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bubble99 · 22/02/2005 11:58

I am actually Bubble's husband but I'm posting this on her behalf as I know some of you have becomes friends with her during this pregnancy.

She went into hospital last week to have a standard induction. To cut a long and painful story short, some six hours later she was rushed into an emergency caesarian and two boys were delivered. Sadly, the second twin was still-born. We are very hurt and sad at the moment as there was nothing wrong with the health of the child. The, usually fantastic, medical staff made some bad decisions and it has cost our son's life.

The surviving twin has now come out of intensive care and is called Elijah, or Jah-Jah Binks to his brothers (8lb 1oz). The other twin is called Bo (7lb 7oz). The sizes give you some idea of why she went for induction.

She says she'll update you all when she comes out of hospital, hopefully by the end of the week.

One last thing: My views of medics have inevitably been altered by this experience. Alhtough we are blessed with some of the highest trained and conscientious medical staff you could hope to find, I would ask any of you to question them endlessly in the event of a complication during the pregnancy or birth. Find out EXACTLY what the problem is, what the possible courses of action or inaction are and why they have come to the decision they have made. They are the specialists but I feel now more than ever that as an intelligent lay person you should be at least able to know ALL the criteria they are basing their decisions on. We were given no warning, told that everything was just fine even though we now know that our babies should have been removed within the hour, not after six. Had the medical staff been more open about their thinking and decision-making process we could have two babies today instead of one. Put simply, annoy them senseless with questions and make sure their personal feelings are not affecting clinical decisions.

P.S. Thanks for all being such good friends to my wife (It keeps her of my back during the evening )

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edam · 25/02/2005 23:02

Welcome Elijah.
Desperately sorry for the loss of Bo.

lilsmum · 25/02/2005 23:12

welcome to Elijah xx

the words wont mean much.....but i am truly sorry about Bo.

i dont think i have ever spoke to you on here but i am thinking of you xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Jimjams · 26/02/2005 14:06

I've only just read this. So sorry to hear about little Bo, but so happy to hear about Elijah. I hope you get all the answers you need.

Riebee · 26/02/2005 16:32

very sorry for your loss. Best wishes for the coming days.
Welcome Elijah..Im sure your brother Bo will always be with you in spirit

sweetkitty · 26/02/2005 17:12

congratulations on the birth of both your lovely twin boys Elijah and Bo

Elijah will always have a very special little angel watching over him

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