<WAILS> she's unwittingly nicked my boy name!! <sob>

[UpTheFRIGGinDuff]

We had decided on Rufus Caspar.

It was perfect.

We knew no other child with the name,it creates the NN Ru which I adore (can't use rupert or Reuben either),it's not popular but not unknown,it has no terrible associations,it goes brilliantly with our other DC names,and it's cool dammit.

But now a sort-of-relative-family-friend has used it for her PFB,and it will look like we've copied and I know it's childish but I do care about that for some reason.

It's taken me months to settle on a name and now I have to start all over again

It's Not Fair!








HELP ME

[UpTheFRIGGinDuff]

We used Rudy on the cat!

[Trills]

Just do it.

Use the name.

Your mutual friends will get over it.

[DitsyDonkey]

Rafferty

[noblegiraffe]

Indiana Jones was named after a dog!

Or you could rename the cat Rufus freeing up Rudy for the baby!

[FannyMcNally]

Rudi Caspar is better than Rufus Caspar, go for that!

[UpTheFRIGGinDuff]

Can't use Ru, it's one of DS's MN's

Don't like Ruari,too close to Rory.

Not fond of Cassius or cassias,prefer Caspar.

Never found a MN we loved enough to use Asa as a first.

Love Caspar as a MN,but not quite enough as a first...I don't think...love Rufus more anyhow.

[FannyMcNally]

Damn! Didn't see that was the cat's name

[RandomMess]

I prefer Rudi Caspar too, go for that.

[UpTheFRIGGinDuff]

Can't use Rupert, close cousins son is Rupert.

[RandomMess]

The cat won't mind!

[TheArticFunky]

What about Rafferty?

Ru sounds like a nickname for a female.

[FannyMcNally]

Two things against Rufus. One it rhymes with doofus and two William Rufus was one of our Bad Kings. So I'd ditch it gracefully if I was you

[UpTheFRIGGinDuff]

I can't rename the cat or use the cats name for the baby...
DD is on the spectrum and would find it very difficult to process that -basically we'd never live it down,she'd tell everyone we come Into contact with in the next 10 years that the baby was named after the cat

[HavantGuard]

Cut her off? It is a very good name.

[RandomMess]

Russell, rutherford?

[UpTheFRIGGinDuff]

I do like Rafferty....bit long with our double barrelled surname though...


We really, really aren't bothered about names sounding feminine Artic

[RandomMess]

Rudyard

[hashtagwhatever]

Rucahae?

[TheArticFunky]

Roscoe?

[UpTheFRIGGinDuff]

Very good idea Havant I'd have to cut off the entire extended family,and my own parents too...but it'd be worth it though,wouldn't it...

[kelda]

Raphael?

[TheArticFunky]

Red?

Definitely not my cup of tea but I have come across a couple.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

One thing - you might not find that Ru suits the baby as a nickname, once he's here. We have a Christopher , and I really wanted to use the old fashioned nickname Kit - but it just didn't suit him at all.

But if you like the name, use it and be happy.