Jue in June part 3

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We have now reached 2000 posts so need to start another thread.

Thanks to you all for your lovely messages of support - it really means so much. [hugs]. It is v v v v v hard but the support on MN and at home is wonderful - I feel lucky to have so much of it around.

Now please do look after yourselves and your beans and enjoy your PGs as much as your beans allow!

Hi ladies, really sorry to hear all the bad news, hope you're all ok.

Does anyone know if you can request an early scan? I had a mmc (empty sac) at the start of last year and have since had a healthy baby but I was just wondering if there's any chance I can request to be seen slightly earlier than 12 weeks? I'm only 6 weeks and I hate the idea of having to wait another 6 weeks to find out if I even have a baby or not.

Wonnaywombat and Issystark, so so sorry to hear your news

broughthimround, thinking of you, please try not to worry too much until you know for sure, as others have said, bleeding in pregnancy is not that uncommon and not always a bad sign. Really corssing my fingers for you and hoping everything's ok.

Hope everybody else is alright, I feel as though we really need to stick together on here with all the sad news and worry.

Hi all, hope everyone's Sundays have been lovely.

Millie I don't think you get an early reassurance scan until you've had two or more miscarriages; it's always worth asking though I think, as things may differ depending on where you live. I share your concerns about having to wait for a scan - I'm 7 weeks by OV date, but the doctors think I am 9 weeks (long cycle), so even though I am expecting to get a scan in 3-4 weeks rather than 5-6 it seems so far away.

Supersunnyday my ms came on quite gradually. It started off the week before last with bouts of slight nausea, followed by being starving hungry, and then it would disappear for a couple of days.

Namechange I have no advice to offer you but I sympathise with you regarding your ds and feeding. I had to wean my ds before he was ready (9 months) so I could go back to work and he was having none of it, we both found it heart-wrenching, and I found it very hard work and frustrating too.

Ladies, I am about to have a massive rant now sorry; I am so worried at the moment that I have mc'd or will, it's making me feel terrible. I think this is a symptom though of my current mental state; I have been feeling very up and down the last few days, but today has been down all the way. I have been on the verge of tears all day, shaking, feel like I can't bear everyone around me and very despondent about everything. I haven't even been able to find much joy in my beautiful ds today . I have suffered from depression in the past and this feels scarily similar. I don't remember going through this in my first pg, please someone tell me I'm not losing the plot and this is normal!!!!

PS Thinking of you today broughthimround, hope you were listened to at your midwife booking in appointment and you have got some support and hopefully a scan to allay your fears. Please let us know how it went if you're lurking .

I'm afraid I don't know anything about depression but just wanted to send you a hug. Maybe get an early night and spoil your DS 2mrw :)

8rubberduckies I'm so sorry youre' feeling like this. I don't have any advice as such buit I just wanted to let you know you're not alone. I have experience with depression as well am going to be on the lookout BIG time throughout pg and after as I have stopped ADs since becoming pg.

Have you spoken to anyone? I don't know much about your situation but I'd imagine you're feeling down which feeds into (normal) worrying about mc, which feeds into feeling down etc.

This is my 1st pg so I can't compare it to anything but I frankly feel like crap a lot of the time. I'm tired, feeling sick, feel useless because I have no energy to do anything, haven't been eating properly because of ms and I constantly feel as though I'm about to cry. I am putting this down to it being the first trimester and hoping that things pick up in the next few weeks.

Hopefully you have a supportive DP/mum/friend/doctor/all of the above? The important thing is not to keep this bottled up. You MUST talk about it and try to get some support from somewhere, even if's it's just on here.

Right now I'd agree with millie and say have a hot chocolate and nice early night, lack of sleep makes everything worse, then tomorrow try to have a slow paced day, don't push yourself too much, and talk talk talk!

xxxx

Morning all

How are you feeling this morning rubberduckies? I am sorry to hear that you are feeling down and stressed. I don't know much about depression either but would it be possible for you to talk to your GP? Maybe you could get a referral for some emergency counselling to get you though this difficult period? I see a counsellor regularly and it really helps me to be able to offload.

I am feeling quite upset this morning having convinced myself I have no symptoms and must have had a mmc. I am desperate to get to the scan on Thurs but at the same time I really don't want to know the bad news and have to go through all that again.

We are all in such a difficult situation, desperate for reassurance that cannot be given because it is such an unpredictable time. And so thinking about it, it is no wonder that we are feeling stressed and wobbly.

How is everyone else on this rainy morning?

8rubberduckies, all the hormones surging through you because of your pg can make you tired and tearful, I must admit I've been feeling it myself.
However some woman do suffer from antenatal depression so it is well worth having a chat with your MW about it, she may well refer you to your GP for some pgcy safe ADs.

Millie - you can ask, but it is no guarantee, generally it is if you have had more than 1 mc, and apparently they may not count any before a successful pgcy.

Cep - join the club, have been feeling so tired and unmotivated, house is a tip coz I cannot be bother to do anything but the bare minimum. DH did vacuum and tidy downstairs. And because we are now taking our house off the market, we have been making a list of home improvements to do next year.

Sunnyday - I think mine came on quite suddenly at around 5.5 weeks. But it differs for everyone!

milliemuffin - could you afford a private scan? I agree it is such a long time to wait.

8rubberduckies seems completely normal to have these overwhelming feelings. Make sure you get plenty of rest and sleep.
I was shattered on Friday last week and pissed off with DP as it was my day off and wanted to do nothing and he said the place was a shitpit so I ended up cleaning all day - was even more pissed off and tired then. What with working - the tiredness and having a 1 yr old! I honestly slept so much this weekend I'd forgotton how much it whacks you because you just try to keep going!!

I'm having nausea in waves which is grim - only had it mildly with DS.

Thankyou for your kind words everyone . Sorry some of you are feeling similar, but at the same time it helps me realise I'm not going completely mad IYSWIM.

I'm feeling pretty much the same this morning, I did get an early night but ds was up in the night a few times and ended up sleeping in with us, then I got up to face all the washing up from the whole weekend waiting for me (DP doesn't do his share all the time, just in fits and bursts). I'd cried on his shoulder last night and told him how I felt, and he'd said he wouldn't let me down, so this stung all the more!

I'm off work today, so plan on getting out in the sunshine with ds, hopefully this'll cheer me up. If I still feel like this by the end of the week I'm going to call my midwife, cos although deep down I know it's just hormones I feel truly terrible.

Im so sorry to hear peoples sad news, i hope you ladies are taking time to yourselves and have someone to take care of you through this tough time. Nature can be so cruel.

Im 7+1 today and feeling really yacky. I was getting a little bit worried about lack of symptoms (practically thumping my boobs to make them hurt this weekend) but i gracefully threw my roast dinner up last night and my OH found me in a heap on the bathroom floor crying my eyes out, he was soooo worried bless him! I have no idea why i was so upset.

Ive got my MW appointment on wednesday, i still havent got through to the doc to ask why im being referred to the consultant so i'll have to ask the MW instead. Havent got anyone to ask either as we're determined not to tell enyone until after the first scan.

Why does pg feel like you're waiting for your appointment at the dentist 24/7! Im a nervous wreck all the time.

Hi all, so sorry for those that are having a bad time. This wait is a terrifying experience.

I have my first MW appointment today (just booking) and I'm not sure what to even ask. Is there anything you wished you had asked but forgot or are really glad you asked?

I still have another 2 week wait for my scan but since I was on the pill ( a victim of that wonderful 4% failure rate) i have NO idea when I conceived and I'm afraid my dates might be off... so I'm going to beg for an earlier scan.

... make that 8%!

Hi everyone,

I have been quiet for a while but I have just caught up on all the posts which has taken me ages!

First and most importantly - I'm so sorry to you ladies who have had sad news :( it really doesn't seem fair.

Things are ok with me. Anyone else suffering from indigestion? Seems to early to have that symptom but I have it..

I spend half my day prodding my boobs to see if they still hurt (they don't seem to today) and generally worrying about everything... much like everyone else I guess.

Hello Everyone,

It has taken me a while to catch up with all the posts.

So sorry for all of those who have had bad news, I will be thinking of you all.

I haven't been posting much, but I really appreciate all the mutual support on this thread. I have been feeling really stressed about things, and it's nice to know I'm not alone.

I hope this is going to be a good week for everyone :) Best of luck to everyone who has appointments and scans in the coming days.

I have my scan in 2 weeks time, seems ages away, but on the other hand a real milestone. I'm thinking positive that the morning sickness and tiredness is going to disappear in the second trimester! I am 9 weeks today, so only 3 weeks to go till then, and I can start to relax a bit more.

Moog I have been suffering from indigestion this week too. And I am so bloated too. DH keeps helpfully suggesting I drink probiotic yoghurt, but the idea of it makes me retch.

rubberduckies - I do think your feelings sound quite normal - I am so so down at the moment, and feel so useless and ill and neglectful. I'm sure things will get better in the next trimester

It is FREEZING here at the moment, and I think pregnancy is making me colder. I have the heating and the fire on constantly and I'm wearing jumpers and am still cold.

Brrrrrrr

Hello ladies,

Hope those of you who could had a good weekend. Ours was manic with lots of fireworks!

Rubberduckies - sorry you're feeling so pants. I definitely have some bad days but agree with Kara that it might be worth speaking to the gp/midwife about it if you're worried it's more then 'a bad day'. Hope you start to feel better soon.

Yellowtomato - you're me yesterday! It's so hard not to talk yourself into something being wrong isn't it. Keep yourself amused the next few days and then keep everything crossed for thurs. I was the same when I had my scan, I wanted to know but then I didn't incase it was bad news like last time . . arrggggg! If it's any help I had 2 healthy pregnancies where I had no symptoms at all . . it's not that uncommon but also not that comforting.

Had my booking in today which was a fun form filling in 3/4 of an hour spent! On the plus side she had a student with her who is now going to 'follow' me through the pregnancy until after the birth. Not sure of the benefits but at least I'll have one constant face!

Off to park near school now and sit the car reading as after getting soaked this morning going to school don't fancy it again!

8rd and Yellowtomato so sorry that you've been feeling so rubbish. These hormones really are a killer aren't they? And I totally agree with everyone about speaking to gp re. poss antenatal depression. They WILL take it seriously.

Private scan booked for tomorrow afternoon, should be ~9weeks I think. I'm excited but bricking it too. I told a friend at work today and she decided to casually mention her friend who's just been for her 12 week scan to find no heartbeat. Do people not realise how insensitive they're being? How is that helpful? Honestly the mind boggles...

Haven't posted for ages, but I have been reading. I'm so sorry for everyone who has had bad news, I know how devastating it can be to lose a pregnancy. Take care of yourselves and make sure you take enough time off work to recover emotionally as well as physically - I didn't and I felt worse for it later.

I'm 7+1 today. I have very sore breasts! MoogHasNoBrain and Wolfcub, I too keep poking them to check. I've had queasiness on and off, but it's really mild and not real sickness, so I'm worried that it's not 'enough'. I've calmed down a bit, but am still quite anxious about it all. I've got my private scan on Thursday night, which I am feeling very nervous about. Humania, I hate it that people seem to think that's the kind of story we'll want to hear, wtf are they thinking?!

Has anyone else got lower back pain? It seems bizarre this early, though the midwife mentioned at the briefing thing I went to yesterday that it can be caused by the same thing as the early cramps. I'm finding it quite painful today!

supersunnyday I am trying to be good and stick to low GI foods, but I am absolutely starving!

Hi everyone,

We all seem to be a bit down at the moment :( I suppose it's inevitable with so much bad news and feeling rough - is this normal or are we an unlucky group??

8rubberduckies I also don't know a lot about depression but my mum has a lamp that she uses in the winter to literally bask like a lizard, I wonder if one of those could help you?

good luck to people with scans coming up. I'm still trying to get a booking in appointment - have been trying to ring the midwife for about 2 weeks!! I think she's been on holiday.

Take care of yourselves everyone x

Again, your support has really cheered me today everyone. Went for a kick in the leaves with ds this morning in the park and both got covered in dog pooh . Caught myself thinking that it is just my luck and sums everything up about my life at the moment, then realised I was being a tad self-indulgent and gave myself a virtual slap. After cleaning up at home took ds (and me) for a consoling hot chocolate, and had to carry ds out after he had a tantrum!

I still feel very angry and anxious, but am hoping it will ease a bit now I am acknowledging it IYKWIM. Sasamaxx I am sorry you are feeling the same, be kind to yourself, and thanks for your words of encouragement regarding the smoking supersunnyday, I have been really craving a ciggy today, but managed to abstain.

Good luck to all of you having scans this week