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Our Children budded on earth to bloom in heaven

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frasersmummy · 15/04/2011 08:12

I think we have had this title before but it seems appropriate for spring

I have started this thread in honour of all our children but particularly Fraser who would have been 7 today. Happy birthday son we still miss you dearly. You will always be our firstborn and we always remember you in our hearts

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spilttheteaagain · 28/04/2011 16:57

I keep re reading that poem lavandes, just beautiful. Thinking of you and Richard today x

Thank you fm, weird how virtual handholding with strangers helps, but it really does. Really sorry to hear about Gerry.

Love to MrsDV for yesterday too, I hope some of your family let you know they'd remembered.

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 28/04/2011 18:14

Hi all, just a quickie.

Baby Ike was born in water at home at 15:34 yesterday, weighing in at 11lb 2oz - I didn't want TW to feel superior about producing big babies Wink

All well Smile

Minione · 28/04/2011 18:17

Oh, Ilike that's brilliant news! What a whoppa! Sending you all lots of love xxx

shabbapinkfrog · 28/04/2011 18:46

Welcome to the world little man Grin

OMG Im suprised you are not still screaming LOL....that weight is more than the combined weight of my twins.

Awwww born at home.

Hope you are feeling OK - well done you!!!

lavandes · 28/04/2011 19:06

Congratulations ilike wonderful news. xx

spilttheteaagain · 28/04/2011 19:10

Congratulations!! Grin

travellingwilbury · 28/04/2011 20:12

Wow and double wow ! Ilike I am seriously impresses Grin

Well done you , a water birth at home , you are truly fab Grin

Welcome to the wrold baby Ike , you are a very lucky wee boy to have such a lovely mummy .

I am so pleased for you Ilike

CazandBelle · 28/04/2011 23:06

Big congratulations Ilike :) really happy for you!

Wow at weight! I'm amazed and seriously impressed you managed it! Sounds a wonderful birth.

CazandBelle · 28/04/2011 23:09

oh and just because I just notice the royal smileys [csmile]

Love it!

peterpansmum · 28/04/2011 23:11

blimey and congratulations ilike .... That has brought tears to my eyes for a couple of reasons Grin loadsa love n baby huggles to u n yours xxxx

shabbapinkfrog · 29/04/2011 07:30

Morning girls xx

janedoe25 · 29/04/2011 07:41

Congratulations, what a whopper he is! Hope you are both well! Grin

lavandes · 29/04/2011 08:01

morning ladies [csmile] xx

shabbapinkfrog · 29/04/2011 10:24

Im not a royalist at all,but just watching William and Harry come into church Sad they are both almost exactly as old as my Danny and Matty. It has made me dread the day our Danny finally gets married.....no Gareth or Matt to be his best man. Oh shite.....wish my brain would stop working overtime!

EggyAllenPoe · 29/04/2011 12:44

just a quick one: people have asked me what i wanted t do today.

i wanted to dress up DS and DD1 and get them 'married' whilst prancing about in my own wedding dress. I know Leo would have said how pretty i look. (whether is true or not).

that is not happening.

instead we are having lunch on the green. i used to like stuff like that.

travellingwilbury · 29/04/2011 14:07

Hi Eggy , the new normal takes a bit of getting used to doesn't it ?
You will have happy and daft days again , hopefully in the not too distant future .

We are always here if you need an ear or a shoulder . I hope you are being treated kindly out there in the big old wide world .

kazmus · 29/04/2011 16:09

aww, she looked sooo beautiful. Cried buckets when she first appeared for all the if onlys and lost futures but then enjoyed the spectacle. Hope you all had a good day. x

lavandes · 29/04/2011 22:53

I'm almost scared to post this in case something goes wrong but here goes, our eldest son's baby expected in September is a boy (the 15th boy to be born in my family - no girls) and his middle name is going to be Richard. This is so special and I pray all is well. I am so proud of both my boys. xxx

CheeseandGherkins · 30/04/2011 02:38

Sorry just catching up now.

spilt glad you think it helps :) Wrt PAOS, definitely agree, makes no sense, I even tested at 28 days!! Why?! Now I came on tonight, 31 day cycle that makes after 37 last time. I wish there was some pattern :( I was a little relieved this time actually, if I were pregnant it would have been almost the same time as I was with Scarlett and I'm not sure I'd have handled that. The dates worked out for that time (if I worked them right) for when I'd be 37 weeks as they said they'd induce around then. Hugs to you, the ups and downs are hard to deal with, the no knowing,

ppm sorry you've been so up and down, it's hard to deal with and I hope you manage to find more peaceful days.

fm such an awful thing to happen, huge hugs xx Can I add mine to that list? I'm not sure which dates though as I have a few :(

Decemeber used to be a lovely, happy month for me as I adore Christmas and was overjoyed with having my daughter due on Dec 23rd but we found out on Dec 2nd that she had died. I was induced the day before she was born, her birthday is 6th Dec. I last felt her move the night before we found out but I'm not sure if she'd moved in the night or not.

I still feel like it was my fault, I should have done something, I should have known. I feel so guilty.

Her funeral was Dec 29th too, awful month now :(

Caz It must be hard for you with Bow, that's a worry of mine, that I won't be the same again if I get pregnant. I worry about bonding, I worry about everything and it's not even happened yet. That would be really upsetting to me too with dh's mother. Belle is just as important as any other child xxx

jane I found the cons appt for the PM results extremely difficult, I felt anxious and nervous and I was shaking throughout. I could barely concentrate or think. I didn't take in the full results until the letter they sent out afterwards. It left me with questions to be honest as I just couldn't deal with it at the time. I really hope that the news is as good as it can be on the day and that you cope, will be thinking of you xxx

lavandes I've also thought the same, a parent shouldn't bury a child :( It's just not right is it? That poem is absolutely beautiful but so sad, and true. Think I will borrow for a facebook note. Some people just don't get it, they say don't listen to sad songs, or writings, etc but like that is going to make everything ok?! It's not as if it doesn't hurt anyway and if it helps to get things out then it's good I think. Keeping it all inside doesn't help. Thinking of you lots xx Lovely news, you have every right to be proud :) xx

Ilike wonderful news, congratulations xx

Shabba :( I can't imagine how hard it must be for you, I think you're an amazing woman, I hope tomorrow is an easier day for you xxx

Eggy :( I hope today was kind to you xx

It's been a hard night tonight, I don't know why, felt so many different things and I can't sleep. I just hate myelf for not being able to even hold my daughter, why couldn't I? I wish I had so much, I so nearly touched her, I remember that vivedly. Sounds awful but I was just scared that she'd be cold and that I would just break down. I almost reached out to hold her hand when the midwife was holding her but I didn't because I was scared. I feel so bad for not doing that. I carried her for 37 weeks inside me and then 4 days while she was dead :( I gave birth as well, at least it was fast. I'm sorry, don't want to make everyone else feel bad too. Just struggling a bit

janedoe25 · 30/04/2011 08:40

cheese you did what was right for you at the time but i understand the regrets as i have a few myself. You did touch Scarlett, you touched her heart. You held her inside you for all those months, she knew you love her she felt it and still can. And don't worry about making others feel bad because you won't. I hope today is gentle on you xx

janedoe25 · 30/04/2011 08:42

Lavandes that is fantastic news! A little Grandson, Uncle Richard will be so proud x

frasersmummy · 30/04/2011 09:42

right sorry girls.. its been a hectic few days.. I will get on this list today at some point

I like ... I thought I had posted my congratulations.. obv goty side tracked.. thats fab and well done on a natural birth Ross was less than half of that ...!!Grin

I will catch up later properly

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shabbapinkfrog · 30/04/2011 10:01

Morning girls xx

Lavendes Awwww a little boy - how wonderful. xxx

I also have to catch up on our thread Blush

frasersmummy · 30/04/2011 17:35

I have found a very old list and I know we are missing a LOT of dates.. please go onto the thread,and post your anniversaries, remember days and birthdays
[[http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/bereavement/1204213-tread-softly-for-your-tread-amongst-our-dreams remembering all our children]

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frasersmummy · 30/04/2011 17:36

I will try that again

remembering all our children

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