My partner killed himself today

[ForgedInFire]

We have 3 young children. One is only a baby. My username is after his favourite TV show and he was so excited to watch a new episode just last night. How is this possible. I haven't told my kids yet and I don't know how I am going to

So sorry for your loss

Thank you all. I am going to call Winstons wish tomorrow and will also look at the other resources when I'm not feeling quite so overwhelmed. I really appreciate all of your kind words. I'm dreading waking up tomorrow and continuing on but I have to for the children

I'm so very sorry, OP. Sending you and your children all my love.

I'm so so sorry for your loss

Please never ever blame yourself for not noticing he was in a bad place.

Fortunately my partner was found in time but we never noticed he was so ill.
So pleased you have support

I am so very sorry for your loss

Devastated for you and your darling children. Alongside Winston’s Wish there is also Grief Encounter. Doesn’t help but my heart goes out to you.

Just heartbreaking, I'm so very sorry for your loss OP. Sending you and your children love and strength

I am so sorry for your loss, how utterly heartbreaking. Thinking of you and your children

Just wanted to say how sorry I am. Be kind to yourself as well.

I’m so so sorry ❤️ Please be kind to yourself, allow yourself to be angry, sad and every other emotion that will come. Sending so much love to you and your family ❤️

You’re going to get through this. Its going to be the hardest thing you’ve ever done but you will. Just take it one hour at a time for now, and keep talking here as long as it’s helpful x

@dontblamemee would it be ok if I messaged you for advice?

I lost my partner to a brain tumor. One thing I learnt is that their is no right way or wrong way to grieve. Take things minute by minute, do what you think is right for you and your children.

I joined a charity called WAY (widowed and young). They have a huge Facebook presence, there is always someone online to chat to day or night. They also have local groups who meet up, offer support, advise and even friendship. They have a separate Facebook page for those that lost their partners through suicide.

On a side note there is payment called bereavement support payment. At the moment it is only available to married couples with children and civil partnerships. The law is changing after a Supreme Court case to allow bereaved co-habiting parents to claim. Put a claim in and expect to be rejected you will then be in a position to appeal it in due course.

www.gov.uk/bereavement-support-payment

Big hugs x

I’m so sorry OP, what a terrible shock for you. My mother passed 3 years ago from suicide, the range of emotions is so wide and I remember in the early days feeling so angry and then guilty because I was angry. Be kind to yourself and let yourself grieve however you need to - it’s ok to feel whatever you are feeling, there’s no right or wrong way. Take each day at a time and please don’t blame yourself. Take care OP xx

Lots of love and strength to you OP xxxx

@ForgedInFire of course

I’m so sorry, sending you love

So so sorry for your loss xxx

That's so terrible for you and your family. I'm so sorry.

So sorry for your loss.

Hi, I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️

I was 22 when my dad took his own life and that was 13 years ago, but I can honestly say that day is still as vivid as yesterday. I have no advice on how to tell your children as my daughter was only 7 months old at the time. However for you whatever you do, know that there is absolutely nothing you could have done to change this. I have blamed myself for years and it’s got me nowhere because deep down I know depression is an illness like any other and unfortunately we have seen the very worst of what it can do.

The grieving process to this is horrendous but honestly your children will get you through it because you have to remain strong for them. I wish you all the love in the world ❤️

That's so sad. I'm so sorry

So sorry OP. Sending you love and strength. [Flowers]