He sounds like a dick and being difficult because of the marriage. If my DH hadn’t not engaged in choosing names then just googled some random ones after the baby was born just to disagree with mine, then my DCs would have been registered as soon as I left the hospital with or without him and my name choices would be registered.
Dose he even care about the baby, if their are marriage problems and he’s not engaged with the pregnancy and baby is it because he didn’t want a baby.
At this point I wouldn’t care about any repercussions it sounds like things are bad anyway so just go register your baby girl and not even tell him, see how long it is till he brings it up then say I’ve already done it. I’d then look at either marriage counselling or a divorce solicitor. But make sure you point out he never gave a shit about her name and refused point blank to compromise, he was the one allowing your baby to go without a name out of spite not you.
Do it before he dose, because I guarantee he won’t feel as guilty if he dose it first.
@Growlybear83 My DF did this with me, he was also drunk but I much prefer his choice over my mother’s choices. I think he was so excited, he never got to choose my older brothers name and he wasn’t registered on his birth certificate, my older db was essentially given my uncles ( mums brothers) full name out of spite by my grandparents. At the time my mother was a minor 17 not married so my grandparents had full control, my mother did agree with them though. So when it came to me df and his brother ( my favourite uncle) made sure my name was his choice and had a cultural significance my grandparents didn’t want. He did oblige with giving me 3 middle names on my mother’s list. I love this story as it was one of the few times in his life he stood up to my narcissistic mother.