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bubble99 · 22/02/2005 11:58

I am actually Bubble's husband but I'm posting this on her behalf as I know some of you have becomes friends with her during this pregnancy.

She went into hospital last week to have a standard induction. To cut a long and painful story short, some six hours later she was rushed into an emergency caesarian and two boys were delivered. Sadly, the second twin was still-born. We are very hurt and sad at the moment as there was nothing wrong with the health of the child. The, usually fantastic, medical staff made some bad decisions and it has cost our son's life.

The surviving twin has now come out of intensive care and is called Elijah, or Jah-Jah Binks to his brothers (8lb 1oz). The other twin is called Bo (7lb 7oz). The sizes give you some idea of why she went for induction.

She says she'll update you all when she comes out of hospital, hopefully by the end of the week.

One last thing: My views of medics have inevitably been altered by this experience. Alhtough we are blessed with some of the highest trained and conscientious medical staff you could hope to find, I would ask any of you to question them endlessly in the event of a complication during the pregnancy or birth. Find out EXACTLY what the problem is, what the possible courses of action or inaction are and why they have come to the decision they have made. They are the specialists but I feel now more than ever that as an intelligent lay person you should be at least able to know ALL the criteria they are basing their decisions on. We were given no warning, told that everything was just fine even though we now know that our babies should have been removed within the hour, not after six. Had the medical staff been more open about their thinking and decision-making process we could have two babies today instead of one. Put simply, annoy them senseless with questions and make sure their personal feelings are not affecting clinical decisions.

P.S. Thanks for all being such good friends to my wife (It keeps her of my back during the evening )

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aloha · 22/02/2005 13:26

Like everyone else I am very shocked and very sad to hear about poor little Bo's death. Congratulations on the birth of Elijah, and very best wishes to your whole family.

fisil · 22/02/2005 13:28

Congratulations on the birth of Elijah. So sorry to hear about Bo. Elijah is so lucky to have such a loving family.

foxinsocks · 22/02/2005 13:30

Congratulations on the birth of Elijah and I'm so sorry things went wrong with Bo.

I've just realised, based on your hospital choice, that you're probably not that far from me so I'll keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. I hope bubble will be out of hospital soon so you can all be together.

almost40 · 22/02/2005 13:35

Speechless. Peace and good night Bo. Welcome Elijah. Thinking of you Mr and Mrs Bubble.

OldieMum · 22/02/2005 13:37

Thinking of you. So sad to hear about this.

Azure · 22/02/2005 13:37

I can't begin to imagine what you must be feeling. So sorry that Elijah and Bo can't stay together.

milge · 22/02/2005 13:40

Many congratulations on the birth of your twins - what amazing weights! Rest in peace Bo. Your family will be in my prayers tonight.

lou33 · 22/02/2005 13:42

congratulations on the arrival of the twins, am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you

Pamina3 · 22/02/2005 13:43

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moondog · 22/02/2005 13:46

I am so sad and so happy for you. I have read what you wrote very carefully. A big hug for bubble. tell her that there are scores of us thinking about you all.

makealist · 22/02/2005 13:48

Thinking of you all.

horseshoe · 22/02/2005 13:49

Thinking of you xxxxxx

HappyMumof2 · 22/02/2005 13:49

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Gumdrop · 22/02/2005 13:50

Congratulations to your whole family on your twins. I am very sorry that Bo won't be coming home with his mum and brother.

Sallie · 22/02/2005 13:52

You are all in our thoughts and we are here for you if you need to chat. Take care of yourselves.

bonym · 22/02/2005 13:54

So sorry to hear the sad news about Bo, however many congratulations on Elijah. ICan only imagine what a terrible strain to be experiencing such mixed emotions. Love and hugs to you, Bubble and your families.

Bagpuss30 · 22/02/2005 13:55

Congratulations to you all on the birth of Elijah and so sorry about the loss of little Bo. Best wishes.

Hulababy · 22/02/2005 13:58

Welcome to Elijah.

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of Elijah's (and your other children's) brother, your much wanted and loved son, Bo. So tragic and heart breaking.

I hope that both of you get the advice and support you need now and in the coming months/years. Take care of yourselves, and please keep using MN to get more support whenever.

kernowcat · 22/02/2005 14:02

to all the Bubble family at this time of very mixed emotions, take strength from the love you share.

marthamoo · 22/02/2005 14:03

I don't really have the words for this. I'm happy you have one beautiful little boy and so sad because you should have two. Welcome to Elijah, and sleep peacefully little Bo.

Eeek · 22/02/2005 14:04

Congratulations on the birth of your boys. I'm so sorry about the death of Bo.

I had one still born twin and one survivor although under completely different circumstances. If it would help you would be very welcome to CAT me or my husband. If you aren't already in contact with the multiple birth foundation here tel:0208 383 3519 please do take a note of their details. They were wonderful for us. They offer a nationwide service although they are based in London

hoxtonchick · 22/02/2005 14:05

so sorry about bo & congratulations on the birth of elijah.

SenoraPostrophe · 22/02/2005 14:05

congratulations, and welcome to Elijah .

I really hope that you can all find the strength to deal with Bo´s death. My heart goes out to you all.

PrettyCandles · 22/02/2005 14:07

Welcome to Elijah and welcome and goodbye to Bo. So sad for you all. I hope JaJaBinks brings you all much much joy. Love and hugs to you.

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