In memory of my beloved Fraser and all our children.Little buds sown on earth to bloom in heaven

[frasersmummy]

A new haven for us all to say exactly what is in our heart or on our minds knowing that everyone understands and wont judge

sassy I know what you mean about work this may sound horrible bu I think we are 'a five minute wonder' and then everyone else goes on to think about the next thing that has happened. I honestly think that is the case. The other day the girl who is planning her wedding for next year was moaning about her sister who is pregnant because she probably won't fit into her bridesmaid dress, she said she does not want the baby at the wedding as 'it' has ruined everything. I told her that the baby should be the most important thing not the wedding then I went home, it just made me think of all the lost little ones on here. She just said to another colleague ' I don't think Ann agreed with me'. I think your colleague is a shit. xx

Yes, I know - everyone has moved on. It's yesterday's news... and we're here feeling like crap.

I think my colleague is a shit too.

I also think your colleague is a shit too.

Sorry I haven't been around much. The sickness is constant at the moment so I nap when M does in the daytime and I've been busy in the evenings.

Welcome home Shabs. It sounds like you feel at peace

Welcome JJ, so sorry to hear about Jacob. Please keep posting if you find it helps.

Sorry to hear about your job PPM, what a shit situation. I hope something comes up for you soon.

How was work today Mini?

Evening ladies x

ILike - thank you, i totally believe this is just the next step on my journey and the push i need to make the change i want to iykwim x

Shabs - it sounds like your holiday has been a journey in more ways than one x

Hello and welcome JJ am sorry to hear about Jacob - I hope you find some support here.

I am viewing the work situation as a positive situation and have described it to others as a bump in the road. They have treated me shockingly since my return after gregor's death and caused me loads of stress. I cannot imagine looking back in six months or a years time and wishing i was still there to be honest. Bring it on I say! Have spent tonight applying for another job!

BBQ went well was a nice evening the weather was lovely. The only people there who we knew were great they didn't quiz us just asked if we were OK which we understood. We won't be afraid of being in their company again. I feel so relieved. Our friends whose BBQ it was are so special,the husband is undergoing treatment for myeloma (bone cancer), he is doing so well at the moment but it could recurr at any time but they have been such a support to us since Richard died, like phoning us on numerous occasions and saying 'come to us for dinner tonight, nothing special just come' we owe them so much I hope that we can repay them one day.At a time like this you learn who your real friends are xx

So true Lavandes so true - good friends are well worth treasuring. So sorry to hear about your friend - its weird that folks who have so much of their own personal trauma can be such a support - i've also found the same sort of stuff. Glad the bbq went well.

G'morning ladies.

Sorry for being awol, just trying to cope with life in general.

I hate this week. This year especially. Because for the first time, my boys birthdays will be on the actualy day they were born, a thursday. I can remember everything i did this week as if it were yesterday. I waddled round a car boot sale today with my mum and DH.

I know the anticipation of their birthday is worse then the day itself - i know that - but it's still hard.

Awww {{{{ Dee }}}} You have had such a difficult time. It must be hard to remember back - everyone who was there, except Boyo and you is gone.

Be kind to yourself this week - plan some fun things to do with the DCs if you can manage it, and try and find some time for yourself as well - know that can't be easy with 3 LOs...

Hiya girls. xx

Got the last of Toms uniform today - skint again!!

Lavendes - your friends sound wonderful. You certainly do find out who your true friends are xx

Oh girls dont let me go back onto the cycling helmets thread - I am arguing on an emotional level and everybody is quoting facts and figures. Think I could do with a couple of days off from Mumsnet

Oh Shabs - I've just read that thread. I cannot believe that poster was so clinical when you told her what happened to your precious son. And for what its worth I dont think its irrational for your son to think like that.

I thought I was just being paranoid - thanks for confirming what I was already thinking. xx

I wanted to put 'feck off' and other much more colourful words but decided to try to be slightly sarcastic and controlled!!

Keep lurking on there but wont post again x

Ohhh... just read it - the feckin feckers!!!

You alright, chuck?

Im ok Dee - it was just that I havent felt the boys around me for almost 3 weeks - before I got used to them sending little signs and Im 'missing' the signs now. I just wanted to say, on that thread, please try and encourage your children to wear helmets. It was the post that picked my message to bits that really got to me.

Ah well - another day another dollar I suppose!

Thank you Pixie for taking the time to come on our special thread. Like I said before I wasn't trying to 'win' an argument I was just trying to warn people. Both the police officer and the coroner said Matt would have survived had he had a cycling helmet on. I cant go back on the thread because I will loose my mind and start arguing - and that is of no use to anyone x

I cant see how a child can make a decision like that to be honest - no matter how intelligent they are. Ah well - I suppose we all have different ways of parenting.

I've just said near enough that, Shabbs. I expect to be thoroughly flamed though...

Oh and Pixie - i expected better of her too.

Shabs , i have read some of that thread and I completely agree with you , my dh is actually a bit lax about the helmet thing but because of you and your precious boy I am adamant that my boys will wear their helmetes whenever they get on a bike . I just don't understand why anyone would think it was worth the risk tbh .

No helmet no bike is my rule and thankfully my dh is now on my side with it .

How you doing ? It must be shite to be reading all that rubbish .

TW Im so glad that 'my' story and my Matt have made an impression on you so that you are keeping your precious children safe. Well done you xxxxx

I can't see how it could make me do anything else tbh xxxx

I hope you are ok xx

Shabs, well done for keeping your cool. Hope you're not seething too hard. It astounds me that on here people are so detached from other posters as human beings that they will come out with presumptious ignorant bullshit and present it as their wholesome and well meant take on things. Arses to them all.

What are you lot doing in here
Have grumped on the cycling thread....

I am really cross for you - and us...

Didn't think much of the OP either - people were good enough to share tragic experiences, and I thought her dismisal of perosnal experience as irrelevant was just plain bloody rude...

Hi TW - I think I met one of your mates last week at a TCF meeting - Caroline (Mathew's Mum)... she said you were lovely... surely that must be you..

Zeno Please, go and post that on the other thread - WHERE IT BLOODY WELL BELONGS...

Oh go on...

Ok, ok... you know I have my aggressive streak....