My DH has died in a car crash today.

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Is anyone up?

I can’t sleep.

My husband was killed in a car crash today.

We’d just moved house and he was so happy.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I agree with the PP of going to the GP not only for medication but also grief counseling for your family. You and your children have experienced a big shock. The grief counseling will help guide you all through the steps.

I am so so sorry for your loss xx

So sorry. I feel like anything I say will sound trite but that's horrible, hope you have good support x

I’m so so so very sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry for your loss. This must be such an incredible shock for you and I’m sorry you’re all in so much pain.

Speaking from my experience, my dad died when I was 16. We had 3,5 weeks to get used to the idea so it was a shock but not the same shock as you. My mother never cried in front of me and never comforted me. Not once. My brother became the “man of the house” at 18. When people visited, it was all about her and looking after her as they assumed she was looking after her children. And she wasn’t. At all. Her behaviour was incredibly difficult to handle. It did not allow me grieve and I wasn’t allowed to show my emotions. I became incredibly stuck and suffered a major depression 5 years later.

Grieving and breaking down is a normal process and it is ok to do it with your children. If you are concerned your son will feel the need to be strong, you can tell him that it’s ok for him to break down too. You can both comfort eachother together. It is lovely that you are thinking of everyone else’s feelings. You also all need to think of your own as well and honour yourselves. You can lead by example so that your kids know no reaction is inappropriate and give them the permission to cry uncontrollably, wail, shout or scream if that’s what needs to come out.

I am so very sorry.

Goodness I’m so sorry to hear your news move - sending love to you and your children 💜

Sorry ....keep busy.....keep talking...keep safe x

So very sorry for your tragic loss

I am so so sorry for your loss OP. I hope your other children will be able to be with you soon.

I’m so, so sorry xx

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Thank you for telling me of your personal experience. I will make sure I am there for my children and encourage them to both grieve and celebrate their dad’s life. I can see them all wanting to be strong for me as are my poor in-laws.
My in-laws wouldn’t spend time with my husband on their own in the hospital. I hope they don’t regret that decision.

I know you will be there for your children. And your in laws. I already got that sense from your concern about your children and in laws. You’re not at all like my mother. Just remember to let them be there for you as well. 😘

Thank you

I am so, so sorry to read about this. Sending lots of love

They could still have that opportunity.. Some people can't manage it. I have found it a comfort to say goodbye.

I feel so sad for you and your children. I have one suggestion...buy a book about bereavement. Someone gave me one when my dad died (57) and it explained the processes like anger that you go through. It might be helpful to your children so they realise it is normal to feel this roller coaster of emotions and there will be times when you laugh as well as cry about him. I wish I could remember the book title as it was so good. I think it might have been a Relate publication.
I think you will probably break down when the others arrive home. What a shock for them at Uni too.
I found cleaning helped at this time. It is something you don't have to concentrate on or you can concentrate on to give your thoughts a break. You can use your anger this way too especially worktops, scrubbing floors etc I think it is the movement of energy, try it if you feel angry as it is better than keeping it in and means you don't shout at anyone.
Just take today an hour at a time.

So very sorry for your loss, what a horrible shock for you. Hand holding from Australia - will be here at all sorts of funny hours if you need to chat. xxx

(((((((Soft Hugs)))))))))) 💐💐💐

I am sorry. I am very far from you but am sending positive thoughts and light from across the sea.

No words, I'm just so sorry for your loss OP

Your late husband sounds as though he was a wonderful husband and father. I know that will make his passing in such an unexpected and traumatic way even more cruel, but I hope - and think - that your enduring love for him will carry you through the dark days to come.

I hope you don’t mind me writing this. If you do, then please accept my apologies. Right now I’m going through hell because the man I thought I would talk like this about one day - as you have done your husband - if something unexpected took him from me - has turned out to be a monster, who doesn’t live us at all. I’m sat up crying very different tears of grief with our third child - a three week old baby - for the life we will never have as a family. The kind of life I think and hope you’ve rightly enjoyed for all these years.

I’m not writing that to hog your post or make you feel sorry for me. I’m writing it to try and comfort you, in that in time, your wonderful memories and everything that made him the husband and father you treasured will help get you through and carry on. He was clearly hugely loved, as undoubtedly you and your children were by him. That’s priceless.

I’m so very sorry for your loss, and send you thoughts of peace and love 💐💐💐

Sending love and thoughts . I feel incredibly sad for you and can’t begin to imagine how you’re feeling. So cruel. Xxxx

I am so, so sorry for your terrible loss xxx

What an horrendous shock. As pp say, he sounds like a wonderful husband and dad. You will get through this.

I'm so sorry op