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Support For Anyone Who Loses A Parent

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Mummylin · 01/02/2018 18:29

We offer a shoulder and compassion for those that need it.

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MyGuideJools · 17/12/2018 12:45

Bereft I second telling your dad you love him. I was so glad I was with my dad in his last hours. I was able to tell him I loved him and what an amazing dad he was and that I would look after mum.
It actually felt a privalige to spend his last hours with him, just like he spent the first minutes of my life with me.Flowers My thoughts are with you.

MyGuideJools · 17/12/2018 12:47

charliebong so sorry for your loss, such a hard time. Hugs to you and your daughterFlowers

Chimpfield · 17/12/2018 12:50

Just checking in. Currently sat with my mum, nursing her at home with Support of the local hospice. My heart feels literally broken. It won't be too long now. My thoughts and prayers to all of you in the same position x

HeronLanyon · 17/12/2018 15:53

Chimpfield. Sending you strength and a hug.

spiderlight · 17/12/2018 16:32

Oh Charlie and Bereft - I'm so sorry that you are going through this too. It's just unspeakably hard. I'm feeling very numb today. Have spent the day going round informing banks etc., which has been very very hard, but I only cried on one of them and that was when the bank manager told me she'd lost her dad at Christmas as well. I'm OK until someone's nice to me.

MyGuideJools · 17/12/2018 18:09

chimpfield Love and strength to you Flowers

Kernowgal · 17/12/2018 18:28

Thinking of you, Chimpfield. I was where you were back in May and my heart breaks for you. I hope everything's peaceful for your mum and you.

I'm finding it hard at the moment - having a miserable time at work and normally I'd ring my mum for advice. My dad's been good, but he's not one for long chats and so I'm just feeling a bit alone.

Kernowgal · 17/12/2018 18:28

*where you are

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Mummylin · 17/12/2018 20:23

chimpfield so sorry you are going through this, I hope everything will be peaceful for your dear mum. 💐

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Bereft76 · 17/12/2018 21:15

You guys are so kind. Thank you so much Flowers

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Mummylin · 17/12/2018 21:50

Hope you are bearing up Bereft 💐

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Chimpfield · 17/12/2018 23:17

Thank you for your support, I don't think I've every shed so many tears...... hospice nurse called me back over as she is deteriorating fast, wouldn't wish this on anyone, but I don't feel as alone. Thank you xx

MyGuideJools · 18/12/2018 07:41

We are here chimpfield A lot of us have been through what you are going through now. Talk to your mum, tell her you love her.
It felt so surreal watching my dad pass but I'm glad I was able to be there.
Flowers

minkies11 · 18/12/2018 07:48

My MIL is currently in last stage of life in a hospice in abroad. My DH is over with her and sleeping at the hospice for the last 3 days. Am really worried about him and just want to support him as best I can. Am flying out shortly with his DD and just hope I can be a comfort Sad

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Mummylin · 18/12/2018 09:37

Badvoc how lovely to see you. I can't believe that. Six years have now passed. I remember your very first posts about your dad, then the shocking news about your mum taken ill the same day. If I recall I think you had all gone to a wedding. But Badvoc you did everything you possibly could, so that is to be commended. Sorry to see your mum is so fragile now.
Despite everything, I hope you and your family will have a lovely Christmas 🍷

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Mummylin · 18/12/2018 09:40

so sorry to see the news about your MIL. I'm sure you will be a great comfort to your dh when you arrive to be with him. It is such a sad stressful time and I wish you all well. I hope your MIL will have a peaceful passing.

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Mummylin · 18/12/2018 09:41

Last post was to minkies. I don't know where my words went !

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FlamingGoat · 18/12/2018 10:03

@Chimpfield
Sending you much strength for the road ahead Flowers

FlamingGoat · 18/12/2018 10:04

I just went to ring Mum. FFS When does it ever stop! It's like being punched in the face all over again.

spiderlight · 18/12/2018 10:24

You know what's not fun? The daily 'Sympathy card or Christmas card?' game :( I feel like not opening any of them.

Hugs to everyone else who's in this horrible dark place.

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Mummylin · 18/12/2018 10:29

chimpfield you and your mum are in my thoughts today.

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spiderlight · 18/12/2018 10:32

Thinking of you, Chimpfield

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Mummylin · 18/12/2018 10:32

Spider. I understand exactly what you mean about the cards. Some expressing sympathy and others wishing you joy ! They don't really go together do they. Leave opening them until you feel up to doing it.

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CherryBlossom23 · 18/12/2018 11:32

Flying back for Christmas on Thursday to be near family. Going to be so strange to just see my dad at the airport - mam always came with him to collect me. I wish I could have just one more hug from her. We are going to my uncle's for Christmas (dad's brother). His wife also died suddenly about 6 years ago and his daughter was a similar age to me when she lost her mum so they will be understanding of how we feel on the day. My cousin has two young kids so they will be a good distraction I'm sure Smile