For Anyone Needing Support After Losing a Parent. Very Supportive Thread (September 2025)

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A follow on from the nearly full old thread - https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/bereavement/4932881-for-anyone-needing-support-after-losing-a-parent-very-supportive-thread-november-2023?page=40&reply=147297138

I hope this thread continues to be a place of warmth, support and shared wisdom.

I just found this thread. Lost my dad last week. My god I miss him already.

just that.

Sending love @ExpatForLife . Sorry about your dad, losing your mum or dad is a great loss.
It’s such a hard time ♥️ x

@ExpatForLifeI’m so sorry - I also lost my dad last month and I miss him terribly. Sending love - these early weeks are so so hard. Look after yourself

@ExpatForLife I'm sorry xx I'm coming up to 7 weeks without my Mum, its such a strange time, your mind will be all over the place. I miss her every single day and suspect that will continue forever xx

Thank you

Hi, I hope you mind me joining . I lost my dad last Thursday after a short battle with cancer. I was there with him in his last moments which I'm thankful for, but I still feel traumatised by it and way he looked at the end 😔

So sorry @Totallybannanas for the loss of your lovely dad ❤️ and for everything you’re going through, that sounds so tough.
Sending you love, there are lots of lovely people here who will be there to help and support if you need.
xx

@Totallybannanas I’m so sorry. I can relate to what you say about the trauma of it all and the way he looked. You’re still very early in your grief journey so go gently and don’t bottle up your feelings. I’m a year in now and it definitely isn’t as ‘raw’ and I promise the moments of remembering how he looked at the end do lessen. Just keep going and take care of yourself as best you can. Sending lots of love to you & remember your lovely dad would want you to remember him when he was at his best. I think its easy to get stuck reliving the final weeks and months we had with them, but remember all of the happy years that came before that, they’re what’s important 🥰

It's my birthday today, and it's been 9 days since my df passed away. I'm finding it more difficult today because I feel there is pressure on myself to feel happy. The last few days I've managed to numb myself to it and keep busy, but today opening cards and reading messages just makes me feel sad.

@Totallybannanas I'm so sorry for your loss and completely get how you feel, my birthday was a few weeks after I lost my Mum and I just wanted to stay in bed all day. It will never be the same without them on your birthday and so soon after losing him as well, take care of yourself x

@Totallybannanas its so hard on birthdays, my Mum died the day in between my daughter's and my birthdays this year. even in future years I think our birthdays will be tinged with a lot of sadness 😢. my other daughter was 21 today, and we all shed a tear about the first birthday without Nannys name in the card, it sucks honestly, I'm sorry xxx

@Totallybannanas my word we are on a parallel journey. Lost my dad last week 4 days before my birthday.

take care. It’s so hard.

So sorry to read all these - it’s such a hard time losing a parent and then these big occasions just remind us how different life will be forever now. I’m dreading Christmas this year 😞

My lovely dad died one year ago today. He fell on the stairs because he was weak from prostate cancer and went into cardiac arrest. I miss him so much.

Me too … was early Christmas shopping on Saturday and saw so many things my Mum would have loved. You’re not alone.

It's my mum's birthday today. She died six months ago. It feels really weird.
I had a complex relationship with her but I'm feeling lots of mixed feelings today. Really quite emotional.

Can I please join? I'm in quite a niche situation. I just heard my mum died. She's in the US and I'm here. My parents are divorced. Dad is 500 miles north.

No one in my family communicates. I've never even met my mum's DH.

I feel so divorced from it all and so horribly bereft.

When I say heard, by the way, I was informed via WhatsApp. Really...

I'm so sorry for your loss @ExpatForLife sending hugs xx

@Piggywaspushed I'm so sorry about your Mum. Do you have anyone you can talk to? I hope you're not on your own it sounds like a really tough situation and what an awful way to find out you've lost your Mum.

Sending love to everyone who is struggling right now x

I have husband with me. He was not overly fond of her . I've had a weep but now doing that soldiering on thing. DS1 doesn't do hugs. DS2 does but he is inaccessible in Sheffield .

I've not heard from my dad at all.

I knew DM was unwell so went to visit her in NY in August. That was actually the first time Id actually seen her for about 20 years.

All of this weirdness plus physical distance makes it all tougher to process.

Sorry for your losses @ExpatForLife and @Piggywaspushed

Sending love to everyone and everyone, especially those who’ve just lost their loved ones or who have anniversary’s/ birthdays etc. ♥️

Thank you @dmango

Apparently, there are no funeral arrangements for my mother. Is this normal?