Gareth and Matthews thread for bereaved Mummies - the special thread where the light bulb at the end of the tunnel is always lit xx

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So pleased that we are all here helping each other walk the 'crappy' path xxxx

JANUARY

20th Jan,1992 Billies birthday (Chegirl)

FEBRUARY

28th Feb,2008 Lucies birthday (Crumpette)

APRIL

3rd April,2007 Benjamins remember day (Charleymouse)
12th April,2009 Lucies remember day (Crumpette)
13th April, 2005 Frasers remember day (FMummy)
15th April, 2005 Frasers birthday (FMummy)
27th April, 2006 Billie's remember day (chegirl)

MAY

10th May,1992 Matts remember day (Shabbs)
24th May,1993 Christinas birthday (B.Butterfly)

JUNE

25th June,1993 Christinas remember day (B.Butterly)
30th June, 2009 Niamhs birthday and remember day (Woolly Jo)
30th June, 1984 Matts birthday (Shabbs)

JULY

13th July - Callums remember day (LittleMissPMeno)
21st July, 1982 Gareths remember day (Shabbs)
23rd July,2009 Nimahs funeral (Woolly Jo)
29th July, 2008 Caitlins birthday (Olissa)
30th July. Coles birthday (Liketomoveit)

AUGUST

3rd August, 2008 Caitlins remember day (Olissa)
5th August,2009 Felix's birthday and remember day (Tinkerbelle)
8th August - Callums funeral (LittleMissPMeno)

SEPTEMBER

9th September Ciarans birthday and remember day (Deemented)
18th September,2006 Jaydens birthday (Hazygirl)

OCTOBER

1st October - Ciarans funeral (Deemented)
7th October,2000 Harrys birthday (TWilbury)

NOVEMBER

7th November - Coles remember day (ILiketomoveit)

DECEMBER

1st December,2006 Jaydens remember day (Hazygirl)
2nd December,2001 Harrys remember day (TWilbury)
18th December,2006 Jaydens funeral (Hazygirl)
22nd December,1994 Jacks birthday and remember day (Lottie)
28th December,1981 Gareths (and Dannys) birthday

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Thanks ladies - great work but what heartbreaking reading .

Have withdrawn my earl;ier post. I really did not mean to upset anyone. Am so sorry. x

well done shabs,your brill on getting list donex hope all ok things abit crappy at the moment but hey things can only get better.

hi girls shabs will be on asap,x hope you all okx

I really cant cope with these threads anymore - another one has started now....I feel like sobbing and screaming - and I am neither a sobber or screamer. I wish to God MNHQ would just pull them the minute they start re-hashing the same old shite. My head is throbbing and I am going to loose my temper 'big time' very, very soon. I dont often loose my temper but when I do its a massive melt down type of thing

Oh Shabbs

To be honest, i'm staying away from them now too.

Sending you lots of (((hugs))) babes x

Hi all

I'm rather stunned at recent events. As I've said before, I'm v wary of revealing too much &, as well as the local press fiasco, I was hurt by TCF in the early days after DS3's accident. It was horrid to have to give v personal details after getting help initially & it would be awful if MN too lost its openness, even tho that leaves us open to idiots people who have a strange outlook on life.

I am (almost) used to my life being a kind of mad soap opera & the parallels with you, Shabba, in particular would make me suspicious if I were on the outside. It has given me such (comfort? wrong word, but something like it..) to know that there is someone else out there who understands & I can only hope that one day my sons' story can help someone else.

I hope we can all take this & walk with it like everything else we cope with, without destroying the good. Well done, Shabba & Dee, for trying - you should be proud that, at the very least, someone thought you would hold out a hand to help.

Lots of un-MN love to all who need it tonight.

Shabs and Deem, I have just realised what happened yesterday - I didn't see it all happening, but have read a few things about it tonight.

I just wanted to say that whether it is true or not, you have both shown what brilliant ladies you are in the support you gave. It is never the wrong thing to offer somebody help, and even if it wasn't true the person obviously needs some kind of help to make something like that up. I just hope that all the effort you both put in wasn't wasted.

I do hope you find out one way or the other if if was true or not, because I think you deserve to know the truth. Not sure if MNHQ are allowed to tell you or not.

I hope you are both ok - yesterday must've been very difficult for you both xx

Just bobbing in again to give Shabs and Dee whatever support a huge 'Mehhhhhhh' can convey. Also an imaginary chocolate cake and a wholly fictional bottle of gin

This too shall pass, ok?

I have started reporting any threads I find to MNHQ and have had a very satisfactory email from them tonight. I really have had enough BUT as you say Northern 'this will pass.'

It will pass shabba. I was struggling with it all earlier, as it all brought back some sad feelings for me. But, I still feel sad for the person involved because true or not, they need some kind of help.

Stay strong shabba, i know you must be feeling very confused about it all, but you did your best.

Give me a shout if need anyone to help share the gin and choccie cake

well put triff i couldnt have put better myself, proud of the pair of you,god ive hardly slept ,had a crap weekend,now my knee is playing up,im gonna have to lose some weight.
dd2 is coming back home for a while next week so have got to have clear out again,i must stop hoarding so much crap.

Morning girls - cold, wet, dark and windy here - OMG I detest Winter!

Now i love winter Shabbs, getting the heating on, snuggling up away from the rain ect. Much more a winter gal then a summer one.

Hope you're feeling a bit better today - i was in bed for quater past nine last night and i do feel a bit better for it. Coughing boy is going back to school today - he's more then ready and so am i though he's happily shared all his lurgy with us

As for the other thing... well.. i'm still as confuzzled as ever. Nowt new there then. But it's as you say, either way, the poor girl does need help.

Have a midwife appointment later. Oh joy. Not looking forward to it at all. Can't be doing with being poked and prodded unless it's for a good reason ----

Hope today is good to you folks.

Morning Dee...I had my usual 4 hours kip I'm soooooooooo tired. Cant sleep....wont sleep

Good morning all , bloody wet and cold and dark here too Shabs .

Dee I am glad you have got a better nights kip .

onwards and upwards eh ?

Hey TW - just wanted to say that i know Harry's birthday is coming up tomorrow, and i know how hard the preceeding days are... be gentle with yourself love, and please know we're all here for you, no matter what.

Thanks Dee , I am feeling pretty shitty but no surprise there .

The boys have decided that they want to buy a couple of balloons so they can send them up to heaven for Harry to play with .

A 3 yr old and a 5 yr old shouldn't have to think about these things

No, they shouldn't.... but it's nice that they do. That's what boyo does too - and he gives it a kiss before it goes

They shouldn't have to but how wonderful that they want to. My DS1 used to be like that and, I am chuffed to bits to say, he has become the most amazing man. Compassionate, caring and loving. They will be fine darling - just us adults we have to sort out now

Thanks , I know it is lovely that they want to , it's just you really don't want them to have to even be aware of this shite going on do you ?

This too will pass

A couple of days and I will have some respite before the build up to the ann .

I hate this time of yr .

JANUARY

20th Jan,1992 Billies birthday (Chegirl)

FEBRUARY

28th Feb,2008 Lucies birthday (Crumpette)

APRIL

3rd April,2007 Benjamins remember day (Charleymouse)
12th April,2009 Lucies remember day (Crumpette)
13th April, 2005 Frasers remember day (FMummy)
15th April, 2005 Frasers birthday (FMummy)
27th April, 2006 Billie's remember day (chegirl)

MAY

10th May,1992 Matts remember day (Shabbs)
24th May,1993 Christinas birthday (B.Butterfly)

JUNE

25th June,1993 Christinas remember day (B.Butterly)
30th June, 2009 Niamhs birthday and remember day (Woolly Jo)
30th June, 1984 Matts birthday (Shabbs)

JULY

13th July - Callums remember day (LittleMissPMeno)
21st July, 1982 Gareths remember day (Shabbs)
23rd July,2009 Nimahs funeral (Woolly Jo)
29th July, 2008 Caitlins birthday (Olissa)
30th July. Coles birthday (Liketomoveit)

AUGUST

3rd August, 2008 Caitlins remember day (Olissa)
5th August,2009 Felix's birthday and remember day (Tinkerbelle)
8th August - Callums funeral (LittleMissPMeno)

SEPTEMBER

9th September Ciarans birthday and remember day (Deemented)
18th September,2006 Jaydens birthday (Hazygirl)

OCTOBER

1st October - Ciarans funeral (Deemented)
7th October,2000 Harrys birthday (TWilbury)

NOVEMBER

6th November 2008 - Oliver's Remember Day (Everlong)
7th November - Coles remember day (ILiketomoveit)
20th November 1987 - Oliver's Birthday (Everlong)

DECEMBER

1st December,2006 Jaydens remember day (Hazygirl)
2nd December,2001 Harrys remember day (TWilbury)
18th December,2006 Jaydens funeral (Hazygirl)
22nd December,1994 Jacks birthday and remember day (Lottie)
28th December,1981 Gareths (and Dannys) birthday