Good news and bad

[bubble99]

I am actually Bubble's husband but I'm posting this on her behalf as I know some of you have becomes friends with her during this pregnancy.

She went into hospital last week to have a standard induction. To cut a long and painful story short, some six hours later she was rushed into an emergency caesarian and two boys were delivered. Sadly, the second twin was still-born. We are very hurt and sad at the moment as there was nothing wrong with the health of the child. The, usually fantastic, medical staff made some bad decisions and it has cost our son's life.

The surviving twin has now come out of intensive care and is called Elijah, or Jah-Jah Binks to his brothers (8lb 1oz). The other twin is called Bo (7lb 7oz). The sizes give you some idea of why she went for induction.

She says she'll update you all when she comes out of hospital, hopefully by the end of the week.

One last thing: My views of medics have inevitably been altered by this experience. Alhtough we are blessed with some of the highest trained and conscientious medical staff you could hope to find, I would ask any of you to question them endlessly in the event of a complication during the pregnancy or birth. Find out EXACTLY what the problem is, what the possible courses of action or inaction are and why they have come to the decision they have made. They are the specialists but I feel now more than ever that as an intelligent lay person you should be at least able to know ALL the criteria they are basing their decisions on. We were given no warning, told that everything was just fine even though we now know that our babies should have been removed within the hour, not after six. Had the medical staff been more open about their thinking and decision-making process we could have two babies today instead of one. Put simply, annoy them senseless with questions and make sure their personal feelings are not affecting clinical decisions.

P.S. Thanks for all being such good friends to my wife (It keeps her of my back during the evening )

[pooka]

Lost for words.
Wonderful names for two wonderful babies. So sorry for your loss, but so happy that you have Elijah.

[whymummy]

so sorry about your loss and welcome to baby Elijah i'm sure Bo will watch over him
wm xx

[Potty1]

Mr Bubbles - congratulations to you both on the birth of the twins. Bubbles did so well, growing them both to such good weights.

I am so sorry that there were problems and that Bo was born asleep. Thinking of you all.

[nightowl]

i dont think ive ever spoken to bubbles but congratulations on the birth of your two beautiful boys, so sorry about bo. sending your whole family all our love and kisses for the babies...ive wanted to post before but just didnt know what to say. i hope that you will find much happiniess in elijah and that time will help to heal your sadness. our very best wishes to all of you xx

[GeorginaA]

Oh Bubbles. My very best of love to you, your husband and your beautiful boys.

[turquoise]

Congratulations on the birth of your boys and my deepest sympathy on the loss of Bo.
My thoughts are with you all at this time of so many emotions.

[jamiesam]

Hallo Mr and Mrs Bubbles. I don't belive I've spoken to you on MN. So sorry to hear your news, I just don't have the words.

Congratulations on arrival of Elijah and all my love and kisses to Bo.

My heart, tears and prayers, are with you.

[tortoiseshell]

I can't imagine how you must be feeling - congratulations on the birth of Elijah, and I am so sorry for the loss of Bo. My thoughts and prayers are with you. xxx

[nikcola]

god bless xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[SleepyJess]

Hugs, love, good wishes and many positive vibes to you all xx

SJ x

[karen01]

I am at a total loss as to what to say,
Congratulations on the birth of Elijah, I am so sorry about Bo.
Our thoughts are with you xxxxx

[Moomin]

well done to you both for producing two such beautiful boys.

so sorry that Bo won't be with you in person though. xx

[motherpeculiar]

just saw this thread

congrats on the birth of the twins, beautiful names for beautiful (I am sure) boys.

So sorry about Bo.

[wilbur]

Thinking of you all. So desparately sorry that you have such sadness to bear when it should be the happiest time.

[crazy]

Congratulations to you both on the birth of your son Elijah. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son Bo. Best wishes to you all x

[Posey]

I really am at a loss of what to say.
Of course very many congratulations and at the same time my heartfelt sympathy. You are most seriously in my thoughts.

[misdee]

i read this last night, and i didnt know what to say then, and i still dont.

you and your family are in my thoughts.

[Toothache]

As most here, I am at a loss as to what to say. Couldn't even bring myself to read this all yesterday.

Deepest sympathy and warmest congratulations to you both.

xx

[MABS]

nothing I can add xxx

[Aero]

Have been thinking of you all all week - just not sure what to post. Congratulations on the arrival of your lovely sons. I'm sure Elijah will bring you great joy. Very sad to hear Bo didn't make it - his memory will remain with you always. love and thoughts xx

[Aero]

Have been thinking of you all all week - just not sure what to post. Congratulations on the arrival of your lovely sons. I'm sure Elijah will bring you great joy. Very sad to hear Bo didn't make it - his memory will remain with you always. love and thoughts xx

[Aero]

Have been thinking of you all all week - just not sure what to post. Congratulations on the arrival of your lovely sons. I'm sure Elijah will bring you great joy. Very sad to hear Bo didn't make it - his memory will remain with you always. love and thoughts xx

[GRMUM]

Congratulations on the birth of your twin boys. I am so sorry that Bo didn't make it.

[Grommit]

Bubble and family - so sorry for the loss of little Bo - you must have very mixed emotions.