Highly Emotive subject but I would appreciate the views of others

[Tiamummy]

We are at stalemate on the subject of wakes. So i would appreciate the views of others on this. It's taken all day for me to pluck up the courage to ask

I am here with a hand to hold Tias mummy if you need it

The rainbow sounds beautiful

Sounds to me like Tia is trying to tell you she is looking over you my love.....rainbows, butterflys and sunflowers all remind me of my sons.

I've got a spare hand to hold as well xxx

I can't stop crying

Nothing wrong with tears love. You wouldn't be human if you didnt cry. She is just letting you know that she is around you and looking out for you.

I know and I also know that their is pretty much bugger all I can say to you to fix things but you are doing a great job and your little girl will know . I also think the rainbow is Tia saying Hi (And yes I know it sounds nuts but you will probably have a lot of weird stuff happen that will let you know she is around you )

All i keep thinking is, this time tomorrow she'll be gone

She will never be gone , she will always be with you . I know with every nerve in my being that all our children are somewhere and we WILL see them again one day .

I do know that is not good enough and she should be with you and nowhere could be as good as being with you but I have to hold on to the fact that we will meet again .

The Cord

We are connected, my child and I,
by an invisible cord not seen by the eye.
It's not like the cord that connects us at birth
this cord can't be seen by any on earth.
This cord does it's work right from the start
it binds us together attached to my heart
I know that it's there though no one can see
the invisible cord from my child to me.
The strength of this cord it's hard to describe
it can't be destroyed it can't be denied.
It's stronger than any cord man could create
it withstands the test, can hold any weight
And though you are gone, though you're not here with me
the cord is still there but no one can see
It pulls at my heart, I am bruised...I am sore
but this cord is my lifeline as never before.
I?m thankful that my heart connects us this way
a mother and child, death can't take it away!!

I can't get my mind further than tomorrow but i hope you're right

I know what you mean , its not even a day at a time at the moment . I was lucky to think past the next hour

She will never, ever be gone. She will physically not be here but she will be around you forever. in your heart and mind. That poem said it all. I want to thank you and Tia for giving me the opportunity to think about my sons in a way I havent thought about them for a long time.

My DS4 wants me to tell you that his brothers are always around us in our home and we have had white feathers from nowhere and other signs that makes him know they are forever 'with us.' He wants to say that he is sure that you will get loads of signs that Tia is around you. He is sad for you and hopes you are ok (Tom is 11) xxxxx

Speak later my friends. xxxx

Tiasmummy, my heart is breaking for you, I am so sorry, I will be thinking of you tomorrow, and will light a candle for you little girl, she will be remembered in my house, always. x

I'm so very sorry for your terrible loss Tiasmummy. Will light a candle and say a little prayer for Tia tomorrow (in Bedfordshire).

Tiasmummy I will light a candle for Tia up here in Glasgow tomorrow..

we will have a lovely circle of light for your little girl

jesus bids us shine with a pure clear light

Tiamummy i will light a candle here in Lancashire.
Wishing you the strength to get through tomorrow.

So sorry for your loss. Will light a candle and pray for you all.

My house isnt really fit to light candles in................ will be thinking of you though and will light a "virtual" candle.

Shabster - Your little boy is lovely xx

Tiasmummy - How are doing this evening?

Tiamummy, we will light a candle for Tia tomorrow morning at 11.30 here in Manchester. I have been thinking of you all day x

Rainbows are believed by some to be a gateway to a better place (be it heaven or elsewhere).

Somewhere over the rainbow

I haven't been able to get this song out of my head since this afternoon Tiasmummy. I wanted to play this version by Leona Lewis because one of the mummys on the bereavement thread is related to her and she is singing the song for the mummys darling daughter.

I reckon we will have candles being lit from one end of the country to the other and in Ireland as well. I have a dear friend in Rhodes, Greece who is lighting one for you and in honour of his brother. See what we can achieve when we all stick together

Holding you in my heart xx

Absolutely perfect song x

Tiamummy we are all thinking of you here too, hang on tight to one another. XX

I will be thinking of you and your dh and your little girl tomorrow. I am so sad and so sorry that you have to go through this. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

tiasmum,

i can honestly say that no threads on mn in 8 years have moved me like yours have.

I cannot begin to imagine your pain but you will come through this, and you will never forget your Tia.

You will be on my mind and I send you all love and strength.