How old were you when your Mum died?

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Sorry to be so morbid. I am just interested to know how old people were when their Mum died and how they handled the situation?

I was 33 when my mum died, my DH was 10 when he lost his. What do you mean by how people handled it?

I was 38. Turning 40 without her or my dad was hard. They would both have been 70 this year so another series of events which they missed out on. And my kids weren't even senior school age.

I was the oldest amongst my siblings so had to be the one that got on and did the practical stuff and to be honest am a bit bitter about that. I still miss her everyday.

I was 40 and it was way too young. We’re never old enough to be without our mums. My mum was only 58 and I’m now 8 years older than she was when she died. She was way too young.

I was 22 with a year old daughter. I was glad to have had my daughter so that at least my Mu got to see and hold her.

I was 31, mum was mid 50s. Nearly 20 years, miss her every day.

12 - losing a parent is just something you have to handle. Having young kids now I miss her more than ever - she would have been my number 1 support

I just mean how they coped with loosing their Mum. I'm worried I'm not far away from losing my Mum I'm 31 and I just don't think I will cope without her. I'm terrified of how my life will be without her in it.

I was 45 and my mum was early 80s. I feel she lived a good long life and although I still miss her terribly i don’t feel she was taken too soon.

She died last year at 65, I was 38. I cared for her from when she was diagnosed with cancer till she died three months later and think I'd already dealt with anticipatory grief. I also had some bereavement counselling prior to her dying. I miss her so much, but I've just got on with life the way she would want me too. I'm very independent and honestly been surprised at how well I've coped.

Not me but dh was 25. His mum was 52. It was unexpected. Everyone will manage it differently. Life continues. Since losing her, we've married, had ds, changed jobs, had holidays, dh got his degree. We remember her often, tell ds about her. She lives on through dh and in turn ds.

I was 46 when mum passed away, dad died 5 years earlier, so it has been an emotional few years. It’s had a profound effect on me. I really have stopped giving a shit about people outside of my family and friends. Randoms don’t matter, it’s like my empathy died too.

My mum died last Christmas, 10 days before my 40th birthday. I think I’m coping OK.

I was 23. My father was functionally useless.

The whole experience toughened me up no end: I just had to get on with it. I still miss her sometimes. She was a lovely person and it makes me desperately sad that she and her grandchildren never met each other.

I was mid fifties. Mum was in her nineties with dementia. It was a relief. I sometimes think I miss her, but then she was ill for so long I’d never want her back like that. It was her time.

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I’m late 50s and facing losing my mum soon .I can’t imagine how this is going to feel and how I will cope .

I was 30 and my mum was 56 yo when she passed away. I’ve found it more difficult in the past couple years since I’ve had a child. I love seeing my sons bond with my MIL but it also upsets me that he won’t get that with my mum, who would have been so besotted with him.

I'm sorry to hear about your mum but you will cope without her, you may fall apart for a while, but sooner or later you will learn to live with the loss. You have to, life carries on. It's hard, you'll always miss her, but every day it gets easier.

I had just turned 7. Embrace the love and memories you have built up with each other, especially the little things. No matter what she will always be your mum.

15. But it's awful at any age. 💕💕

I was 48 and my mum was 69. It was a sudden unexpected stroke and sent me into a spiral of grief. Still think about her everyday and wish she was here.

51, we were very close, I miss her terribly. My dad died when I was 24 and I am an only child so we supported each other.

The most important thing is to keep talking about her, keep her presence alive. Say her name out loud.

I was 30 and she was 54. That was 17 years ago. We were very close. DH helped me massively.

To begin with it was unbearable but now it's faded quite a lot. It's like having my mum was something that happened to someone else in a different life.

Which makes me really sad, but at least it hurts less.

I was 53 and my Mum 83. She'd had various health problems for decades but was very active and positive until just a couple of weeks before she died. Although her death was quite sudden, she was very aware of her situation, had a strong faith and was ready to let go, which I found very comforting.

I was 16, she was 38 ❤️ extremely short battle with cancer. 13 years this year ❤️