My DH has died

[squidgemum]

My beautiful DH died in my arms on Saturday aged 37, after an 18 month battle with cancer. I'm left with a 3 year old and a 1 month old ... and I still can't believe I am writing these words. I know some other MNetters have been through this too as I've been lurking for a while - Martianbishop, retiredgoth, onlyjoking, evenstar ... are you there? I've been reading your posts for months now (ever since he was declared terminal) but never had the courage to post before, but I know that you and others will know what I'm going through - the shock, the fear of the future, and some relief that the cruel disease is no longer a constant shadow in the house .. Tell me - is there any light at the end of the tunnel?

My sympathies squidgemum.
x

I am so very sorry to hear this. You, your DH and your children will be in my thoughts XXXX

Sorry squidgemum you are not accepting CAT, you can alter your settings and I will send you a message or you can contact me.

this is so squidge
hope you find support here.
Some who sadly know much more about how awful this experience is. But all here for you regardless...
take care.

Sorry to hear your news squidge. My heart goes out to you.

Keeping you and your precious children in my prayers tonight.
So sorry for your loss. I know your grief may feel an unbearable weight at times, but please hang in there and relish your beautiful children, the children created with the man you loved.

OJ, that is the most beautiful thing I've read.
Wishing you all the things in it.

Squidge, I'm so sorry. If there's anything I can do? email me at phena100 at aol dot com.

In the mean time prayers for you and your family.

Oj, that was beautifully put. I wish I had those words before, not lost a dh but a dd.

I am sorry for the loss of your precious DH.
Sending you love xxx

so for you squidgemum - love and hugs to you and your lovely DCn. Hold them close - they will remind you to keep going.

Sorry for your loss squidgemum

Also to twink (and family)

sorry for your loss squidgemum you are all in my thoughts

Squidgem so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your children and family.

So sorry for your loss

Squidgemum, so sorry for your loss. Wishing you and your family strength.

squidgemum, and twink
I will be thinking of you and your families

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

squidge, sending you a huge hug, wish I could give you my shoulder to cry on, I hope you have someone in RL that be there for you.

I will say a prayer for you and your DCs tonight. May your lovely husband rest in peace.

Squidge - we haven't 'met' before, but I wanted to add my thoughts and prayers for you too. I am soo sorry to hear about your lovely husband.

I noticed that OJ didn't see your question about how you CAT someone. Just click on the little envelope on the right hand side of the screen, next to her name. You will need a credit/debit card the first time you do it, as there is a small charge to subscribe to the CAT system, but it works well. On the other hand, OJ might see this and CAT you instead!

OJ - what a wonderful letter you have copied here. Everyone should have a copy of that, to help them know what to do.

Dear Squidgemum, Boffinmum put a request on the prayerboard for us to pray into your sad situation, which of course I'll gladly do.
Nobody will be able to explain to you why this happened, but I know that the prayers of many have helped in coping with such a grievous loss.
On a practical note, could you please go to the 'my registration' page and tick that you are willing to receive messages from other mumsnetters. That means people can get in touch with you, although of course it is still up to you whether you want to answer their e.mail
Every blessing

Sorry it was Muchlesstiredmum who put a link on the thread, not Boffinmum

I am so very sorry

So sorry to hear your news squidgemum. What a terrible loss.

I am so sorry

OJ - Your letter brought tears to my eyes. I am so sad for all those who have lost their partner