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My DH has died in a car crash today.

437 replies

Iwant2move · 01/12/2017 00:23

Is anyone up?

I can’t sleep.

My husband was killed in a car crash today.

We’d just moved house and he was so happy.

OP posts:
BIWI · 01/12/2017 07:23

I'm so sorry Flowers

The shock, too, must be awful. My thoughts are with you and your children.

Billben · 01/12/2017 07:24

I’m so sorry OP😢 Sending big hugs to you xxx

Theconifers25 · 01/12/2017 07:24

So sorry for your loss.

Tiredemma · 01/12/2017 07:25

So sorry for your loss.

Flowers
spub · 01/12/2017 07:25

Flowersso very sorry for your loss.

YessicaHaircut · 01/12/2017 07:27

I’m so very sorry OP Flowers

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 01/12/2017 07:27

So sorry for your loss Flowers

EEandEmakes3 · 01/12/2017 07:34

I'm so sorry Move, please look after yourself as best you can. My thoughts are with you and your dear children 💐

rainbowruthie · 01/12/2017 07:37

Sending kind thoughts to you and your family Flowers

WellLetsSayHesSquare · 01/12/2017 07:38

Thoughts are with you and your children at this horrible time. Flowers

GColdtimer · 01/12/2017 07:39

I am so sorry. There are no words, it is horrific.

Having been on the other side of the fence, take up any offers of help and support. My best friends DH died 10 years ago and I did drop everything to be with her and would do it again in a heartbeat.

I have reported your thread to get it moved to a place it won't disappear. You will get lots of support here.Thanks

April229 · 01/12/2017 07:44

Oh OP, I’m so sorry you are gonna night through this, I hope in the days that come everyone around you will do everything they can to help 💐💐💐

SupremeCommanderTrinityRhino · 01/12/2017 07:47

Iwanttomove.

I am so so sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for the pain in your heart.

My dh died in a car crash 8 years ago.
My girls were 9, 4 and 2.

Your title brought me to tears. I wish you weren't having to go through this. I'm so sorry.

Please remember to just keep breathing, one breath at a time.

Sending lots of love and hugs.

I'm so sorry.

labazs · 01/12/2017 07:53

sweetheart i am so so sorry i cannot even begin to understand your pain i do comprehend you wish to be strong for your son but you also need to grieve too have you someone to look after your son and is there a close friend or relative that will let you have time to cry shout scream or whatever you need to let our what you have inside you? you must never bottle it up or you will become ill or break down. if you have no one please see your vicar or GP if you are not a church goer vicars can still help as they are trained in this

ssd · 01/12/2017 07:53

I'm so very sorry Thanks

and Thanks for everyone else on this thread who has gone through similar.

AVeryBigHouse · 01/12/2017 07:53

What an awful tragedy, I'm so sorry for your loss.

Much love to you and your family xxx

Esspee · 01/12/2017 07:57

I hope you managed to get some sleep.
I know you will be thinking how do we get through this but you will.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
Flowers

glitterelf · 01/12/2017 07:57

Sorry for your loss Thanks

BringMeTea · 01/12/2017 08:00

So very sorry for you and your family. Flowers

backaftera2yearbreak · 01/12/2017 08:00

A very difficult time for you and your family. I’ve left a link below of some financial help that you may like to consider in the future (I’m aware this is far from your mind just now)

www.gov.uk/bereavement-support-payment

Vinorosso74 · 01/12/2017 08:03

That is awful, I am so sorry Flowers

sausagerollsrock · 01/12/2017 08:03

That's so sad. I'm very sorry for your loss. Flowers

thegreylady · 01/12/2017 08:03

So very sorry for your loss. My dh died 30 years ago aged 45 after a long illness but the call was still a shock. My dc were 12 and 16. For now just take things an hour at a time and give yourself permission to think and grieve and cry. The shock hits hardest later so do,try to have someone there for you. Just sending love Flowers

PerfectlyDone · 01/12/2017 08:04

Oh, iwantt2move, I am so sorry for your sudden loss.
My condolences Thanks

Don't hesitate to lean on your adult children, and allow them to lean on you. You want to help them through this and they will want to help you. Don't all be brave and not let the others see how badly you are hurting.

Aweektilltheseason · 01/12/2017 08:05

Anything goes in these situations, if you want to walk around backwards with a banana on Your head do it, if you want to swear and punch a wall do it., I believe you and funeral is a celebration of the life led, there is long enough to grieve ahead, not disrespectful at all to Bury him in that t shirt.