Jue in June - Part 5

[milliemuffin]

2nd trimesters here we come...

thanks jasmine and bananarama, I'm sure I will be.

DH listens and tries to be re-assuring but it's just nice to be able to vent off.

I am quite an emotional person anyway, but never realised being pg can make you worse, hehe.

Roll on this afternoon, having a family sunday dinner together with all my sisters and mum, mmm mmm mmm.

Morning ladies, things are still a bit 'wet' but it's now clear so just going to wait until thusday. I know it's common and I've not been drinking much the last few days (been to busy!) so hopefully all is ok.

It's DD's 1st birthday tomorrow and DS has a Xmas party at school in the morning then DD's party after lunch then DS has a friends party at 4, not sure who's going to be more knackered, him or me!

We're out for dinner with my parents, my sister and her partner this aft. My sister is going to Thailand for 3weeks tomorrow but DP doesn't want to say anything until we've seen the scan so gonna have to hide my bump! I thought I was doing ok til my not so subtle friend told me the other day that I was quite 'obvious'! My baggy top apparently made it look worse.

Hope you all have a lovely day xx

Hi ladies,

Hope everyone is feeling well this morning. millie glad it's all gone clear. I have had loads of discharge all the way through.

I know this sounds really silly and I'm sure it's just me being an idiot and not you, but I have had several freak outs when I have checked the loo roll and the pink of my fingers underneath the paper has made the tissue look pink ... only to realise that when I take my fingers away it's clear . I also had proper pinkness when I was about 6 weeks but it was just once in the morning and never again since - I'm sure it's fine. Praying we all get great scans on Thursday.

Yes, I watched seX Factor, whoever said that! I was shocked by the raunchiness! I think it's preg hormones and general fatness, as my drunk dancing usually involves attempts at wiggling my arse like that ...

Just dying my hair feeling guilty. I've normally got dyed red hair (brown naturally) but I've not dyed it for nearly 4 months. It was looking hidious - especially when it needed washing! Not going to dye it again for another few months and I'm not leaving the dye on for too long

clarkiee I'm going to get mine done next week - apparently there's no issue with dyes any more anyway, so don't feel guilty! We can't get spotty and put on 2 stone AND leave our roots to grow out! It's just not natural!

Well I read the box ttl and it didn't say anything about it so figured it'd be okay. Its all done and dried not done a very good job but it looks a lot better than before and it'll look fine at next week xmas do. Wanted to go to hairdresser but been so busy with work and christmas that I couldnt get in for the next week- ah well.

nicki- the same thing happened to me a while ago with a stupid idiot male driver and he had the balls to stop and ask me,how i hadnt seen him, i cried for ages afterwards (sum people r complete arseholes)

hope your ok

clarkie- i have died my hair since being pg (dont fee guilty) :)

today i felt LITTLE KICKS for the first time was really nice havnt felt any since tho, altho ive been on my feel in work all day

hope everyones ok, gudluck to those with scans tomoro

nicki I also had the same thing with my car, the rear bumper now has a massive dent in it and the boot only shuts if you slam it really hard. It worked out OK though because the insurance company wrote the car off but let me keep it so I had a nice cheque and now I just put things in the passenger seat instead of the boot to save messing around with trying to slam it hard enough three or four times before it shuts. I was in tears lots while waiting for the insurance co to sort everything out though.

I got called back to the antenatal clinic on Friday to give another urine sample because the one which I gave at my scan 2 weeks ago had some traces of an infection. The MW said that it could just be contamination of the sample (from discharge, which is apparently quite common) but if it isn't then this infection can only be treated with IV antibiotics. I naivly asked how long that would take, maybe a couple of hours, and she said no a couple of days and I would have to stay in hospital for the whole time!! Fingers crossed that the results are OK when I phone up tomorrow, having the blood test was traumatic enough, I really hope that I don't have to sit in a hospital for 2 whole days with a needle in me!

jbells I read in one the pregnancy books that I have been given that moving around and walking soothes the baby to sleep and so you are more likely to feel kicks when you are still, like at night. How exciting to feel something! I can't wait for that!

79 monica- oh no i realy hope that u havnt got an infection and dont have to stay in hosp, hopefully they will let u know quickly

Wow how exciting jbells :) Can't wait to feel movement.

Really hope you've not got an infection Monica, when do you find out? What kind of infection do they mean, a UTI? Would it really require IV antibiotics?

Nicki that sounds like a thoroughly horrible car related day :( Hope it doesn't cost too much to fix the boot. How annoying you didn't swap insurance details.

Really glad there's not been anymore blood Millie, am sure it was nothing, though v worrying. For bump hiding purposes perhaps a smock type thing, or layer a couple of tops and a cardi. Or just hold your handbag in front of your tum the entire night

Good news on the home front! I have found somewhere really nice and am going in to start the application process tomorrow. Yay

Hello all, glad everyone's ok, and also glad I'm no the only one with car hassles - it's pants! Last weekend some numpty drove into the back of my car, which was parked outside my house, having slid on the ice, and drove off. We only found out because a witness came and told us, but he hadn't caught much of the reg no. so it wasn't much help. I went to the police station the next day to report it, not because I had any hopes of them catching the 'twat what done it', but because if the damage turned out to be really costly, the insurance company would need a URN. I didn't have my documents with me at the time, so they gave me the 7 days to produce them. What with work, DD, MS and the rest of life, I ended up leaving it until the 7 days limit. Then DP got badly injured at football, so I had to pick him up and didn't make it to the station.

Anyhoo, took documents along yesterday, and the station was closed. So I picked up the yellow batphone outside, got through to TVP, who said the nearest open station was 15 miles away. By then hormones were kicking in. It probably wasn't the wisest answer when speaking to police, but I just said "Do you know what? I can't be arsed. If you're not going to make it easy for people to show their documents, why should I drive around the bloody county to produce them?" She said because I might be prosecuted. I said "Oh so what, I'm pregnant, I'll cry at the magistrate and tell him what a stupid law that is."

Now I'm feeling like a bit of a pillock, but I'm so cross that, even though I was the victim of a car crime, I'm now having to go out of my way to show these documents. I'm kind of hoping they do prosecute, just so I can stand up in a court and have a real rant about the legal system being unfair on the victim (rant, rant, rant!).

Stoopid cars.

And again - a couple of days off and pages upon pages of posts lol.
Just about to catch up with them all - hope everyone is well

TTL - 2 stone? Try 3.5
Welcome to the thread Nicki
namechanged I was jealous of all the scantily clad dances too - was it just me or does Christina Aguilera's face look really different??

3.5?!!

Oh dear. Another illusion shattered

Morning everyone.....just caught up on all the weekend news. Hope everyone is ok, sorry i cant remember who said what.

I am also so emotional, yesterday DH made me cry. He says im not excited about the pregnancy and im just worrying about everything........he says he is sooo excited but cant show it in front of me and this is spoiling it for him.
It came about because he wanted to go window shopping for prams etc and i am reluctant. It just feels too soon, especially as we wont be buying yet and i dont even look pregnant. Its so hard, we both had a cry and a chat but i feel so guilty that he hasnt been able to be excited in front of me, we want this baby so much that i just want it all to be right. My sister lost a baby at 30 weeks and i was with her throughout the birth, i cant get those images out of my head and i know i will be so anxious until the baby is born.

Sorry for the long post

oh and i forgot........he also pointed out that i wont be able to lie in any more after the baby is born and how will i cope with getting up everyday at 6am.......i just pointed out i was making the most of it while i can and yes i did realise that i was going to be very tired and up early and several times in the night. I just found it very hurtful. Am i being silly.......

No moomin you're not being silly. I'm only a first-timer myself but I can't help thinking there are a lot of bridges I'm going to have to cross when I get to them (like no sleep!) - there's no point planning for it now, and no point waking myself up five times a night just so I can practise! You need your rest, anyhow.

I think it's great you've had a chat though. As long as your DH is as understanding as you are - you've got genuine reasons to be worried and of course he has a right to be excited but hopefully he'll understand where you're coming from now too. But try not to worry - what happened to your sister is so sad, but so rare, and the chances are immeasurably in your favour.

A friend of mine had a miscarriage at 14 weeks and when she got pregnant again she went to counselling all the way through because she couldn't relax and enjoy it and was permamently terrified. When I told her I was pregnant the first thing she said was to please try to relax and enjoy it as much as possible. She's mum to a 4-month-old girl now and very happy. I know it's so hard to do, - but maybe if your DH understands why you're so worried you can let him help you relax into things a little more?

I am the Queen of Pointless Panicking over here though, so god knows why I think I've got the right to say this!

TTL trouble is i didnt think i was outwardly worrying, yes i think about my sister alot but i didnt feel it was stopping me from enjoying.DH has always known how this was going to affect me as i class it as the worse day of my life so far...... I just dont want the pregnancy to take over my whole life and conversations and its nice to be 'normal', its not me to be bouncing and hyperexcited about things. When i need to go pram shopping i will and will love it just cant see the point now.
Im being selfish i know, but i cant help feelling like this

I'm the same moomin. My DP is fed up with my constant negativity but I really can't help it. My step sister lost her baby at 37 weeks a few years ago, one of my close friends lost hers last year at 33 weeks and a few months ago a friend at work terminated at 20 weeks because of major anomalies at her 20 week scan. I know these are rare but I'm still petrified and it one of the reasons i didn't tell anyone until i was 14 weeks. 16+2 for me today and i have my gender scan tomorrow,

At least you and you DP know how each others's feeling now which should help.

Chin up, we'll get there :)

xx

moomin you're not being selfish at all - not one tiny little bit! You can't force yourself to act a certain way to please your DH (I know that's not what he's expecting) - you can only feel/act however you do feel/act. You should take it as it comes - one day at a time, and however you want to be, I think you can expect your DH to at least try to understand. It's happening to your body, so you have the trump card in my view!

Glad you got to chat and hope things start to feel better soon :)

moomin the way you're feeling is completely understandable.

DP knows I'm struggling to get excited just yet too. My mum had a baby girl before me who died at 8 hours old due to kidney problems and a stillbirth after me so I'm finding it hard to comprehend and certainly get excited until this baby's actually physically here and ok.

I think he thought my 12 week scan would calm me down...and it did for about 3 days and now I feel like I'm holding my breath until my 20 week one which won't be til the end of January.

I think people at work and even some of my close friends (who know about my mum) are finding it weird that to them I don't seem excited, haven't thought about finding out the sex and certainly don't have any names yet. I just want to take things one step at time.

It seemed to hit home for DP when we told my parents and my dad didn't seem excited at all and DP picked up on it straight away but realised why without me saying anything and he's been really good since so hopefully now it's a bit more out in the open with your DP he'll be a bit more understanding.

Who was who said pg is exciting?! More like the longest most terrifying 40 weeks of your life I'd say!!

Sorry, me and my rambles again.... Off work with a migraine today that started about 4am :( Think the paracetamol is finally starting to do something on the basis I've made it out of bed and looking at the tv/pc doesn't make me want to be sick!

Hope you feel better soon banana
Thank you for your kind thoughts......i guess we all know people who have been through really tough times and as DH said to me it is very rare and doesnt mean its going to happen to me. Your poor parents banana that must have been so tough.
I guess it is better now that its out in the open and i understand how he feels a bit more. We had a lovely afternoon and put up the xmas decorations and i cooked a nice tea ( a Jamie Oliver Tagine).
My joy of the 12 week scan lasted until our nuchal results......now calmed down and dealt with that and now counting down to 20 week scan and all the fears and joy that will bring. Like you say, the longest 40 weeks ever :)

Just a quick pop in moomin I was the same throughout the whole of my first pregnancy. I wouldn't let anyone buy anything until I was at least 36 weeks. My mum was but just not telling me! It's completely normal to feel more fear then excitement, especially when you've witnessed the devastation that can happen, but as TTL says thankfully very rarely. There are always hurdles to get over until the baby is actually born and once you get over one another one appears. Some people are lucky and don't worry as much so seem to enjoy pregnancy more, I wasn't one of them! You're not being selfish, DH can enjoy it as much as he wants, just not go shopping :) Maybe you can compromise and go window shopping after the 20 week scan and he'll just have to contain himself until then :) DH was excited at first and then I have to say it wore off as the length of pregnancy kicked in. He then went pale the day he set the cot up and the reality of having something in it hit him Finally he just got bored of waiting!