Oh Everlong, I'm so sorry that anyone (one in particular I guess) poster has behaved so shamefully, I don't know what else to say. You're so brave. I remember that thread about smoking in pregnancy, and admired how you had the courage of your convictions.
I can't believe the insensitivity of some people towards bereaved parents - I really, honestly can't.
The one thing I've noticed since I began this damned wretched journey, is how people are 'nice' and 'sorry' for a while (whilst your're in a muddled, confused world that looks the same, but may as well be planet Zog). Then it changes, people carry on - of course they should, but they forget that you're not the same person anymore, and can say things that are damned right bloody inexcusable.
On another parenting site, on Mother's Day, there was a woman commenting on the amount of women complaining their DHs hadn't made them breakfast in bed/bought suitable gifts. This woman pointed out that they at least still had children, whereas some women are not so lucky. She was flamed. It was shocking! Some women actually said why shouldn't they moan just because someone else had lost their children? I couldn't quite believe it. Empathy appeared dead.
I've been flamed on that other site. I told a woman, who hadn't felt her baby move much since the previous night, to go to hospital. A young girl then told me that her midwife had told her that if she'd felt 10 movements in 24 hours it was fine. I said I didn't think it was a good idea to wait, that if the baby's movements were different to usual it was a cause for concern. The young girl then told me "wind your neck in", that her midwife knows more than me etc. I explained I'd lost a child this way, and she then PM'd me telling me she'd had two early miscarriages so knew more than me "you stupid ridiculous woman". I kind of thought what's the point? But I'd rather that than anyone go through what I did.
Everlong you really are fantastic, I hope in time I can become half as eloquent & calm as you