Good news and bad

[bubble99]

I am actually Bubble's husband but I'm posting this on her behalf as I know some of you have becomes friends with her during this pregnancy.

She went into hospital last week to have a standard induction. To cut a long and painful story short, some six hours later she was rushed into an emergency caesarian and two boys were delivered. Sadly, the second twin was still-born. We are very hurt and sad at the moment as there was nothing wrong with the health of the child. The, usually fantastic, medical staff made some bad decisions and it has cost our son's life.

The surviving twin has now come out of intensive care and is called Elijah, or Jah-Jah Binks to his brothers (8lb 1oz). The other twin is called Bo (7lb 7oz). The sizes give you some idea of why she went for induction.

She says she'll update you all when she comes out of hospital, hopefully by the end of the week.

One last thing: My views of medics have inevitably been altered by this experience. Alhtough we are blessed with some of the highest trained and conscientious medical staff you could hope to find, I would ask any of you to question them endlessly in the event of a complication during the pregnancy or birth. Find out EXACTLY what the problem is, what the possible courses of action or inaction are and why they have come to the decision they have made. They are the specialists but I feel now more than ever that as an intelligent lay person you should be at least able to know ALL the criteria they are basing their decisions on. We were given no warning, told that everything was just fine even though we now know that our babies should have been removed within the hour, not after six. Had the medical staff been more open about their thinking and decision-making process we could have two babies today instead of one. Put simply, annoy them senseless with questions and make sure their personal feelings are not affecting clinical decisions.

P.S. Thanks for all being such good friends to my wife (It keeps her of my back during the evening )

[handlemecarefully]

Echoing what others have said many congratulations on the birth of Elijah, but so desperately sorry about your other little boy. Words fail me. I hope you find the strength to go on

[SeaShells]

My thoughts are with you and your family, I'm so sorry for your loss.

Also, many congratulations and a warm welcome to little Jah-Jah.

We're all here for Bubbles and yourself.

xxxx

[zubb]

Congratulations on your twin boys. So sorry that Bo did not make it.

[handlemecarefully]

Sorry I didn't mean to refer to your other little boy, I meant of course 'Bo'. I didn't see his name when I first read your post.

[tarantula]

congratulations on the birth of baby Elijah and my deepest sympathy over the loss of little baby Bo. May he rest in peace.

[nutnut]

So sorry to you Mr Bubble for the loss of Bo. Wishing Elijah and Mrs Bubble well.

[collision]

Love to all of you.....I cannot imagine how you must be feeling. xxx

[anchovies]

Gosh words really do fail me. I cannot imagine how mixed your emotions must be at the moment. Congratulations on the birth of Elijah and love to you all at this difficult time xxx

[doggiewalker]

Thinking of you all.

So sad to be giving congratulations and commiserations in the same post.

God Bless.

[Dophus]

My thoughts are with you.

It brings home how special life is and that it is a gift to be enjoyed not a right.

[TinyGang]

Congratulations, but so sad too for you all. You must be feeling terribly mixed up about which way to feel - I can't imagine what it must be like.

Bubble's posts are great - hope she comes back soon for a chat and some support when she's ready xx

[littlemissbossy]

Welcome to Elijah, however so sorry to hear of the loss of Bo. I hope his brother will bring you lots of happiness over the years. Love to you all x

[bozzy]

Congratulations on the birth of baby Elijah and my deepest sympathy over the loss of his little brother Bo. May he rest in peace. I hope you and your family get all the support you need.

[gingerbear]

welcome to Elijah and rest in peace Bo. I am so sorry that this has happened.
Your friends on Mumsnet will be here to support you all.

[leglebegle]

so sorry for your loss, can't imagine what you are all feeling. congratuations on the birth of Elijah, beautiful name.

[sandyballs]

So very very sorry to read this. I have twins and I can't imagine what you are going through. God bless all of you.

[ThomCat]

Thank you for posting and congratulations on the birth of your son Elijah. So terribly sorry that Bo didn't make it. What a difficult time for you both.

[roisin]

Oh how dreadful Mr Bubbles!

Congratulations on the birth of Elijah, and my deepest sympathy on the death of Bo.

I cannot imagine what you are going through, and how it must feel to have their birth date for ever as a time of simultaneous celebration and deep sadness.

[piffle]

Congratulations on the safe arrival of Elijah Binks - and many many sympathies on the loss of Bo. I canot imagine what you and your family are ging through now, such a mixture of emotions.
Wishing you a speedy physical recovery Bubbles and lots of strength.
Piff x x x x

[Frizbe]

So sorry to hear of the loss of little Bo, can't imagine how your all feeling, but Congratulations on the birth of Elijah {{Hugs}}

[snafu]

So sorry to her about the loss of your little boy, Bo. I hope you will all find comfort and happiness in the life of his brother Elijah. Best wishes to all the bubbles.

[coppertop]

So sorry to hear about baby Bo.

Congratulations to you and the Bubbles family on the birth of Elijah.

Best wishes to you all.xxx

[Yorkiegirl]

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[bakedpotato]

Mr and Mrs Bubble, so happy and so sad for you. Wishing you strength. xxxx