Thank you Shabba I do feel a little better today not so raw although I have a slight hangover. DP left me to lay in bed this morning and took care of the DC's he understood how difficult I found yesterday and he knew that I had been crying apparently he could hear me but wanted to give me some space, he seems to know when I need space to grieve and when I need him close and last night I did need space.
I don't expect DP's family to remember Georgie or even think about her after all I didn't know them when she was here,and she didn't know them, but I do expect them to be there for DD3 at least as she is their GD/DN etc. MIL told us that she would be here yesterday no matter what. DP called at around 4pm and asked them what time they were comming as we were waiting on them to do DD3's cake as DD3 was getting ratty and extreamly tired and she wouldn't be awake for much longer, we got told they were not comming as MIL was ill, but DP said she sounded fine when she passed the phone to his dad and she was fine when she ordered us round there on thursday to see what she had brought DD3 for her birthday. We deliberatly left the present there so they had no excuse that they had already given DD3 her present. The last excuse they used was the dogs were ill!! They were not even going to call us to let us know!. DP has said the same thing that they can snub us all they want, but they do not snub DD3 what has she ever done?
All this stems from the fact that DP put me down as his next of Kin when he was in hospital and not his mother, and when DP was being taken to Intensive Care my friend called them to let them know as I was in no fit state to do it, the dr's told me that DP could die (i've already lost one DH my head was all over the place) and he was distressed pulling wires out etc and no one but me could calm him down do the Dr told me to stay with him so my friend who had come to see him and to give me a lift home unaware of what was going on offered to call his parents so i could stay with him. His mother went mental about it.
His dad eventually came to the hospital that night but failed to wait for the dr's as he was hungry! His dad was having a go at me over DP's bed in ICU even the nurse had a go at him for it, apparently I had upset the whole family coz my friend had called and by being DP's NOK even his brother got involved and told the Dr's that HE was DP's NOK!. I really didn't care who was NOK I just wanted DP better!
DP's nan was in the SAME hospital at the same time and his mum spent hours with her but didn't come to see DP!Didn't offer me a lift home even though they would have to go passed our house to get to theirs!. This was during all that snow me and the DC's several times walked over 3 miles to the hospital and back so we could see DP.
DP is so angry today about yesterday - his sister has just texed to say sorry for not comming but she was working which we knew but with his parents it's a compleatly diffrent story, they have always favored SIL over DP she has no DC's we were ORDERED to be at a meal for her boyfriends birthday without the DC's dispite the fact we had no one to babysit wmy 16 year old cousin came and sat witht he kids which i was not 100% happy about and because we had to leave early we got grief about it.
Sorry this got so long DP's family have burnt their bridges with me and it's their loss now, shame as I also have nothing to do with my parents and neither do the DC's for varuius reasons including my dad was drink driving with my Dc's in the car and my mum thought this was ok! dad is an alcholic.