Support For Anyone Who Loses A Parent

[Mummylin]

We offer a shoulder and compassion for those that need it.

Best wishes to you Mummylin

Thankyou mummylin All the very best wishes to you.

Dad, my hero, I miss you like mad. You loved Christmas and it is my pledge to enjoy it in your honour. I know you would hate for us to be sad xxx

I miss you so much Mum. Wherever you are. The sparkle has gone.

Hope everyone gets through Christmas.

Thank you mummylin. I just found this thread after my ma died end of November. I can’t tell you how it has helped to post random new grief posts and get and give support to others. Thank you so much for all of your great advice and compassion. And to everyone - hugs all round. We’ll get through tomorrow. Already had lovely thoughts about my
Mum good memories plus some sobbing. Hugs all.

🥂 To all our absent loved ones. Always in our hearts and never forgotten.

I’m dreading a year that doesn’t have my dad in it. But I’ll take my memories with me. Heartache.

Xmas is always particularly hard. Even though it's been ten years adverts, looking at the tree, cooking... anything sets me off.

My beloved dad passed away yesterday. How will I cope without him?

Oh Bereft. so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mum just over 3 weeks ago and I still feel like my head has been scrambled.

Take care

I am so sorry Bereft I know you have been expecting this for a few days, but I don't think it lessens the shock and terrible loss when it does happen. There are no words that I can say to you to take away the terrible pain you are feeling tonight, but I can say with certainty that we are here for you when you need hands to hold or a listening ear. Once again I am so sorry for your loss.💐

Thanks for your supportive comments all and wishing you as happy a Christmas as possible. I'm trying to sleep but remembering how my mums cancer started progressing this time last year. It's hard remembering good things through all the sickness/hospital visits etc. This past year has been a blur, and now I feel I live in a different country, everything feels so different.

I’ve just found this thread. So sorry to everyone for their losses. @Bereft76 sending you love. It’s such a shock even if it’s expected. My wonderful Mum died unexpectedly 13 weeks ago today. She was 72, (it was 3 days after her Birthday). She was in ill health, but not actually ill. She felt like she was getting a chest infection, Dad took her to the out of hours, who gave her steroids & antibiotics. She got worse in the next 2 hours, was bluelighted to hospital, went into cardiac arrest in the ambulance, was resussed & put on life support until we could all get there to say goodbye.
It’s all so brutal. We spoke every day, she FaceTimed the DC most nights & we visited a couple of times a month (we live 2 1/2 hours away). In the 13 weeks since she died, I’ve turned 40 & had a semi emergency gallbladder removal & am now being hit by Christmas. It’s so hard. I think if it wasn’t for the DC (5&9) & my nephews & nieces (15,12,5&2) I’d spend this Christmas somewhere completely different, because doing it the same as always just seems to highlight her absence.

Thinking of you all . I wish you all peace on this day and hope it's the best it can be.

I miss you Mum 💕

Hope everyone managed to have a day with some smiles and happy memories, despite the grief.
I miss my mam so much today, she really loved Christmas and cooked the nicest dinner ever. It didn't really feel like Christmas for me today, the sparkle is definitely when she's not here. Still, we have survived and it's almost over now.

Missed my manbadlynyesterday but alsi has a really lovely time. Helped me see a bit how I might actually be able to live with the fact she’s really gone. Funeral tomorrow so this is an odd difficult in between day.
Hugs everyone.

Heron I hope everything will go as you want it to tomorrow. Good to see also that you managed to have a reasonable Christmas Day. We are all stronger than we think. 💐

Thanks mummylin. Had the privelige of having a chat with my ma last year about what she wanted to happen. It’s made itnstrightforward and it is a huge comfort that I know she trusted us to do what she wanted. An honour to make sure her wishes are carried out. Hugs all round.

It does help Heron when you know what is required. My mum also left instructions, even down to the hymns and we did exactly what she asked. It lifts a huge amount of stress when you don't have to worry about getting anything wrong, especially if maybe other family don't agree with each other.

Is anyone around for a handhold? I've got to face mums funeral next week and despite my husband being fab I feel so alone without my mum. I am estranged from the rest of my family so feeling very fragile about it all. Christmas doesn't help! I'm very good at counting my blessings but feeling sorry for myself today.

Hi lovelymonkey I’m very sorry that you’ve lost your mum, what a hard time for you. Can you just do simple things one at a time to get you through the funeral. p

Hello Lovely I am not surprised you are upset. Whilst most of the country are celebrating , you are going through one of the worst times in your life.
It does appear for some that the lead up to a funeral can be awful and you are filled with dread, when on the actual day it's amazing how any of us cope much better than we thought we would.
Yes of course it's a very sad day, but being around others can help such a lot on the funeral day. And once it's over , which isn't long, I think it's quite a relief that it's been carried out.
You will maybe find you are stronger than what you think. 💐

Thank you! So much. X

lovely just sending you a hand hold. It crap isnt it - but you will get through it. My mothers funeral is tomorrow ( very nearly today) and I am awake thinking it’s not really believable. Dreading it but I know it’s an important step which will help me understand and move towards accepting it. Really sorry you don’t have good family support but lean on your lovely dh.

Holding your hand, lovelymonkey. I've spent this morning at the funeral director's going through all the arrangements for next week and I'm dreading it - dreading things going wrong or people thinking it's not a good enough send-off (my dad was a very simple-living man and would have hated a big song and dance). It's a horrible limbo period and I'm so sorry that you're going through it as well :(

How was the funeral heron? I was thinking of you. And spider, hope you got everything sorted for your dad. Thanks for the hand holds and offering some back to you. It helps to have some strength from those who understand x