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My DH has died in a car crash today.

437 replies

Iwant2move · 01/12/2017 00:23

Is anyone up?

I can’t sleep.

My husband was killed in a car crash today.

We’d just moved house and he was so happy.

OP posts:
peanut2017 · 01/12/2017 07:01

I'm so so sorry OP. No words can give you comfort at this time. There are no 'should do's'. Just do whatever you need to do to get through the moment Thanks

MrGrumpy01 · 01/12/2017 07:02

So sorry for your loss. Flowers

Natsku · 01/12/2017 07:04

So so sorry for your loss, words can't express.

LoudestRoar · 01/12/2017 07:04

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers It's an awful thing to happen, but seems particularly cruel this time of year. If you'd like, tell us more about him, if you think it may help xx

MidnightAura · 01/12/2017 07:04

I’m so sorry for your loss. Thoughts are with you.

TortiousTortoise · 01/12/2017 07:04

I'm so sorry for you and your children. Sending love.

Devilishpyjamas · 01/12/2017 07:05

I’m sorry OP Flowers

The80sweregreat · 01/12/2017 07:05

That is so shocking and sad. i am so sorry for your loss.
sending a hug and thoughts for you at this difficult time.

londonrach · 01/12/2017 07:06

Sorry op 💐

gingergenius · 01/12/2017 07:07

Sorry for your loss. So tragic. Thanks

3awesomestars · 01/12/2017 07:08

So sorry for your loss 💐

chanie44 · 01/12/2017 07:09

I'm so sorry

venellopevonschweetz · 01/12/2017 07:10

Sending you a great big virtual hug Thanks

LittleCandle · 01/12/2017 07:10

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother in a car crash and it was very hard. Please be kind to yourself. Take each minute at a time - don't try and plan too far ahead. I found routine was comforting, doing things that I had always done. It was hard, though. Flowers

Chardonnaymoi · 01/12/2017 07:10

I’m so sorry. You will get through this but be kind to yourself and accept all the love and support that will be offered to you.....
It’s not fair I know. Sending you hugs xx

purplepandas · 01/12/2017 07:11

Op, I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. You must be utterly shell shocked as others have said. Please do whatever feel a right for you and your DC now and over the coming weeks and months. I live the idea of dressing your husband in his beloved heavy metal t-shirt. Perfectly fitting.

No words but much love. Keeping you all in my thoughts. Flowers

SunshineTheMonkey · 01/12/2017 07:12

I'm so sorry Thanks

PurpleDaisies · 01/12/2017 07:13
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dancinfeet · 01/12/2017 07:13

I am so sorry OP. Thinking of you and your family, and sending love xx

UkuleleRose · 01/12/2017 07:14

My very deepest sympathies on your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

Sludgecolours · 01/12/2017 07:14

I am very sorry for your loss Iwant2move sending strength and prayers x

StrangeLookingParasite · 01/12/2017 07:16

I'm so sorry. I wish there was something more I could do or say.

Rainshowers · 01/12/2017 07:21

I'm so so sorry, thinking of you and your family.

My dad died in similar circumstances two years ago. He didn't make it to hospital either.

None of you will feel like eating but please look after yourself, and do what you need to get through the next few days. For me and my mum it was keeping busy, for my brother it was just getting some space from all the visitors and making up excuses to get out of the house for a bit. If people offer you lifts over the next few days, take them up on it. I found it daunting being back behind the wheel and it took a while before I was ready. Take your friends up on offers of help, but also don't be afraid to shut the door on everyone and have some 'family time'

It probably all seems surreal right now, and will continue to do so. But I promise you can get through this x

TowerRingInferno · 01/12/2017 07:22

So sorry. Flowers

amymel2016 · 01/12/2017 07:22

I'm so sorry OP Flowers

I lost my Dad when I was 16, not to a car crash but it was sudden. I saw my Mum breakdown and cry but it was good for me to see her show her emotion and we helped each other. You're children are stronger than you think and you need to grieve. You sound like a brilliant Mum.