Christmas hope - our safe haven thread for bereaved parents.

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Hope....for the bereaved parent; even at Christmas, one of the most painful times of the year, there is an essence of hope. Hope....it is hope that sustains us through the days of grief and anger and frustration and loneliness.

The hope that someday the pain of the deaths of our children will be eased. The hope that someday our smiles will be real.

So, it is that for each of you I would hope....peace, compassion, love, sympathy, understanding, sharing and listening. In the sharing of our grief with one another, and in the emotional support we give to one another, we receive and understand all of these gifts.

Remembering my precious sons....and all of your precious children at this difficult time of year.

accidentprawn I love that kids come out with the funniest things xx

i agree they do come up with some very strange things...

Hope you have had a lovely day TW xx

hope you had a lovely day TW

Hope you've had a good day tw

Hi tw how was the birthday?

Nice to see you back, karma

Deemented is home!! I FB private messaged her to tell her we were all thinking about her. Bet her own bed will feel wonderful tonight

cheese so sorry that your dh has been unwell again, it must be very worrying. Here's to a calmer one tomorrow, and lots of good blood sugars for you and baby cheese.

karma lovely to see you back again! Sensitivities - yep, had two 'moments' today. I'm at the point of having to deal with those unexpected jolts out of the blue... Spin class at gym had the song which DH would help Mia dance to when she was tiny, so had a little cry in the back of the class... then we received a card from the midwife who helped deliver Mia safely when everything started to go wrong. No idea how she found out, but she was devastated.

Ok, so there are still a few names out there I don't yet understand, if anyone is willing to reveal their sources of inspiration?!

Hello everyone.
Happy birthday TW. I have been on a self imposed ban from FB so I havent written on your wall yet

I am trying to cut down altogether on my internet time. I use the internet to avoid life and I think its time I faced it a bit more.

But I dont want to leave MN and FB!

But I do need to cut down. I have done well today.
But I will keep popping in.

I hope everyone is ok. I am plodding on tbh. Not getting much in the way of joy out of life atm.
I wish the sun would come out.
x

Thinking of you Dee if you're reading this xx

Miasmummy (((hugs))) sounds like a tough day my friend xx

Good to see you Mrs D....I know what you mean about the internet...think I do the same xx

Shabs, I KNOW I do.
I hide behind the screen and pretend I am doing stuff.
But I am not really am I?

It has its place though. I wouldnt have met you now would I without it?

Very true I pretend I am 'doing stuff' as well Im not really!!!

Hi folks,

Thanks for thinking of me - much appreciated. Blob is still in situ - and breech as ever. She apparently has her arse well and truly wedged into my pelvis, and is not for turning - though that didn't stop them from trying. And now i'm bruised and battered and sore. Have to go back tomorrow for a scan and to see consultant, who will, fingers crossed, give me a date for a c-sec.

Thinking of you all - much love to everyone x

Hi Dee! You have my sympathies, they tried to turn ds1 before he was born. It is Not Pleasant.

Morning girls xx

morning shabba! x

Morning all x

Hi Dee x

Morning all x Had a lovely day yesterday thank you for all the birthday messages .

Dee good luck for today , fingers crossed you at least get a date today x

I know what you and MrsDV are saying Shabs , I spend far too much time faffing about on the internet , when my old one used to break down every now and again my house suddenly appeared clean and all those pointless jobs that I put off constantly get done as well . I need to give myself a time limit .

Sat here watching Jezzer with snotty tears falling down my face. The family of a young girl in her 20's who was murdered. She was murdered about 17 years ago and her much younger sibling cant cope with it any more.....my heart goes out to her and her family. xx

Morning all.

Dee sorry you're all bruised :( it's not nice when they try to turn the baby is it, they tried with me last time before I was induced with Scarlett and it was painful and didn't work either. Fingers crossed you get a c-section date today.

tw glad you had a good birthday x

I'm also on the internet a fair amount, more so on my phone lately though, obsessively googling everything that could possibly go wrong...I drive myself mad I swear. A few times now I've had to stop myself calling this baby Scarlett, it's really odd as I know it's a different baby but my head is thinking it's the same. I get a horrible feeling that things will end up the same too, I cannot imagine this going well or bringing a baby home. It terrifies me.

morning girls,xx

Hiya Hazy my lovely friend...I keep missing you on here Hope you are OK xxx