Support For Anyone Who Loses A Parent

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Lovemycat1 - exactly the same here.

Helło Love sounds a bit odd but welcome to the thread nobody wants to be on.
It is so soon for you and other stuff to be facing all the Christmas and new year stuff. It is such a difficult time , and it's upsetting anytime during the year, but when everyone around us celebrating it's pretty. Hard to take.
Heron I also felt far worse on NYE than my first Christmas. I'm not entirely sure why that is , but I suppose it's as I said before, going into a new year without my mum and not being able to call. Whereas on Christmas Day I was surrounded by my family which helped.
Anyhow for all of you, you have managed to get through two of the " firsts " . It is sad and terribly upsetting, to have to cope with these two events so soon after your losses, but you did it.
Now try and relax as much as you can and take a bit of time out for yourselves. 🌺🌺🌺

Hello Lovemycat1. So sorry about your mum.

Heron I was with the funeral director last week and actually said 'I'm not sure - I'll have to ask him' when he asked about music for entering/leaving the chapel. I don't think it will really sink in for a while. I still reach for the phone to ring my mum sometimes and she's been gone 13 years :(

I struggled badly last night and have been in a horrible mood all day today. I've taken the tree and decorations down, which is a relief, but we always, always went to see my dad as soon as we were all up on New Year's day and it's been so odd not to. DS wanted to watch 'The Railway Children' because he'd read the book fairly recently and you can imagine how that ended for all of us. We're also struggling with our very old dog who's decided to stop eating. He does this periodically but he looks so weak this time - we're thinking we might have an awful decision to make soon but the thought of losing him as well as my dad is destroying me.

Firstly want to say I am so sorry for all your losses.

My beautiful mum died six days before Xmas. Now I know how heartbroken feels.
I am barely functioning, putting on an act for the children (grown up).

My mum suffered dreadfully for the last week of her life. Despite being in a hospice they could not get her pain free. I did not realise this could happen. Not that I blame anyone but the trauma of staying with her through this whilst she was lucid is breaking me. I don't think I will ever get over it.

Hello Chimp I am so sorry for your loss and yes it's quite shocking that your mum was in pain in her last days. At the moment I would think everything is at the forefront of your mind as it's all so recent.
Like you, my children were adult when I lost my mum, and tried to hide how heartbroken I was. But inside I felt like a child and wanted my mummy.
I actually think I will never get over her unexpected death, but I can cope with it now.
So when you say you are heartbroken, I believe you. In fact when my mum died I had a physical pain in my heart for about week, and strangely my legs didn't seem to work properly for a couple of days either.i think it was shock.
I can only tell you that in time things do get better, but for now. I guess it's like a nightmare that you want to wake up from. Take things one day at a time. It's tough at times, but you will get through it all. 💐

Thank you so much x

Chimpfield, spiderlight, mummylin, everyone, me - hugs

Hello everyone. Chimp I'm sorry you're suffering at the moment. I'm struggling a lot today, Xmas was a blur I had to get through but feeling very empty without mum into a new year. Hugs for us and let's go gently into the new year together.

My mother died on 8th December. Her funeral is tomorrow.
The last few weeks have been a blur. I'm very anxious about tomorrow. Such a long wait to lay her to rest.

Lollicent. I had a slightly longer wait for my ma’s funeral due to Christmas etc. I actually found that because of this I felt some relief about the funeral when it finally happened. It was comforting finally to have given her her send off. hope tomorrow goes as well as it can. Hugs.

Thank you everyone. 💐 and thoughts with you all. My Mum’s funeral is tomorrow. I know what you mean about the wait. Thinking of you today Lollipop. Xx

Lollicent It's so hard, isn't it? I'm a massive ball of anxiety about the funeral as well. My dad's is on Friday (he died on 13th December - they offered us Christmas Eve but we couldn't have faced that and my son would have been devastated). It's been strange having such a long wait but I'm dreading Friday so much. I hope today goes well for you (if that's the right word). Thinking of you.

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