Husbands insane boys names! Help!

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I have 3 weeks to go... When we found out it was a boy I knew I'd have the crazy name battles. Our DD has a V beautiful but V unusual Latin name. Trying to push his crazy names to middle names.
His boy suggestions are:
Aurelian
Hector
Titus
Lysander
Tiberius
Gaius
Uriel

My suggestions with his ideas have been either
Duncan (family name) and Titus as a middle name or Reuben (DH thinks too popular) and Uriel as a middle name. Thoughts?

That's the name of my best friends kiddo. I love the name Max though!

@Tessabelle74 this I was saying he doesn’t get to choose - thru choose together. Many women myself included at the end of their pregnancy when they are tired CAN find their husbands or partners ‘bully’ them into a name they don’t like.

I was saying choose TOGETHER but reminding the OP of this and saying he doesn’t get to steam roller the OP before a c section,

it is very easy for this to become emotive for anyone.

My friend had a baby and wanted Emily her MIL didn’t like it and announced on SM that her son and dil her son and dil had called their baby Tilly - they received lots of cards for Tilly and flowers etc and still there daughter is called by relatives Tilly rather than Emily.

my mother hated my sons name - tough luck - my name my choice, his dad and I agreed, son loves it. My mother tried calling him by a different name and he wouldn’t have it.

OP agree a name together and whatever you choose I’m sure his name will fit him! And more importantly have a quick recovery from your C section

I know a Gabriel known as Gabe and he loves his name!

I wouldn't be comfortable with a name relating to Dante's inferno.

Cornelius - nn Con
Ferdinand
Cadel. Welsh, means battle
Lorcan. Irish, fierce
Rainer. German, another warrior

Thank you for your kind messages.
With our daughters name it was my choice for her first name and his silly choice for her middle name which was fine but we both adore her first name!
It's such a struggle and we've not spoken about names for a while as we get infuriated. He keeps going on and on about Titus and I think it's a disgusting name. I hate Titus Andronicus, and Titus groan and the passage of Titus in the Bible.

Magnus

Loving the suggestions. I guess the funny thing is although my daughter and myself have names that are hardly ever used... Handful each year and that's it... When it comes to boys names I actually really don't like out there boys names and often find them tacky.
We live in Essex (North Essex thankfully, so the accent isn't quite as rife as the south of the country) however so many names just sound trashy and I hear lots of unique names when out and about.
I'm literally at the point of saying we are just going to call him Henry and be done with it. 🤣🤣🤣 We had a girl's name we had already agreed on, we are so blessed to be having a boy and one of each but I knew the name would be a massive issue!

Hector is totally cool. Eric Bana in Troy!

Lysander is awful, I think it would be very hard to live with.

I think the region you live in does influence what names sound passable and which sound too out there!

I like Celtic names for choices that are different without sounding too...unusual...and think they work in many areas around the UK. Have to say, though, as much as I love many of the names here (not Titus), I've always loved Henry!

Orlando
Rohan
Tyr
Xavier
Kingsley
Isambard

I LOVE Hector, Titus and Lysander! I know 2 baby Hectors and one Titus who must be about 3, never struck me as especially odd?

Tobias? Or maybe Ezekiel? You could shorten that to Zeke which sounds quite cool. Have you tied typing some of your ideas and his into the nameberry website and seeing what related names come up? Sometimes you can strike gold with suggestions you hadn't even thought of but which seem perfect or nearly perfect, then you click on those suggestions and then get more related names etc etc.

Neither of my kids' names are in the top anything. One of them in the year he was born was apparently one of less than 10 in the uk to be named that which really surprised me, it's unusual but it's a proper name. Suspect it's more popular now as a famous singer used it for his kid. So, yes, I'm comfortable with giving kids unusual names and neither of mine have been bullied but your husbands suggestions are....no they're too much even for me.

Ignatius nn Iggy is pretty cool! I think that's a bit of a go-er if your husband likes it too! Titus just reminds me too much of the awful events of the Shakespeare play, too much death and sorrow attached to it.

I can sympathise OP, my ex had some truly batshit ideas for names. He seemed to draw inspiration from Victorian naming fashions, when they used character traits rather than names and threw any old shit at the wall and named their babies that. And if he wasn't suggesting those he was going for things like 'Mortmorency' little Mort for short. Took me until I was overdue to persuade him to a name that didn't sound like he hated our baby, which he later admitted he loves.
He fucked off out of the marriage shortly before our second baby was due so happily I got to name that one whatever I wanted which was one silver lining I was happy to embrace at the time!

Reuben is a lovely name

All awful and trying too hard

Solomon nn Solly
Thaddeus nn Teddy
Sebastian
Conrad

@MissEnolaHolmes apologies, I misread your intent with your comment! I totally agree, it's a joint decision and you need to form a united front for the families, my Dad wasn't keen on my first son's name and tried to ridicule it but we shit him down very quickly

How about some Norse mythology instead - Thor?

Lysander is currently my favourite for my December baby!! I also love Leander but don't want the nn Lee. Other names on my list -

Jude
Caspian
Artemis
Balthazar
August
Atticus
Zachary
Theodore
Nicholas (Nico)
Montgomery
Cassius
Cedric
Rafferty
Evander
Fabian
Montague
Leonidas
Oberon

Cornelius might work? I know a teenaged one who is usually called Nelly. Reuben is a great name, likewise Gabriel, Cassius and Felix. Atticus, Magnus, August and Rufus are others I know that might fit the bill.

It’s not the only thing he wrote! He wrote Paradiso too and love poetry…

Exactly! Inferno is just a third of Dante’s Divine Comedy (with Purgatorio and Paradisio).

I love Ignatius nn Iggy

Why does he keep going on about Titus when you’ve said you hate it? You should really be telling him ‘look, Titus is off the table. It’s not even an option, I’m not willing to consider it.’

Is he planning on trying to just bully you into a horrible name you dislike?

Love Titus went to Uni with a guy named that , he was cool funny & caring.
Reuben is beautiful but becoming quite popular.
Lysander is great.
Duncan is so so nice .

"All men would love a crazy name" means "I wish I was cool and had a cool name but I am not so I will try and make people think I am cool by naming my son something crazy"

Your baby is a person in his own right and your husband needs reminding of the fact that just because he likes something, he shouldnt assume that his son will feel the same way.

Frankly he sounds like a teenager naming his new dog.....