How old were you when your Mum died?

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Sorry to be so morbid. I am just interested to know how old people were when their Mum died and how they handled the situation?

It’s a regression, Alzheimers. Mum remembered all sorts of things about her childhood and parents and got great comfort from those memories. It will be ok for your mum too Marylou. Her family will be waiting for her when it’s her time x

My mum died a few weeks ago in awful circumstances. I have drifted through the last few weeks feeling numb and disbelieving. Dad has gone to pieces so it feels like a double loss. I'm 50 but may as well be 15, it has hit me so hard.

I was 20 when my mum died and 22 when my dad died.

Apologies, I probably shouldn't have posted on this thread, so sorry for all of those that lost their Mums far too young

53, mercifully before Covid, so i could say goodbye, she had a stroke, a huge one, we were v close and loved her with all my being, she was my rock and even now, 8 years on, i miss her so much.

I was 18

Yes, considering the thread title you are right. Perhaps you should ask to have your post removed.

I don't think it needs removing, it's not rude or offensive

3, nearly 4. It's something you accept, but never get over.

My mum died in June this year. She was 70, I'm 39. She died of cancer.
It's still so raw. It doesn't feel real

Trying to be strong for my dad but it's hard.
It hurts so much.

24. She was late 50’s. My dad had died a year before. Both short brutal cancers. My mother went from marathon running type fitness to dead in 3 weeks. It was a shock thats stayed with me for decades now. My advice to everyone who’s got dependant children is to prioritise life insurance. You never know what’s round the corner.

I'm 34 and lost my mum this year, she was 66 and we were incredibly close despite living at opposite ends of the country.

It's been hard, very hard, and I've felt a massive lonely hole since she went. Mainly the kids have kept me busy so I've not had too much time to wallow but I have also thrown myself into hobbies which centre around my own quiet and self care.

It's made me change my view on a lot of things too and im now working towards becoming self employed so i can flex better around my family and still earn. Life really is too short to be doing the grind when you're not happy doing it

I was mid forties and my mum was 79. She fell ill around Christmas, found out it was cancer, and died 3 months later. It was around 10 years ago now and I still miss telling her stuff - I'm sad she was taken just a few years too soon, but she would've hated to get frail or witnessed my dad's dementia. She was always so interested in our lives and i hate that she missed so many wonderful milestones in her grandchildren's lives.

It has made me care less about trivial stuff though.

I was 49,she was 91. She was ready to go. My brother died when I was 21 and I found that very hard. The next 10 years were a bit of a blur; I still got on with life but it was a tough time.

Yes, it’s the interest in my family’s life I miss a lot too. We went out today to a NT property she would have been interested in. and I miss ringing her to tell her about it.

I've never seen it expressed like that. How true.

I was 2, she was 24. Never spoken of again and I was mid 20s before finding out cause.

It was especially hard becoming a mum myself when I didn't have her to guide me and share her experience with. I never knew if she breastfed me. If she bonded with me at first sight. If she missed going back to her career etc.

I was 30 and 7 months pregnant and DM was 56 but she had been ill for a long long time so I knew it was coming and had mentally prepared myself - well as much as you can - for when it happened. Looking back now I didn't really properly grieve as I soon had a newborn.

I was 22 and it has has been hard to deal with over the past 20 years especially as I got married and had kids. I didn't have grief counselling until I had my first child so it's never too late to access it. She had cancer and was in her 5Os. It was hard having that grief from a young adult when you are just starting out your own life. I think nearly all my friends still have their parents so I've seen how their parents have become grandparents etc but I still have my dad and he's a lovely grandad so it's not all bad. We also have my husband's mum (his dad died young) so our children at least have 2 grandparents.

I have lost my sister this year too.

Sending lots of compassion to you all and especially to you OP.

My mum died in May, age 77. I'm 52. I feel so sad for those of you who lost your mums so young.

I'm so fortunate to have got to 52 with my mum alive, but I still feel envious of people with mums who live into their 80s and 90s and of my friends who still have their mums in the world.

39 😔

@squishyarms much love from me as I was exactly the same. I had a baby two days after my mother's funeral and people didn't know whether to commiserate or congratulate. There simply wasn't time to grieve as I had a brand new baby and my dad to look after.

16yrs later and I still don't think I've processed it all!

My mum died when I was 28 mil 6 months after. My dad when I was 30 and Fil when I was 31.
I think losing your mum as an adult makes you grow up in many ways you just get on with life but miss them.

I was 39, she was 64, she passed away last October. I miss her terribly. I'm coping fine day to day but I just miss her so much.

So many sad sad stories on this thread.

I lost my mum 4 years ago, I was 27 she was 63. I was 35 weeks pregnant with my first baby.
It has turned my world upside down and affected other relationships since.
I miss her every day , still cry most days sometimes multiple times. She was an absolute powerhouse of a woman and such good company. She was one of those rare humans that lit up those around her.
What id give for 60 seconds with her I hope she knew how much I adored her