For Anyone grieving for one of their parents,you will find support here.

[mummylin2495]

hope you all find this ok,the pages were just refusing to load up and messages taking so long.thats why i had a double post on other thread.

Mummylin t875 & maybe thanks for your welcomes and warm words. It is bittersweet but I'm trying to focus on the positives...
Nothing sorry for your loss, be kind to yourself
Waiting so glad to hear you're feeling better, hope you get home soon

waiting, I'm glad the pain in your throat has gone, that must have been awful....now just to sort out the pain in your heart eh . I hope you get a bit of a rest when you get home, plenty of time in bed and ice cream!!

well its the weekend, a time when a lot of us went to visit our mums or dads and what do we do now they're not here? I'm really struggling with that at the moment. We have no extended family here now, all of the grandparents are now dead and we have no one to visit/invite over...and I must admit, dh and I don't have friends that we have over, we have lived round the kids and my mum for so long we've neglected ourselves....I have friends I see by myself, but we don't have lots of people to ask round, TBH the house is really small and its a squash if more people come in!! All I long for is some close family nearby, that we can pop into or they can come here, we've never had that and its something I've always craved, mum used to visit but as she became older it was just me going over to hers all the time, for about 5 years it was like this. I've forgot what I like to do now I have time, I wander about lost or just watch crap on telly....

anyway, enough of me, I hope this weekend is kind to us all and we don't have to face too many Xmas telly adverts where they show the big families tucking onto turkey on Xmas day... even ds says why do the adverts always have fit grandparents in them, we don't have any , he's too young to say that at 11

:( oh how sad from your Ds . Keep your chin up and doing lots of stuff to keep you busy. Im waiting to go home all being well so tired tbh really struggled this week wanted my mum here , came round from anaesthetic screaming for her and a nurse said she would go get her :( my nurse explained and I felt so sorry for this little student that looked like someone had just kicked her puppy.

Morning all

Hope you are still pain free waiting and get to go home today. Did you get any sleep?

mummylin are you in one piece today? Not too bruised I hope??

ssd I think the times when dd says how much she misses her Granny are definitely the hardest. I'm very jealous of others who are off visiting their mums constantly. I'm lucky to still have Dad but he lives 200 miles away so we don't see him often enough. I hope someday he'll move closer to either me or my sister... He had a heart attack last year, so I'm aware he isn't as strong as he pretends to be

I've given up watching ads - too heartbreaking and saccharine sweet!

Am exhausted today, spent yesterday in school making christmas decs and the evening going round dds best friends school fair Today I want a quiet day but guess we'd better at least start the shopping....

Have a good day everyone x

X-posted waiting Oh bless you - wanting our Mums is a common theme around here. Did you get a cuddle from anyone? We're always here...

Didn't really get a cuddle until dp turned up at seven but he waa good

hope you get plenty of TLC today waiting, you deserve it (as do we all!!)

here's to doing some Xmas shopping and having a huge lump in our throats whilst doing it (sorry waiting!!)

and avoiding those bloody adverts

Lol! Even I laughed at that huge bandage been taken on and replaced with slightly smaller ones. I biy upset cause.can't go till 4pm after another drip so won't b home till after tea and step kids will have gone home x

hopefully you'll get a bit of peace then? x

Home bow got back 15 mins before, Ds ishere for a bit then staying at my dads cause once dp goes to work I'm not so steady on my feet to have him myself . Sinking in now, I need her so much x

I know you do, is just so bloody sad she's not here anymore...........I'm sorry

wish you were near me I'd come round and let you have a cry and a cuppa

Ah that'd be nice, have had all my meds and feeling a bit better. How are we all

Hello all...

I lost my Mum on the 21st September this year. We were very close. I have 5 siblings, 3 sisters and 2 brothers, I am the youngest and was the closest to her. I have coped very well, remarkably in fact, but I haven't really felt 'normal' since it happened even though everything is back to normal, and has been for some time.

I don't know what I'm trying to say here, guess I'm trying to make sense of it all and can't...

Hi willi sorry to hear you are in the same position as us it is all very final and I think you do return to normal, go about your day then it hits like a train. Noone really understands that but its totally normal. Be kind to yourself and don't feel guilty for grieving however it suits you best

Hi Everyone. Im not too bad, in and out. Had some bad days last week, the last few days have been better. Very hard with Christmas coming and trying to think of organizing things without her but im trying to get on and do them special things she would like us to do to keep her close and her memory alive.
But its all very hard too.

I have been seeing a Councillor at CRUSE and i have to say it is very good, and very helpful. I thought i was going to be talking over everything but i haven't been, its helping to move on but to take her with me.

If anyone wants me to share what the lady has been saying to me, the practical ideas then let me know, if i can help in a tiny way from saying what she said i gladly will do so as i know and still do the pain this all is, and deep void that we are going through.

Thinking of you all x

hello everyone ,had a good weekend but having a very bad day today.I had to go to see our practice nurse today to have a blood pressure reading done ,i was talking about my mum and i lost the plot .She has made an apt for me to go back at 5.30 tonight to see my doc.I did have high blood pressure reading ,but she thinks i cant carry on as i am at the moment without seeing him.So am back down there in about an hours time.
On a lighter subject i went to see david essex last night. the rock tour and he was fab ,so that cheered me up a bit.Sorry to see we have a newcomer here so hello to WillIEverBeASizeTen not to upset you but i am !!! Sorry you have had to join our support thread but it reallyis helpful to be able to witter away on here ,at least we can put down exactly how we are feeling and everyone else understands it.You sound as though you have coped very well.ssd hope you are ok ,i know you are feeling it all terribly. We will all be ok one day.we just have to cope until we get to " one day "

hi girls, am not too bad today, just trying not to think about things too much as it hurts too much

maybe a good chat to the dr will help mummylin, maybe they will refer you for counselling, I think that would help me too, let us know how you get on tonight x

hope the doctor goes okay mummylin and glad you arent too bad today ssd. Sorry to any newcomers i have missed and welcome, although we wish we werent this has been a safe haven for how we are all feeling.

I am recovering well from surgery,coming from anaesthetic was hell i must of been dreaming and when i woke i was screaming for her, a student stood over me kept saying shh ill go and get her until my nurse informed her that id been her to funeral the day before. the poor student looked like someone had kicked her i felt awful, totally not her fault and i only hope i havent scarred her for life. Still in a lot of pain and on lots of tablets so im not really sure how im feeling now, had a horrible day yesterday where i was just so sad couldnt be botherd with anything but felt awful for ds whos only 5 so we dragged the advent calendards out and watched some christmas stuff. He will be my reason to get through this much as im sure your children will be for you.

I would like a bauble or ornament in memory for my tree does anyone know where i might find one?

Feeling so angry and sad and I just don't see how I will ever feel any better. I went christmas shopping today and just couldn't stay. There were too many happy families and kind grandparents that I jus felt floored over the loss of my parents. Also I dreamt about dad for the first time since mum died. He didn't have dementia in my dream and just gave me a hug and said he was sad too about losing mum (he died first).

I just feel so sad and am being very very moody. My poor dh has a lot to deal with. Also he has to go away with work this week so it's. just going to be me and six month old dd until Friday. Not looking forward to that.

Funeral tomorrow

Am dreading it

on the plus side I bought some red tights for my 'item of bright clothing' I think dad would have liked them!

The funeral directors have been fabulous, without them my dad's last wish would not have been fulfilled and I am eternally grateful to them. Any suggestions as to what I could send them for a thankyou present? I already have a card to send them

this is my Christmas namechange BTW, I am trying to be a bit cheerful. I'm usually YouveCatToBeKittenMe

beach, I'm feeling the same,exactly

if you met me you'd say I'm doing well, but I'm avoiding so many situations I'm feeling like a Jekyll and Hyde character now

glad you are getting help from the funeral directors kitten, I think a card with a hand written message would be enough as a thank you, unless you want to phone them up and speak to them direct

love to us all,was looking at some old photo's of mum and dad tonight, so much history gone, at least they are together again (I hope)

xx

I wish I could have a dream with mum or dad in it, I dont think I'll ever see them in a dream, never have

Ssd that was the first time I've dreamt of my dad in the two years since he died. It's unsettled me all day

but wasnt it nice to see him again? and did you hear his voice again? I'd give anything for a dream like that. My dad died 14 years ago and I've never had a dream where he comes to me in it, dont think I ever will.I'd love it though, have wished for it many times

sorry its unsettled you, I can see how that would happen x