqueen72 · 05/10/2005 14:16

woohoo ladies
lovely chat to read and catch up.
been to midwife, who was of sick at the last minute so they sent a replacement -Head of midwives in our area! and she was very much the right person to talk to about homebirth, shes very pro it so looks like thats the way for me now. baby active and fine, tho measuring 30wks instead of 28.. midwife freaked me slightly by saying, i think this one willbe earlier than christmas -! eek!
asked her about moodswing/feel irrate and she said (thought everyone would like to read this bit!!)
our blood is thinning at this stage, our ribs are flaring out and shortening our breath/oxygen in blood, this makes you lightheaded, cranky, short tempered etc, and its VERY NORMAL to feel cross and cranky now. infact she said the midwives expect it around now.
I was so pleased!!!
my babies heartbeat went from 139 to 152 as she was taking it , she said this is why she doesnt believe in the heartrate myth, LOL

and dh has arranged painter/plasterer to be here weekend after next to do nursery.
so am very happy bunny right now.

dramaqueen72 · 05/10/2005 14:17

oh and I now have appointments every 2 wks!!! now THAT brings it home we are close!

bonkerz · 05/10/2005 14:20

graet news DQ: Its really all getting SO close isnt it !! Am gonna print out the bit about moods and show DH!!
Im expecting to be moved to fortnightly app with MW tomorrow as its only been 3 weeks since my last and with DS i was weekly from 26 weeeks due to higher than average BP!!!

scully · 05/10/2005 14:21

I shall tell my dh about what your midwife said, re. mood swings etc Always nice to hear that we aren't imagining it or completely losing the plot

scully · 05/10/2005 14:23

Every 2 wks, mine have just changed to every 3wks.... Could do with a day off every 2wks though