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Due in Dec 05 - thread 10. The one where we all become friends!

714 replies

sweetheart · 03/10/2005 16:40

A new thread for all us friendly Dec ladies

We sit and we type,
And we stare at our screens;
We all have to wonder
What this possibly means.
With our mouse we roam,
Through the rooms in a maze;
Looking for something or someone,
As we sit in a daze.
We chat with each other;
We type all our woes;
Small groups we do form,
And gang up on our foes.
We wait for somebody
To type out our name;
We want recognition,
But it is always the same.
We give kisses and hugs,
And sometimes flirt;
In PMs (IMs) we chat deeply,
And reveal why we hurt.
We do form friendships -
Yet why, we don't know;
But some of these friendships
Will flourish and grow.
Why is it on screen,
We can be so bold?
Telling our secrets
That have never been told.
Why is it we share
The thoughts in our mind
With those we can't see,
As though we were blind?
The answer is simple;
It's as clear as a bell.
We all have our problems
And need someone to tell.
We can't tell real people,
But tell someone we must;
So we turn to the computer,
And to those we can trust.
Even though it is crazy,
The truth still remains:
There are Friends Without Faces,
With odd little names.

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bigeyes · 03/10/2005 21:19

Yellowbear was there a problem with me being on the stats list? - I was invited to post! You deleted my entry

dramaqueen72 · 03/10/2005 21:23

me sensible? um, not often but thankyou for saying so and moan away bigeyes, this is no competition, we are all here for each other.

redheadmum, THANKYOU. this is my fourth labour -so you'd think i'd know it all wouldnt you? LOL and each one has got quicker and quicker (fabulous) this is my last baby and i really want to try out staying in the water for delivery and being at home. just kinda talking dh into it. he thinks its a v 'hippy me' thing but hes agreed to go ahead if i want it.
I have found a thread with lots of pool links in so will check them all out. sounds like your pool was great.
my 'worries' are really silly practical things, like how to stop my inlaws (who are next door almost) from interrupting -and they seem keen to interrupt btw!, how to transfer my children to inlaws without them -esp the youngest- seeing me contracting and in pain. I worry about not having the right things here, and about any mess dh would have to clear up by himself -or more to the point me feeling like i ought to get up and help!
what happens to the placenta? what do you iwsh you had not done/done differently in relation to being at home? and what could you of not got thro it without?
altho we have room for a pool, i dont think we would have room to put it up early, plus you know -christmas (when i'm due) amd trees and stuff everywhere......
that said I think i am more up for this than anything else.
thankyou so much for taking the time for me. i am taking notes to read to dh!

bigeyes · 03/10/2005 21:29

DQ your waterbirth prep sounds exciting I wish I cud we just donm't have the room and I think it would take me an age to convince DH hope you get sorted with a pool etc.

george32 · 04/10/2005 07:35

DQ, the pool sounds lovely. I'm hoping that one of the pools is free in the hospital when I go in.
Then again I'm so fickle, I'll probably make a fuss of using one, spend 5 minutes in there & change my mind

Thanks Papillon, am now taking chocolate as preventative medicine against my cold. Who needs beechams hot lemon when you can have a mug of hot choccy instead!!
Another rough night (4 in a row now) & feeling dreadful so staying at home again today. Really feel like crying now with the lack of sleep. DP is sleeping badly too to keep me company (I'm sure there is something in them having phantom symptoms)

Haven't checked on the other thread yet but I hope things were OK last night Ninah and you got an action plan sorted out. Thinking of you. {{{{{hugs}}}}}}}

redheadmum · 04/10/2005 08:23

hi again

I just asked if 1st birth as you can encounter difficulties asking for a home birth.....

MIL interuption: can you tell them straight what you need? or get someone else to take the kids to them...my neighbour took my DD, maybe you could get a friend/neighbour to be a 'go between' and that way you also keep yr dH to yourself

placenta - midwives deal with it....I don't think I even bothered to look at it

mess - don't worry just get some plastic sheets from B+Q, some old sheets and towells. It's not that messy and if you give birth in the water it will mostly be in there.

I would really recomend getting the pool up asap, just then you can relax, you don't want to put it up w hilst in labour! Put the tree in it!!

Yes, people thought I was h ippy, but giving birth in water is v safe and an amazing experience for me...I felt so much more relaxed (the midwife said is she in labour?!) I didn't tear (but didn't last t ime either). and generally recovered very well from the birth.

Any other questions?

dramaqueen72 · 04/10/2005 09:54

thankyou redheadmum youre a star.
how did you empty yours? dh is STILL muttering about him and buckets at 3am. think you can buy pumps to do most of it tho cant you?
I suspect i will think of something else later on but thats all for now, thankyou!!!

george, water makes such a difference in labour, truely. you wont believe it til you get in a bath/pool/shower but it really helps. try water before drugs I say! and at least i know why i havent caught dhs cold...its all my..er,.. preventitive measures (chocolate) I have been eating.
i dreamt i was in labour last night ( was reading about birthing pools til about 1am so thats prob why)and woke up with awful backache, that for a moment I thought I WAS in labour. a bit of a jolt awake that!
things are better between dh and I, not perfect but alright. the only problem I have, is that altho alot of these rows are 90% me, he seems to get around saying sorry, explaining his actions and thoughts or whatever by concentrating on what I did/said....am first to put hand up and say I'm out of line alot, but!! hes in the wrong too, so howcome it always gets to be him forgiving me and then its all over? get abit miffed at that sometimes. do you know what i mean or am i wittering on?

sweetheart · 04/10/2005 10:01

DQ I know what you mean - my dh never thinks he's in the wrong. I've had to give him the silent treatment in the past and refuse to speak until he appologises - not the most adult approach but I find it pretty effective. Although if things are already strained this probably isn't the best way to go!!!

I got an e-mail from my friend this morning saying she will pop onto the thread with her brithing details later tonight. Her name is Scully so keep an eye out for her.

I'll just add my experience for an alternative view. When I went into hospital to have dd I had a bath as I hoped it would ease the contractions. I went into the bathroom and the mw had put about 3 inches of water in the bath - and it wasn't even warm. I was looking forward to a nice deep warm bath but I was told they can't do that incase you deliver the baby into water which is too hot. I found myself sitting in a puddle of water shivering and after 5 mins I got out. I personally was very dissapointed - but then I'm not really a bath person - I prefer showers, so that might have something to do with it. And I'm supposed to be a Picese

Anyway, also just wanted to add to my huge post that.....................................................................................................................................

I am due 2 months today

Hows everyone else today?

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sweetheart · 04/10/2005 10:03

Duh, not Scully - it's Scraggyaggy!

I really am having a blonde day. Pregnancy brain has well and truly set in - Sorry scraggy!!!!!!

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Nemo666 · 04/10/2005 10:04

just quick hello as am off to mw in a min.

Sh 2 mths today..scarey isnt it..lol

expatinscotland · 04/10/2005 10:09

Baby is thumping away, probably thinking, 'It's getting crowded in here, let me out!'

I just fed it a piece of chocolate, too.

dramaqueen72 · 04/10/2005 10:11

quick hello back nemo, do have a productive midwife app.
s/h this time i will prob leave it til we are on a better level and then say something to dh, i mean i can overreact but HE is the guy who sets me off so hes doing something!!!
will look out for your friend. I hoep nobody minds me hogging the thread with birth pool/home birth stuff for a moment?! (sorry guys)
how awful your water experience sounds!! with d2 i had a nice fairly deep warm (and constantly topped up) bath, from 4cm to 9cm dilated..... altho it was frustrating because you dont really want to lie back when youre having contractions!!!!! so was knelt up and water not high enough to cover bump.....hence desperate to be in proper pool this time and why not eh? last baby and all!
honestly I'm sucha wuss, its the conversation where i tell my (very keen) mil she CANNOT come to my birth!!

dramaqueen72 · 04/10/2005 10:13

oops pressed post too early.....I meant its that conversation i'm dreading more than giving birth!!LOL
expat, well done you on keeping colds away there with medicinal chocolate....
my bean was VERY active last night, to the point where i got up at 11pm and waiting til he/she calmed down abit!!

ebbie22 · 04/10/2005 11:04

Hiya,hope you are all ok,tp day today,welcome to the thread newbies{cant remember names..]...Was real sore over weekend but feel a little better today...
Gd luck at mw nemo,hope it goes well,cant wait tilmine nt wed,so many qs to ask her....
Ninah,hope your are getting on ok...
Sorry to hear bout your grief with the tumble dryer bonkers.....
Who said any weight after 2 stone is ours to shift?Guess its rice for me for the net 10 wks then...Brought my arnica yesterday....should i pack hospital bag yet?

ninah · 04/10/2005 12:17

hello everyone, god you can talk
Feeling much better today after a good night's sleep and some civil words with p. We have planned a discussion tonight so please wish me the best.
I really wanted a water birth with ds - until I got down to it, when I found the idea of even a bath repellent for some reason. My Southampton friend had a water birth dq but was in Notts at the time. yes, I will drop in on you both at some point, promise!
I'm gonna send this cos I started typing 2 hours ago! (busy week)

dramaqueen72 · 04/10/2005 12:45

glad youre doing okay ninah. good to hear. wishing you massive amounts of luck for meeting tonight. keep calm, keep breathing sloooooooowly and let him do all the back pedalling. the git.
and yes do come down, I'd love to see you.

you know I cant even swim very well, not a water peson at all really, but the moment i'm pg i'm really drawn to it. weird.

Nemo666 · 04/10/2005 13:23

hello all
everything fine at mws. Baby is head down and free..lol Measuring borderline for 29-30wks which is good as by my dates am 30wks on fri. Also discussed the induction on due date/little before again and the mw doesnt seem to think there will be any reason why the consultant would say no..just need to get letter from psyhcatrist/cpn to back it up. Will also ask the psychologist for one as an extra. So quite excited as looks like baby will be here for xmas and I can also go back on the medication that helps me. Have ha da skim over the goings on but cant remember anything and Adam is in a foul mood...he is tired due to waking for 2 hrs in the night again screaming it hurt..no idea what is wrong with him

Nemo666 · 04/10/2005 13:30

ninah tons of luck for tonight hun will be thinking about you

scully · 04/10/2005 13:58

omg, I have actually read everything from Thursday afternoon to now - any wonder it's taken me this long to post
I had Friday off work and saw my reflexologist (relaxing again ) and my midwife. Have to say I like my midwife appts - she's only be around 10min late for each one, she's down to earth and I feel I can ask her anything. Had the glucose test (that hurt...) and at 29wks my bump was measuring 27.5cm so slightly smaller but nothing to worry about. & the best part was that it was head down, with back curling up on my left side, so in a v good position
After dd being breech, I was v happy to hear this one is at least trying to do the right thing for it mother
But they can move around a lot more until about 34wks so I just have to keep encouraging it to stay where it is
As for the hormones, know all about those - feel they are much worse this pregnancy than last time. But then again we have a lot more on our plate this time around, longer commute, house renovations, 3yr dd, husband currently unemployed.... I stressed out most of the weekend about diy so dh is now buckling down and getting on with it. Spare room is almost finished now and carpet is laid upstairs on Thurs. Once that is done than I can get our cot and moses basket back from friends and start getting a bit more organised with baby clothes etc. But yes, completely understand where you are all coming from with hormones and husbands/partners - they don't go together very well sometimes
Hope things get better for you soon Ninah, sounds like you are handling it better than I would be.......
& a BIG thank you to my ss - present arrived on Saturday - someone has done their research as I must have posted somewhere about what my 2 favourite things to eat from Australia were, as I received both of them (crisps and chocolate variety) plus baby hat, mittens and wrist rattle and some Botanics bathroom goodies.
Thank you, was lovely to come back from dd's swimming lesson to find my parcels waiting for me.

sweetheart · 04/10/2005 14:20

yeah - have just met dh for lunch and said how with 2 months to go we need to get ourselves organised. He said he thought we were and I slipped in that I'd like to get our bedroom decorated before the baby arrives. I couldn't believe it - he sat there and said "yeah ok then, we'll go and pick the wallpaper this weekend" I thought I'd have a fight on my hands there!!!

I was paying at the cafe till and the woman said - oh I've had lots of bumps in here today, when's your due. To which I replied 2 months. Her jaw feel to the floor and she gasped "two months! Blimey you are big aren't you" As soon as she saw my face she appologised for her comment but dh found it very amusing and laughed about it for the rest of lunch GIT!!!

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dramaqueen72 · 04/10/2005 15:51

WHY do people say that? WHY? its so tactless, I dont exactly comment on their weight or how ugly they are but my bump size/ oh go right ahead..... hope you didnt leave a tip s/h!!
scully hey you nice to hear from you. glad youre mw apps are good and baby is heading the right way this time
nemo, glad all was well with yours too. sorry about cranky adam..... he can come watch a movie with Mollie if he likes
georgeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee? are you okay? its not like you to be so quiet, hope youre not too sick/tired, bless. suggest large hot choc after brisk walk round block.
ebbie, it was me who cursed us all with anything over 2st. I'm nto even going to THINK about it til oh, i dont know summer???LOL currently least of my worries. suspect it may move up nearer top of list after baby but!!!!
i NEED a haircut, you know how one day tis 'okay' and the next it NEEDS cutting? well thats yesterday/today. grrrrrrrrrr. have no 'free' cash til next week at earliest, never mind working out when dh can babysit, but this is seriously bugging me. almost got scissors out its that bad. must attempt to make dh think he should pay for it. (sometimes works, sometimes doesnt.)

george32 · 04/10/2005 15:59

Well a quiet day of dozing for me. I'm trying to catch up on my sleep so napping all over the place!
I've been very good and measured for TP Tuesday and still 8 sheets. No change for over 2 months now. I do hope that there is some more give in my skin or I'm going to have terrible stretchmarks.

Ninah, I'm glad last night was OK and I wish you all the luck in the world for tonight. It sounds like it will be a huge step forward to get him talking again. I hope it is productive for all of you.

Sh, when you say 2 months to go I have to remind myself that it is still about 3 for me otherwise I start hyper-ventilating!
You will be well into the throws of poo & feeding whilst I'm still blimping around moaning about not being able to breathe properly!
I'm hoping for lots of new baby tips from you.

george32 · 04/10/2005 16:01

Whoops. Hi DQ, didn't see you there.
I'm trying to stay awake long enough to post a message!

sweetheart · 04/10/2005 16:07

it seems strange that my baby will (hopefully) be here long before some of you. Does that mean I'm the "guinea pig". What if I've got a problem and need some help - oh god, I'm starting to panic now!!!

Still, I bet some of you ladies still beat me to it - I bet we have at least 2 babies here by the 1st December!

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sweetheart · 04/10/2005 16:09

although, having said that I've just looked through the stats and it seems the closest "regular" user to me is Ebbie on the 10th.

There seem to be alot of names on that list that I don't recognise! Do you think they'll come back to the thread once their babies are born?

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george32 · 04/10/2005 16:13

SH, I'm expecting you to be able to tell me everything I need to know about how to survive the first few weeks!!

Was wondering about a few people myself, Minnie should be back from hols soon I think, if not already, Hereshoping, Yellowbear (although there is a sneaky post over on the stats thread!!). I wonder if people are lurking still but just not posting.

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