lisalisa
i statrted a thread on this earlier this year as nothing was working with my dd and her screaming, time out, into the utility timed 3 minutes, ignoring, toy removal (only worsened the screaming) and felt so guilty one night i slapped her, it ended and she came over all sorries and hugs 5mins later, the response was about half the size of this threwad and it got way out of proportion to my simple question that i bowed out of the discussion. and i think people have to remeber there are intelligent ways of parenting and if a smack happens and the child is ignored, gets no sotries, has haphazard parenting well thats a very sad situation for the child but in a caring "stable" home where love is expressed and respect asked for by the parent then i really dont see the "serious" wrong in a slap to end a scene that is tormenting everyone.
the one thing i dont like about it is that she would do it back to me or to her younger brother. but there i think of teenagers who swip out out at siblings, i did it myself to my sister, and it wasnt because we were slapped all the time, the opposite, it took alot to drive my mother to a slap, its a defenasive mechanism.
if you and i , sit down with our child and expalin boldness and temper and irtrational behaviour to them and help them understand then that can only help them develop, can it not?