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bubble99 · 22/02/2005 11:58

I am actually Bubble's husband but I'm posting this on her behalf as I know some of you have becomes friends with her during this pregnancy.

She went into hospital last week to have a standard induction. To cut a long and painful story short, some six hours later she was rushed into an emergency caesarian and two boys were delivered. Sadly, the second twin was still-born. We are very hurt and sad at the moment as there was nothing wrong with the health of the child. The, usually fantastic, medical staff made some bad decisions and it has cost our son's life.

The surviving twin has now come out of intensive care and is called Elijah, or Jah-Jah Binks to his brothers (8lb 1oz). The other twin is called Bo (7lb 7oz). The sizes give you some idea of why she went for induction.

She says she'll update you all when she comes out of hospital, hopefully by the end of the week.

One last thing: My views of medics have inevitably been altered by this experience. Alhtough we are blessed with some of the highest trained and conscientious medical staff you could hope to find, I would ask any of you to question them endlessly in the event of a complication during the pregnancy or birth. Find out EXACTLY what the problem is, what the possible courses of action or inaction are and why they have come to the decision they have made. They are the specialists but I feel now more than ever that as an intelligent lay person you should be at least able to know ALL the criteria they are basing their decisions on. We were given no warning, told that everything was just fine even though we now know that our babies should have been removed within the hour, not after six. Had the medical staff been more open about their thinking and decision-making process we could have two babies today instead of one. Put simply, annoy them senseless with questions and make sure their personal feelings are not affecting clinical decisions.

P.S. Thanks for all being such good friends to my wife (It keeps her of my back during the evening )

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Gem13 · 22/02/2005 14:12

Congratulations on the birth of Elijah (lovely name).

So sorry about Bo. I can't imagine what you are going through.

sobernow · 22/02/2005 14:18

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zippy539 · 22/02/2005 14:28

Congratulations to all of you on the births of both Elijah and Bo.

I'm so, so sorry that Bo didn't make it.

zippy539 · 22/02/2005 14:32

Sorry - meant to say in other post - what beautiful names .

Girly · 22/02/2005 14:40

I am so sorry for the loss of your son Bo, may he rest in peace. Please pass on my love to your wife and your other children and welcome to the world Elijah.

I have taken you wise words on board Mr Bubble.

Cadbury · 22/02/2005 14:42

Welcome to Elijah and sleep well little Bo. My thoughts, prayers and tears are with you all.

SoupDragon · 22/02/2005 14:45

Congratulation on the birth of Elijah andI'm so sorry to hear about Bo.

Kayleigh · 22/02/2005 14:50

Congratulations on the birth of your twins. I am so very sorry that Bo didn't make it.
Your post is so eloquent and sad. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Nome · 22/02/2005 14:52

Congratulations on the birth of your twins - I am so sorry to hear about the loss of Bo. A warm welcome to Jah-jah.

serenity · 22/02/2005 14:53

All I can say is a reflection of the posts already written,

Thinking of you at such a confusingly happy/sad time, welcome Elijah and Bo

Stilltrue · 22/02/2005 14:56

So so sorry. Hope you are all able to retrieve some of your joy through and with Elijah.

Leogaela · 22/02/2005 15:00

Thank you Bubble's husband for sharing this with us. I can't imagine the confusion and mix of emotions you must all be dealing with right now.
I think we will all be reflecting on what has happened to your family. I hope you find healing and happines in your little boy Elijah and his brothers.


Blu · 22/02/2005 15:07

Hugs and welcome to little Elijah, To darling Bo,hugs, bye bye, little one.
And congratulations and strength to you both, Bubbles and Bubbles DH.

womba1 · 22/02/2005 15:12

Congratulations to you on the birth of Elijah and sending you my deepest sympathies on the sad loss of baby Bo.
My ds,James, was still born several years ago...please feel free to CAT me at any time should you or Mrs Bubble feel the need to off load.

Hayls · 22/02/2005 15:17

I'm so sorry for your loss. Congratulations and best wishes xx

Pidge · 22/02/2005 15:19

So so sad to hear of the loss of little Bo.

Welcome and congratulations on the arrival of Elijah.

And most of all wishing all the family strength in this sad and happy time.

kando · 22/02/2005 16:11

OMG Congratulations on the birth of your boys. A big welcome to Elijah. Night night Bo, sleep tight little one.

Springchicken · 22/02/2005 16:16

Congratulations on the birth of Elijah - Wonderful news!

So sorry to hear about the sad news that accompanied the good. I bet you just don't know what to do with yourselves
Whatever you do, do not feel guilty about the happiness you feel for Elijah being here safe and sound.
Thinking of you Mr & Mrs Bubble x

prunegirl · 22/02/2005 16:17

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dramaqueen72 · 22/02/2005 16:23

wishing you both find many comforts in Elijah.
I'm so sorry to read of your loss.

3mummy · 22/02/2005 16:29

I feel I have to offer my congratulations and my sympathies to you and your family. May Bo rest in peace and may you enjoy every moment with Elijah.

Love and best wishes to all the family. x

clairabelle · 22/02/2005 16:32

Congratulations on the birth of both of your beautiful boys so very very sorry Bo was taken from you so soon welcome to Jah Jah. Heartfelt wishes to you all at such a sad but also joyful time. Love and prayers.

lilibet · 22/02/2005 16:33

So many fantastic eloquent posts on here. All my love to all of you, hoping that the love you all obvioulsy have for each other helps you through this mixed up time

love lili


bunny2 · 22/02/2005 16:45

Bubbles and family, congratulations on your two beautiful boys.

I am so sad for your dreadful loss and I cant begin to imagine your heartbreak. I hope you will find all the love and support you need.

Love Bunny

MunchedTooManyMarsLady · 22/02/2005 16:52

You have my prayers and heartfelt sympathy. Thank you for taking time to post and tell us your news. Please kiss bubble for me and tell her that I am thinking of her. Congratulations on the birth of Jah Jah. I'm sure that he will fill your lives with such blessing. I'm sorry that you have lost Bo. Words cannot begin to express what I would like to say.

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