<WAILS> she's unwittingly nicked my boy name!! <sob>

[UpTheFRIGGinDuff]

We had decided on Rufus Caspar.

It was perfect.

We knew no other child with the name,it creates the NN Ru which I adore (can't use rupert or Reuben either),it's not popular but not unknown,it has no terrible associations,it goes brilliantly with our other DC names,and it's cool dammit.

But now a sort-of-relative-family-friend has used it for her PFB,and it will look like we've copied and I know it's childish but I do care about that for some reason.

It's taken me months to settle on a name and now I have to start all over again

It's Not Fair!








HELP ME

[NaturalBaby]

I've got a Bram, you can 'have' his name .

[squoosh]

NaturalBaby I think Bram is my current favourite boy's name. 'Tis lovely!

[NaturalBaby]

His big brother takes the shine off slightly by telling everyone his name is Bim Bam.

[Leopoldina]

if you have an Arlo already, really he should be Woody Caspar...

[RalphtheTimid]

Ewart Caspar

[UpTheFRIGGinDuff]

Ralph that is so weird.

Ewart is the name of our terrace of houses. I'd never heard the name before then.

[Queen0fFlamingEverything]

I know a (teenage) Ruadhan - would that work?

[MerryMarigold]

Rudyard mentioned somewhere ^

I think it's waaaay better than Rufus. Just got so much gravitas AND style.

Do love Rudy too - shame about the cat!

[MerryMarigold]

PS. It will look like copying, and whenever anyone in the extended fam refers to your son, they will have to say, "Rufus, you know....Frigg's Rufus..."

[Floggingmolly]

It was not perfect. She's done your son you a favour.

[HavantGuard]

Euan/Ewan?
Ted?
Lucas?
Otis?

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

Good Lord, woman! Get a sturdy grip. This was the name you decided on. Unless you are going to entertain the idea of a different name and from this thread it doesn't sound like it you have to use it. End, as they say, of!

[UpTheFRIGGinDuff]

I'm 31 weeks pregnant.

I have no grip left.

[MerryMarigold]

Noel?

[WhatchaMaCalllit]

I don't know if there is background threads in relation to deciding a name but seriously - there will be other people in the world with the name that you give your child. Somewhere, out there, a child who will grow up to be an adult will have the same name as someone else.

Use the name you want to use.

So what if someone else used it. You use it too. Someone else will use it after you. Be happy with your choice & stand by it!

[ziggiestardust]

Just as an aside; our neighbour has a dog named Caspar, and when he shouts his name in an exasperated sort of way (frequent) it sounds an awful lot like 'cashback'.

You wouldn't like a son called cashback now, would you?

There, there.

[handcream]

Caspar is my PIL's dogs name....

Also, if you are like this over a NAME what are you going to be like when the baby arrives. I had a SIL who when we were expecting thought she'd 'reserve' a name so that we didnt use it! I felt like using it anyway.

Later on I found that this is actually quite common to tell close relatives even before you are pregnant not to use YOUR name....

[madeleinetheragdoll]

Bruno?

[BestIsWest]

I know a Ruhan. But I would go with your first choice. Two of my relatives used DS name after he was born and I don't think anyone thought they were copying me or even gave it a second thought.

[UpTheFRIGGinDuff]

I don't care if there are other kids called Rufus,of course I don't.

It's only because this one will be in close contact with many of my relatives and has been named before any one knew it was our chosen name,so it looks like we've nicked it.


And what on earth do you mean by Also, if you are like this over a NAME what are you going to be like when the baby arrives. ?!

BestisWest is your sons name quite often used or rarer? The problem here is that everyone was quite surprised by the name in question,as they hadn't heard it used in a long time,therefore two within two months would stand out I'm sure.

DP does not like Rudyard...nor do I think it goes particularly with the other DC names...which is unfortunate, as its pretty cool.

Gah! I think I'm going back to the drawing board again

[Inglori0us]

Use it anyway. Tell them now that you'd already picked it. If you're not that close to them it'll be fine.

[GirlsTimesThree]

I don't understand this at all. We named our DD3 and a couple of months later our friend had her DD3. She came to me and asked if I'd mind if she used the same name we'd chosen.
I was surprised she felt she had to ask and told her I had no problem at all, it was her baby, she could name her anything she wanted!
I felt it showed we both had good taste...

[UpTheFRIGGinDuff]

The thing is Girls if it was t'other way round,I'd feel exactly as you did...

[UpTheFRIGGinDuff]

THIS is why I wanted the baby names sorted before all the pregnancy hormones kicked in.

[fuzzle]

I second Raphael its great

Raphael Casper
Joshua Rufus
Oscar Rufus
Finn Rufus
Robert Casper (nn Roo)
Stephen Rufus
Owen Casper
Christopher Rufus
Samuel Rufus
Patrick Casper
Gabriel Rufus
Sebastien Rufus
Elijah Raphael