Twins Club

[Amberc]

Here's the new thread!

Hi All - Thought i'd start off by copying over the latest stats list, and adding myself... Long way to go!

Sassy34264 #2&3 EDD 12/09/10, Lancs, Jacob and Isobel born 13/8/10
strawberrylace #2&3 EDD 1/12/10, Suffolk, surprise Zoey and Lucas born 23/10/10 by c section
jjkm #1&2 ADD 29/1/11, outside the UK, Girls born 25/10/10
Lavitabellissima #1&2 EDD 13/12/10, SW London, Identical girls Born 04/11/10
smokeybacon #3&4 EDD 25th Nov, Nottingham, Freddie and Tobias born 06/11/10, natural birth after induction.

Jenzopos #1&2 EDD 23/11/10, non id girls, Manchester
Swazzee #1&2 EDD 02/12/10, South London, Boys
MamaMojito nee JacksMummy73 #2&3 EDD 14/12/10, Bucks, Surprise
Amberc #2&3 EDD 26/1/11, Kent, girls
Tabbycat76 #1+2 Edd 21/02/11, Suffolk, surprise
Holidays2010 #2&3 EDD 18/03/11, SW London, surprise
Magic8ballhastheanswers #3&4 EDD 22/3/11 South London, Surprise
Thingamajig #2&3 EDD 30/3/11, Cornwall, identical girls
Cerubina #1&2, EDD 27/4/11, SW London, non-identical surprises
Hippy3 1&2 edd 29/04/2011 Poole, Dorset. ID twins, surprise.
VictoriaSecrets #1&2, EDD 17/05/11, Basingstoke, too soon to tell, so surprises!
Snowfalls108 #2&3 EDD 04/06/11, SW London, surprise

Hope to see everyone here soon!

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Oh- just realised a post i'd written on the other thread didn't show up - so here goes (sorry, slightly shorter version!)

Congrats to Smokey and Lavita!! :) - Smokey, your story sounds fab, praying that I get a similar experience when my time comes - Lavita, will be great to hear your story when you have had a chance to settle down!

Cerubina - I haven't announced at work yet mostly because i feel a bit superstitious that haven't had the 20 week scan yet... not sure at what point it will feel 'safe' to start telling the world at large. Also a bit worried that they might treat me differently if i'm honest- I work in IT and it's pretty much all men and is quite hard to prove yourself at the best of times! When did everyone else feel safe telling people other than immediate family/friends? Am I being paranoid?!

jjkm - your post about the cervix screening is exactly what I was thinking about- I think I will ask the midwife about it next week as i'll be about 14 weeks then. So glad to hear your babies are doing well- have you had any more news about the pneumonia?

Amber- are you managing to get a better nights rest? Are there any classes that you can join nearby? They might help you get out a bit and not feel lonely/fed up? I've been looking recently and there seem to be quite a few out there.

How are people feeling in general? I'm generally feeling better in terms of sickness, but had some horrible all day headaches, feeling dizzy and heart pounding so it feels like it's about to burst through my chest, temple, neck, stomach etc :) Is this normal?!

Take Care

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Morning, very wet and windy here, yuck!

Victoria your restless leg link didn't work on the old thread, could you re post if poss? Your niggles sound like they could be palpitations which are normal when upduffed as your blood flow increases but I would mention them to your MW just to be sure. As for telling people, I told close family/friends straight away and my work clients after my 12 weeks scan, by which time I was obviously pregnant anyway. I have a complicated history and I wanted people to know plus I wanted to share the excitement. You will know when the time is right to tell them your news and if work start treating you differently there are many a law to protect you. I am very much out of touch with employment law as I am now self employed but I would suggest you keep a diary if things start to become odd, this happened to me and was very useful when I made my claim after I was made redundant just as I went on maternity leave with my dd.

Hope everyone has a good day.

This one should work...

I know what you mean about the work thing- i've told one colleague who is very senior in the company that i've known for years, and he has been brilliant. I am going on hol at the end of the month so will probably start telling people when I get back if it's obvious by then. :)

It's v.windy and rainy here - I quite like it though as i'm working from home today.

I'll definitely speak to the midwife about the symptoms next week just to check all is ok as i've not actually met her yet!

Hope you have a good day today and manage to find something that helps with the restless legs, although it sounds like ultimately you might have the symptoms until you give birth... it says that up to 40% of pregnant women get it so at least you're not on your own :)
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great thanks for that, will have a read. It settled down last night eventually but I know it will be with me until the end.

Sympathies on restless leg syndrome. That;s one thing I don';t have! I was up every hour last night though tossing and turning - it's really shite. What horrid weather today!

I had a scan today at 28+6. The babies are both breach which is why I feel all the action down below. They are huge - 3lb 8 each already! Both of them have tummy measurments over the scale for singletons - no surprise as DS was the same. ALso big femur measurements so they'll be tall too like their brother. People actually stared at me yesterday when I got a coffee - I think I am humungous!

Amberc that is great on their weights :) It sucks when you can't sleep though I feel for you.

Hi Amber- aw, sorry to hear you're not getting much sleep. I'm fed up of getting up to go to the loo, and am sure that this is supposed to be the time that it's at it's best! I've tried not drinkng before bed but then end up with a really bad headache! lol... 'it's a magical time' as my OH keeps saying (barely restrains the slap)

Your babies sound like they are doing really well - you must be relieved as they are already bigger than some babies who are born early :). I can't remember if you said you were planning a CS or VB? I can't wait to be able to feel something - the next scan at the end of December feels like forever away!

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I was planning a CS to be honest as I had an EMCS last time. ALso I need to be able to plan childcare for DS. It is mad how big they are - I am now carrying the same weight as a singleton at term.

It's crap, the peeing situation, although it calms down and then gets worse again later on when the babies put pressure on the bladder.

I have to say, ever since I held in my urge to pee overnight I've not needed to get up in the middle of the night. :)

But I find it's getting a little awkward to sleep on my back now but my legs cant take hours of me sleeping on my sides so I toss and turn all night! :(

I'm going to look into some pillow props to see if they help as I've heard the "dreamgenie" is quite expensive, and as this is going to be my last pregnancy I dont want to spend too much on things I'll only use a few months!

I find not drinking just makes me wake up thirsty...so i have to endure the hourly loo visits at night!
At the moment I'm getting that plus leg cramps, ligament pain and severe itching! Went to get it checked out and they said it was puppps..after 4 hours at hospital....
I also can now only sleep on one side as the twins have both put heads on the same side!

magic the restless legs is nasty, I did suffer from it and found shaking my legs and a leg massage very helpful.

Victoria I can imagine in a male-dominated environment you might feel a bit wary of announcing too soon. I have a female boss and more than half of my team is female, so much less awkward on that front plus they would all have noticed when I suddenly starting growing! So I told everyone once I'd had the 12-week scan. You might well get away with it for longer with male colleagues if they are unobservant and not gossipy - sometimes men are worse than women for gossiping about whether someone's pregnant!

I also get the heart flutters from time to time and I reckon it's very normal. With night-time peeing, I get away with no nocturnal visits a lot of the time but then once in a while I can't wait. I am always fit to burst when I wake up though, whatever happens.

Oh, and headaches too - yep, I get them. One or two have been fairly hardcore but mostly they are just a bit niggly and a hot drink seems to help.

holidays if you are finding sleep uncomfortable already then I would definitely throw the best product at the problem. I know what you mean about only using things for a few months, but as the other ladies' comments suggest it is really miserable if you can't sleep and months of that sound bad! Plus I think they are still useful when breastfeeding are they not? Perhaps you can pick up a second hand dream genii somewhere like ebay - if that's not too yuk an idea.

I've got a really stuffy nose at the moment and that seems pretty textbook for this stage. The cold weather is making the nipple problem even more acute, as the minute I step outdoors the cold makes them stand up and then it's rub rub rub until I can get back in the warm! I can tell my face is screwed up grimacing at it some of the time, it is a struggle to maintain a normal expression!

Quick survey - how many of you are doing pelvic floor exercises and do you agree they're important? I am trying to remember to do them but don't always manage it, and find them a bit toe-curling. But if the alternative is pissing yourself every time you cough, I will man up I suppose.

Another survey - are your other halves as watchful of everything you do as mine is? I love him for being so protective of me, but I am literally unable to change position on the sofa without being asked if I am OK. I don't want to end up snapping at him so I will have to explain gently that I will tell him if I have any pains!

Hope everyone suffering with itchiness, bad sleep, SPD, restless legs, bad backs and any other pains can get some relief.

Glad it's not just me with the hourly loo trips! I've been googling stuff again and looking at some of the other threads on MN and making myself paranoid. OH has been brill and so think we are going to book a private scan for a few weeks time - in between the 12 week scan and the 20 week which isn't until the end of Dec. After that we are booked in each month so shouldn't be as long a wait.

When you go for the midwife visits can they hear the heartbeats without an ultrasound machine? I was just wondering as i'm seeing her next week, but i'll only be 14 weeks...

Amber- I understand what you're saying about the CS - i keep flitting between which i'd prefer... if i'm honest, i'd prefer someone to say that I can have a smooth VB, with no chance of instruments, no chance of EMCS, and no chance of one VB and one CS... oh, and very little damage... but I can't see it happening so might investigate the CS option in more detail, although the recovery sounds a bit scary.

Aw, Jenz - don't envy you the itching etc. - horrible! Hope I can avoid that :)

I feel quite envious that most people on here are so much further down the line, i'd half like to hibernate and wake up with them here :)

Time for some food and gaviscon!

holidays I am a big dreamgenii fan, it has made things much more comfy at night (obviously can't help with the heartburn, peeing and restless legs!). If you are a TAMBA member you will get 20% of at jojomamanbebe which makes it much cheaper and it will double as a feeding pillow

victoria they might be able to hear the heartbeats at 14 weeks although I think they normally wait until 16 weeks, so don't be disheartened if they don't try, but it's worth an ask. They did listen at my 16 week check but the MW said she could not be certain it was the same twin each time!

Cerubina- thanks for your post :) Yes- am hopingthat they won't notice for a while yet, might just wait until they pluck up the courage to ask and just say I had a big lunch to see the look on their faces :)

Pelvic floor- sometimes, but probably only when someone mentions it... so have just completed my quota for the next few weeks...

OH is very watchful, I mentioned before about him asking if I still feel sick/sore boobs/headache/generally pants and when I say yes him saying, 'ooo that's good then'... grr. :) but it must be really hard for them not knowing what's happening inside etc. Plus he's being brilliant with housework etc... so far!

Another survey.... how many people are/have been actively using cocoa butter or similar to prevent stretch marks - when did you start and has it worked?!

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Ah, will ask her then Magic and see what she says. Although it's only a little village GP surgery so not even sure they'll have the equipment!

I think I will buy the dreamgenii afterall. It's probably the only comfort I'll get out of the whole pregnancy and yes it apparently can be used for a breastfeeding after. :)

As for pelvic floor - I try do mine every night before I nod off. I'll be honest - I thought I was safe till I sneezed when out and...well...

As for my OH I think his complete lack of concern toward me (or at least lack of showing any concern) is making me depressed. :(
He's obsessed about what's happening at work at the moment and as I said in a previous post, he already said he's "not like other people"...which means he doesnt ask if I'm ok. He sounds like a real bastard but I do know he loves me, it's just the way he is. Maybe if I burst into a sudden uncontrolled bout of tears and tell him his behaviour is upsetting he'll change? I doubt it...

And I was using Bio Oil every day (twice) but decided I didnt want to waste it all so no I use it every other night, and only on my stomach whereas before I was putting in on my breasts and inner thighs.

Oh and I'm still being left all the housework. Which I dont expect will change anytime soon.

Oh and Victoria - try not worry so much - I know it's hard, I was really anxious to get to my 20 week scan because on my 16 week appt. the midwife didnt even bother checking the heartbeat and with everyone else seeming to be feeling movement from 15 weeks I was feeling concerned something was up. But nothing was.

And stop googling! I dont think it's helping your nerves! :P

Gah - holidays - you've thrown me into pelvic floor and bio oil overdrive! Have to say you are being very good... I keep thinking i'll leave the bio oil until my stomach looks like it's stretching, but it's probably too late by then.

Really sorry to hear about your OH- Is it worth just telling him it's really upsetting you that he won't help out? You don't need the stress and your body is working overtime to try and grow two babies. What happens if you go on strike and don't do anything- would he comment on the mess or just get on and do something about it? Have you thought about getting a cleaner in for a couple of hours a week to help out (not sure how much it would cost and whether you would rush around tidying like I would before they arrived!)- but you could suggest this to the OH to spurn him into action - you could say you can't physically do it on your own and need help from somewhere.. (slight guilt trip but might work). The thing is if he doesn't pick it up now, even a little bit then it will get worse the closer you get and you def won't want to do it all after they are born.

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Holidays - my DP doesn't really seem too bothered about me either, he wasn't with my first pregnancy to tell you the truth. He really isn't like that. He's not good at childcare either - he's just not a natural and I have to accept it. Maybe your OH is the same. I remember lying on the floor in exhaustion when my 1st was a baby and he just stepped over me . Also Even with my head in the sink being sick earlier on in this pregnancy he moved the tap over to fill the kettle and didn;'t say anything!!

I use Bio oil but ony about once a week. I think it's in the genes as to whether you'll get them or not. My mum didn't and I didn;t with PG1. Maybe I will with the axtra weight and size of two babies but I doubt any amount of bio oil would curb them in that case!

I have not done a single pelvic floor excercise! I am a bad person who will be incontintent forever!

Talking of telling people, I told everyone after the 12 week scan. On both pregnancies I was already a whale by then so I couldn't have kept it secret though!

Magic8 funnily enough my midwife was talking to me about resetless legs today. She said tonic water is good for it as the quinine? in it can stop it.?? So maybe try that.

On a different note..I HEARD THEIR HEARTBEATS !!
Met with my midwife who totally reassured me, that id twins can grow at different rates just like any other baby. And when they are born can be slightly different sizes. I just assumed that they would be totally identical, she did say that once they are born the smaller one can catch up. And LOTS of other reassuring things. She said to remember if they were concerned about anything they will keep u in. Or you would see a consultant immedietly so I feel somewhat relieved. !

Anyway..am 15 weeks this week and heard both of them beating strongly The one is slightly faster than the other, have decided that probably one of them is going to be the more stronger twin?

She told me they were both good strong heart beats and were within the range they should be. And they were both lying the same way ! either face to face or back to back with their heads at the same end ! Made me smile....am DELIGHTED !

I am off to deepest darkest wales for a couple of days with my DP. so will not be on here till next week...hope everything is going well for everyone..chat soon. x

No news from me - just bookmarking the new thread.

I must admit I've been very lazy about pelvic floor exercises and starting to worry about it now I'm getting close to a natural birth.

Hi all. Just a quickie before I nod off. Am exhausted. The twins are as good as gold tho. It's all 4 together !! But it's lovely. The twins arrival has actually made me fall in love with ds1 and 2 all over again.

Restless legs. Are you taking iron? Someone told me it was a symptom of lack of iron and I did notice mine went when I started taking iron.

I also could not have done without my dream genii. I even took it into hospital with me. Def worth the money.